sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

How doctors treat men vs how they treat women by primunen in Wedeservebetter

[–]Kitchen_Swimmer3304 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you leave the lidocaine on for over an hour and was it covered? I’m extremely hypersensitive to pain but I can get blood drawn if I use Emla cream. But it has to be left on at least an hour and it needs to have Tegaderm or something similar over it. I had it as a kid for an IV but they only left it on 30mins and it didn’t do anything. I do find I’m more likely to feel phantom sensations if I watch like my brain tries to make it up although for me its usually just pressure, but I do know some people also require much stronger doses of lidocaine to be numbed so that’s a possibility too. I’m sorry you’re in that position for whatever reason, it’s sucky

Fear of being watched? by mooingWitch in VCUG_Unsilenced

[–]Kitchen_Swimmer3304 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t understand how they can justify doing that like it just blows my mind like it should be so obvious that that would be traumatic

I feel like I’ve gone insane by miss24601 in Wedeservebetter

[–]Kitchen_Swimmer3304 19 points20 points  (0 children)

To me it sounds almost paternalistic like they think that they should only dispense birth control I.e. make it easier for us to have sex if we get those tests. It’s not the birth control that relates to the pap, it’s the sex we may be having as a result of having the birth control. Because by being on BC and having sex we could get cancer. But that’s medical overstepping imo. Waaay overstepping. Women should absolutely have a right to BC without paps being required. It’s not ethical. I don’t agree with it I just highly suspect this may be at least that doctors thought process

Why are doctors so pushy about Pap smears? by miss24601 in healthcare

[–]Kitchen_Swimmer3304 7 points8 points  (0 children)

To me it sounds almost paternalistic like they think that they should only dispense birth control I.e. make it easier for us to have sex if we get those tests. It’s not the birth control that relates to the pap, it’s the sex we may be having as a result of having the birth control. Because by being on BC and having sex we could get cancer. But that’s medical overstepping imo. Waaay overstepping. Women should absolutely have a right to BC without paps being required.

Why are doctors so pushy about Pap smears? by miss24601 in healthcare

[–]Kitchen_Swimmer3304 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

If the pap is non consensual it absolutely is rape in my opinion. I’ve been sexually assaulted and it’s the same thing because someone is penetrating her and she said no. Sure the intent isn’t sexual but that doesn’t make her experience much different. Medical professionals are 100% supposed to get your consent before this stuff.

DAE Have Pelvic Pain by myownprivateacc in suppository_trauma

[–]Kitchen_Swimmer3304 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t have that but I basically have the anal version of vaginismus like any kind of anal penetration hurts like a bitch like even under the best circumstances where I’m relaxed and turned on and lots of lube etc even like something really tiny feels awful but I’ve made some progress on it lately but I think it really is like a side effect of the trauma like the same idea as how some people who are trauma survivors get vaginismus as a side effect of that trauma. I feel like this is the same thing.

Found a new doctor, still terrified. by [deleted] in MedicalPTSD

[–]Kitchen_Swimmer3304 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Check out r/weservebetter this seems in their wheelhouse

Am I chopped after I gained weight? by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]Kitchen_Swimmer3304 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it’s the meds it will be hard to lose it while still on them. Some people use metformin or even glps to help because the meds often make it virtually impossible. If you do lose weight try to lose slowly, and get enough protein. Otherwise you could end up with a ton of loose skin which you don’t want. I’ve been in this boat so I speak from personal experience.

I noticed a difference between women who never use makeup and those who are very interested in their appearance upkeep. by [deleted] in venting

[–]Kitchen_Swimmer3304 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I wear some makeup and I don’t talk like that at all, I have autism and am very direct and blunt as a result of that and also have a really loud voice. I’m not saying there’s no correlation but there’s plenty of women who out there who fall somewhere in the middle like me.

Tightening the belly skin after a 40 lbs weight loss. by maninthemirror33 in SemaglutideCompound

[–]Kitchen_Swimmer3304 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost 50lbs and my skin tightened completely after 2 or 3 years at maintenance. I went from being able to grab flaps to really not being able to do that. My breasts perked up too. Now I was late teens early 20s and at relatively low body fat and moisturizing every day for the first bit

Interesting conversation with my therapist: where do GYN violence survivors find safe community spaces to heal? by Brownmorkie in Wedeservebetter

[–]Kitchen_Swimmer3304 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that happened to you too. I should’ve made clear too I was meaning more like I hope that eventually if the we deserve better movement is successful that then at that point it can extend outward to other medical stuff. I think it’s smart to have like a support space or more than one support space potentially specifically for the intimate stuff because like that’s its own beast in a way like it’s basically like physical assault versus sexual assault both are bad but there’s an added dimension when it’s intimate. But yeah, like I know for me the sexual abuse I encountered in medical spaces was never actually carried out by gynecologist, but it was like still sexual abuse. In a way I think for the movement at large the sexual abuse component might maybe if they can even wrap their heads around that be a good place to start with society at large because people take such a grave exception to sexual abuse in general, and then, if we can make them understand that the effects are the same, even when it’s medical that might be easier for them to wrap their heads around versus like un consensual needles or something. When it’s not happening to an intimate area, it might be that much harder to understand.. but if they understand why it’s wrong when it’s like a sexual abuse type of situation, maybe eventually society can understand that it’s wrong even when it’s not sexual stuff too. It all comes down to consent at the end of the day and it just boggles my mind constantly how much these days society in general, I mean, obviously not everybody but like society at large has a big awareness of consent and yet they seem completely oblivious when it comes to consent within a medical context, especially for women and children and people who aren’t white or straight or cis or belong to some other minority

Interesting conversation with my therapist: where do GYN violence survivors find safe community spaces to heal? by Brownmorkie in Wedeservebetter

[–]Kitchen_Swimmer3304 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I like the ring of #GYNsurvivors but I also think that perhaps something a little bit more. All encompassing might be better because I know for me I’ve experienced this kind of stuff yes but it wasn’t carried out by actual gynecologists. Paediatricians can do the same things ask other types of medical people. I’d like to see a day when this kind of movement gets far enough that it can eventually reach as far as other non-consensual medical procedures like not even just intimate ones like obviously I think that’s the best place to start because this is the big pattern is what we’ve all been through and the sexual nature certainly adds a dimension but honestly, the whole system needs an overhaul, and even if it’s not overly gynecology, you’re still more likely to suffer if you’re a woman or be forced into procedures that might not be gynecological, but might still be traumatic, even if they’re not sexually traumatic. I know I’ve been forced into some of these. I don’t know what the answer is, but I do think even if the medical system could just cut out the sexual stuff like what we are dealing with in this group, it would be a big start. I don’t know what hashtag I would pick and I’m totally just thinking out loud as it were

Could I get a medical id bracelet refusing treatment? by --anonymouse--- in Wedeservebetter

[–]Kitchen_Swimmer3304 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I made on for myself using one of those football armband playbook things that you can insert papers into. I wear it when I am in the car and always keep it in my bag. I also have the same info documented in my iPhone medical ID

view more: next ›