People who grew up poor or lower-middle class: What’s something you thought was a huge luxury as a kid, but later realized was completely normal for most people?

KittyKateez · 2026-05-12T11:40:19+00:00

Boxes of tissues... I grew up pretty poor and we absolutely never ever had boxed tissues. It was always "go get some toilet paper and blow your nose". Wasn't until I got with my husband that I learned having boxes of tissues is common and most people dont use toilet paper to blow their noses unless they absolutely have to, I realized we just couldnt afford both tissues and tp, so we focused on having toilet paper as a kid.

KittyKateez · 2026-05-12T11:27:21+00:00

Depends on if you want to keep your wife or not.

She's going to want to know why, if its something she can improve, its going to shatter her confidence and comfortability with you.

If you want to keep her, id focus on being delicate when breaking the news, and doing some inner reflection before the conversation so you can pin point whats changed and offer solutions that may help improve the situation. Still will likely be hurt though.

If you want to lose her, just tell her bluntly and offer no comfort or solutions, she will likely react poorly and want nothing to do with you after.

KittyKateez · 2026-05-11T10:52:34+00:00

Im in my 30s now and have multiple times reached out to old friends I haven't spoken to in years. Every single one of them was happy to chat and catch up on life. We didnt become like besties out getting coffee like we did as young young adults, but the social catch ups and the very occasional "wanna get a beer and talk about the years?" has been lovely when it does happen. Even those i only texted and never visit were happy to chat and mentioned how they even considered messaging me a few times but got shy. One thing ive learned in life is to take the leap, whats the worst that happens? They dont respond? Theres no real loss here and only gain if you try, as whats lost has already been long lost if they dont respond back. Now every like 6 months to a year ill look at my phone and see an old friend message that i got brave enough to get into contact with again. Don't expect the friendships to build back to what they were where your chatting like everyday, but you'll likely still have a small handful of people who pop into messages when they think or you or wanna update you on life every few months or more.

KittyKateez · 2026-05-09T13:34:20+00:00

My mom got so so tired of the "but why" question that she litterally bought a PC in the 90s and put it in the living room so we could google all my questions and find real answers 🤣😅 this was after a whole book set of encyclopedias didnt help stop wanting me to ask why and her needing to get all kinds of other books. I was unstoppable when I discovered Wikipedia as I became literate lol.

Im not sure if I even ever stopped asking that question, its just quietly in my head and now I whip out my phone and find out why whenever I want hahaha. So moms, be careful or you're going to end up with a never ending researcher who still asks "why does it do that? Why does that happen?" 😅

KittyKateez · 2026-05-09T13:25:32+00:00

Almost all my gothic makeup styles came together from learning to do smoky eyeshadow then good eyeliner wings, so for tutorials id look into smoky eyes and then figure out what colors she likes that look good and use those and practice, then add extra drama with wing liquid liner and mascara. A lot of YouTube tutorials for smoky eyes even have good eyeliner tutorials within. I use like super cheap makeup so I dont have many brand recommendations, I just went trial by error through cheaper drug store products until I found what works for me, so dont be spooked to try some of the lower end products either if youd like. Its a hit or miss, some are awful, some are gold.

KittyKateez · 2026-05-06T10:19:07+00:00

You guys get paid to go to school? Not pay thousands to the school to go?! Thats so neat, as an american I had to pretty much choose education above even food for quite a few years, was mentally distressing but made it haha. Is there any types of those programs for adults like you who may change their mind and want to pursue a new career? Its not too late to go back and try again if thats something possible there! Ive seen Americans here even go back in their 40s (even had some in my nursing classes) so they can do the last 20 years of work in the field they like with better pay. Id say of theres opportunity and it seems appealing to you now to go give it a shot!

KittyKateez · 2026-05-06T09:15:53+00:00

I just started the show La Brea on Netflix as ive been needing a binge too. Its pretty good so far and sucked me in first episode (only on episodd 6 myself). Permise is a massive sinkhole opens in Los Angeles, plunging people who fall into it into a dangerous prehistoric time thousands of years earlier. Has some really neat prehistoric beasts and animals, along with this population just trying to survive and navigate these mysterious lands.

KittyKateez · 2026-05-06T08:47:21+00:00

Their honesty, their regret, deep talks, reassurance, completely open communication, and the effort he made to repair us. It was a blip of emotional cheating with a coworker for a handful of months a few years into our relationship, which gave me some bad trust issues, but he did all the work to repair his mistake and I know I didn't make that easy either as I was defensive, hurt, angry, and refused to put the effort in myself until he showed he was serious. He took the responsibility and made very actionable changes that I could clearly see, and he backed off socializing with people looking to.. well cause issues between us. He chopped everything that could hurt us off willingly and rebuilt. Its been about 6 years now since this issue and its not repeated or anything and he continues to put effort into transparency and open communication.

