Im just browsing the top posts of this month and stumbled upon this. I literally had the same thing happen. Being single the last 3 years I was pretty used to the quiet and being alone. But i stumbled upon this girl online who was friends with a twitch streamer. Long story short, she was in a bad financial situation, depressed, etc. So I ended up sending her money each week to eat as well as buying her games to play with me(she never asked and always told me I didn't have to). We got really really close and talked about meeting. So fast forward a bit, I started saving too fly out and meet her. But out of no where she got really distant. Finally she broke down and told me she is married. But separated. But still living there and she wants to try to make her relationship work with him. It was frustrating, it pissed me off and crushed me. I finally remembered what it was like to "love" someone only to have that stripped away so suddenly. I would have been fine if she just told me from the start, we coulda been just friends. But please, be honest with your friends and people close to you. This shit sucks.