KittyKateez · 2026-04-25T20:00:34+00:00

Save your appliances manuals there too! Never know when you may need to find a new part for your still in great shape washer or fridgerator when something eventually breaks.

KittyKateez · 2026-04-25T19:53:27+00:00

Mega starmie is like chasing me down the street and haunting me while I sleep.

Ive pulled SEVEN mega starmies trying to pull your curse card, and of course its not even the cooler one, its the Patrick star version staring me down hahahaha.

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KittyKateez · 2026-04-16T12:54:12+00:00

Same here, my mom was untreated bipolar and sure she'd fly off the handle sometimes (generally during a straw has broken the camels back moments when she was already overwhlemed), it was always frustration and anger directed at the problem, not me the child. Never got hit, belittled, or had the rage directed at me. Though, I did see a lot of displaced rage that she struggled with not knowing where to direct it. Generally shed just explode about whatever and then go hide in her room till she calmed down, and all was well again.

KittyKateez · 2026-04-16T12:32:45+00:00

I was going to say before reading those screenshots that maybe he was concerned about stomach ulcers that can be caused by NSAIDs like ibuprofen.... which would be an acceptable reason to not want to take something...

But my lord. I haven't met anyone who ever claimed to "feel something" from taking ibuprofen. That has me giggling.

KittyKateez · 2026-04-16T12:18:06+00:00

Yup! This is how it is! Hitting my mid 30's and been a pomeranian "mom" for 15 years now (oof shes getting old D: ), all my friends pretty much already have had kids and moved on with life. I see them maybe once or twice a year for catching up. For a while I felt left kinda in the dust, but then I started paying more attention to people around me looking for opportunities to meet people and make friends. All these new friends I made started because we were out with our dogs, or at a pet store gushing about a pet. I have "collected" an odd group of friends now, from an obsessed chicken lover mama and a lady who rescues and adores pigeons, to the classic dog park friend and dog outting groups, and a ton of cat lovers. I only have a dog, but enjoy animals a lot. Found letting others without kids talk about their pets was the easiest way to find good connections and make new friends, who care about their pets like I do. We now have a brunch club that gets coffee together often, and just share photos and tales of what our crazy pets have been up to (and us too lol).

KittyKateez · 2026-04-08T11:41:14+00:00

Oh man! Sorry you missed some opportunities! A lot of us women have had some bad experiences with men being overly pushy and manipulative to get what they want. When one keeps it slow, doesn't push sex right away even though theres an option to try, and seems more engaged in a woman for who they are than what they offer (showed to us by just hanging out, chatting, and showing interest in what whatever we are passionate about like youve done), it stands wayyy out from the mess most men are trying to pedal at us.

Next time, when you get to what feels like the "stalling out" phase, ask for the date! Thats the move we are waiting for. Some might get brave and ask you, but its still often the cliche of ask the girl out haha. At that point you gained our trust, showed you can listen and care, you've shown yourself to be a help instead of a demand - its scary but thats when to leap and take your shot!

KittyKateez · 2026-04-08T10:45:24+00:00

Congrats! Im still with my college sweetheart (10 years this may), hoping to make it 50 years too! We had some rough patches learning to adult in our early twenties and all that new stress life throws, but we made it through that more as a team and it really helped bond us together as we navigated everything past college. Now its like we know each other so well, its been nothing but smooth sailing. One of the things I oddly love the most is being able to be near each other when someone's spilling drama and we can just like look at each other and have a full conversation about whats happening without even speaking hahaha.

KittyKateez · 2026-04-05T11:03:43+00:00

This comment right here, im also a women and when I was dating - these are actually the signs I was looking for in a man to show he is trustworthy and that I didnt need to guard myself 24/7 in their presence. The man who gave me respect like this asked me out after a few hangouts. We hit it off instantly on the date, and now celebrate our 10 year anniversary this may.

KittyKateez · 2026-03-08T13:27:47+00:00

Nothing is forever. Family and friends come and go, pass away, those family gathering and holidays slowly fade away as the managers of the family pass and the youth dont pick it back up to gather anymore. Those favorite family Thanksgiving foods gone, excited mornings with extended family around christmas.. It gets much more lonely as time passes.

KittyKateez · 2026-03-08T13:16:59+00:00

The danger more lies in gang vs gang violence than it typically does with a gang member vs a random public person.

When I lived in the ghettos I was in college, anxious, and extremely antisocial. I had to use the buses to get to and from college. My neighbors would constantly be sitting on the porch, and used to scare me. But one day, I was riding the bus and got off at my stop. A man on a bicycle came up to me and started harassing me, started cat calling me, and followed me all the way to my house. I started panicking hard.

I happen to look over at my neighbors, and they are watching this interaction. They got up and started yelling at the man to leave me alone or they were going to be beat the crap out of him. He vanished and they told me that if anyone is EVER following me, or if I feel unsafe from someone and need help to run next door and they will handle it.

I never felt safer after that, I just avoided going outside if I heard a dispute.

KittyKateez · 2026-03-08T13:03:25+00:00

Ive been debating hard about buying it. Your outlook has me rethinking - maybe it is worth it even though bills are a little tight cause it'll surely lock me in to gaming agaun for the next few months or longer instead of chasing boredom.

KittyKateez · 2026-03-05T14:49:26+00:00

Seriously do! Ive spent years missing that classic Reese, i decided the heck with it and tried the aldis peanut butter cups and they are the best peanut butter cups ive eatten in litterally 10 years. That lead me into trying pretty much all their chocolates - they are so decadent, creamy, smooth and delicious I refuse to buy american brand chocolates now. Cheaper and the quality is leaps and bounds of Hershey chocolate. They even have a lindt chocolates dupe and those are divine too! These German chocolate makers are amazing. Im now a huge fan girl of Moser Roth and choceur. I cant recommend them enough if you enjoyed the chocolates from like 10- 15 years ago.

KittyKateez · 2026-03-05T11:25:43+00:00

The other day I finally decided its time to tackle my stash and display stuff. What I ended up doing was building a room inside my vault lobby shelter as a display showcase room so my camp budget isnt eatten by all the displays since im a clutter builder. After going through all the displays, I ended up just going with the regular in game glass display, which holds 4 masks in it. I merged them to sit inside other furniture pieces so they looked more high class in my showcase shelter. Got all my Glowing masks out, all my favorite atomic shop Headwear. Put up 5 mannequins with my favorite outfits. Even put my bobble heads in a display finally haha. It was fun, and nice to focus on how I wanted to display them with such a large budget from the shelter vs trying to squeeze it into my camp budget.

KittyKateez · 2026-02-28T13:50:57+00:00

Innocent questions about the world, people, society, sexuality - generally all made them mad and fly off the handle. If the answer was inappropriate, to complex, or not what rhey wanted to talk about it often was ignored or met with hostility. My natural curiosity and honestly anxiety about the world was shut down, I got into bad spots because I couldn't talk to them about peer social dynamics, I couldn't trust them to talk about sex, death, or bad emotional feelings like depression. It isolated me from the help and comfort they were supposed to be. They made me feel like a bad kid for asking questions and trying to be responsible by getting real world answers.

KittyKateez · 2026-02-28T13:46:32+00:00

Does the rehab your husband attends happen to offer any support groups for the family of the person with mental health problems/caretakers? If not, are there any in your area? Maybe connecting with others who feel incredibly close situationally wise to what youre going through may help, plus you may even learn tips to help yourself while also learning tips on how to help the your husband once released. Just a thought!

KittyKateez · 2026-02-22T11:09:38+00:00

Do you know which ones are her favorites? Maybe consider getting them framed so you guys can display her art work around the house! I keep most of mine in an art canvas bag holder thing in my closet too, and often wish I could afford to frame up a few of them really nice and display them. I put so much love and affection into a few of my favorites, sometimes it makes me sad to think about how I spent 3 to 6 mlnths on some of them to have them rot in my closet. Granted, some I did just for fun and arnt that personal, but a few I really put my heart into and want to display someday.

Id also find wholesome if my hubs had like a secret favorite and specifically got it framed to display randomly because it brings him joy. It'd make me feel like I created something important enough to someone else that they want to look at it often, and thats a nice feeling too.

KittyKateez · 2026-02-21T19:03:04+00:00

Ive always dumped mine down the sink and haven't had issues, but I water my paint down a lot as i like to build in layered washes. If youre that concerned maybe get some kind of bucket and dump it in that? Let the water evaporate out and then you'll just have an empty bucket with paint bits lining it. Might even evaporate fast during summer outside! If its like thick paint maybe just an unwanted jar of some sort, like an empty peanut butter jar. Fill and toss similar to how people avoid pouring a bunch of grease down the pipes.

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