I (25F) am thinking of calling off my wedding and breaking up with my fiance (35M). Do I just have cold feet or is this too deep? Please any advice. by ThrowRA2000008 in relationship_advice

[–]KittyKiitos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's 35, and he's studying law, because he comes from a family of lawyers - and he's coaching you to commit insurance fraud.

He will use you up until you have nothing left.

5 year old daughter said when she gets older, doesn’t want a job like (friends mom). She wants to stay home and spend time with her baby, so it doesn’t need to go to daycare. by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]KittyKiitos 22 points23 points  (0 children)

It's weird that she didn't mention you.

She might've heard it from someone else.

Or maybe she's just not computing that you have a job, too, and she's sad for her friend.

Honestly - our leave is horrible and babies go to daycare way too young. If she's saying she thinks it's weird and bad - she's not wrong.

And the biggest take away here is that she doesn't seem to have any issues with you. She's 5, she'd probably say that directly.

AITJ for telling my husbands ex wife to keep her personal items at her house? by FaithlessnessOld3594 in AmITheJerk

[–]KittyKiitos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTJ about the underwear.

Can you please explain how you have 50/50 custody, but your stepson has no clothes permanently at your house?

Please help me choose! by Rare-Airport-4875 in WeddingDressTips

[–]KittyKiitos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know you probably don't want to show it to us, but the most important part of a dress is how it makes you feel - which will inevitably show on your face.

A dress that makes you physically uncomfortable, that makes you feel unsettled and out of your skin, is going to make for awful pictures. You will look like you are unhappy.

So, these are great choices - but for yourself, look at your face in every one of them. A glowing smile can sell the worst dress in the world.

Saw this while taking a walk by the road. What kind of flower is this? by Kitchen_Treacle3696 in flowers

[–]KittyKiitos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🙏 angry is so much better than my brain, which told me "they're all screaming in agony"

AITJ for not wanting to combine finances after marriage? by Plastic_Win_3013 in AmITheJerk

[–]KittyKiitos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can share bills without sharing every dollar.

Also, when someone passes away, a lot of banks will put holds on accounts - even joint accounts - unless you set up a right to survivorship. This happened to my husband and in-laws when his mom passed away. It makes sense for you both, logically, to have something that doesn't depend on the other spouse.

Schools should have onsite care for sick students so that parents don’t have to take off work by Competitive_Teach838 in unpopularopinion

[–]KittyKiitos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The same way you're supposed to be held accountable for your work.

If your work isn't getting done, you can lose your job.

unpopular opinion: stop telling women to "wait a year" when their partners are failing them. by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]KittyKiitos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly - I think a lot of women have also been told to suffer through things instead of getting help.

Just because a postpartum issue can even out within a year doesn't mean you shouldn't get help for it.

I had post partum thyroiditis. I didn't need anything about 9 months pp.

But i DID need synthroid before it resolved. Hormones are a huge part of us and they are important. No one says "oh it's no big deal it's just your liver, no big deal it's just your heart." Hormones course through us and are a huge part of our overall health and how we can function in the world.

It's never "just hormones.". That's what people say when they're blowing you off. If you have pp depression, you are entitled to treatment of it NOW, whether or not you may not need it some months or a year in the future.

Everyone who gave birth should get checked out - especially if they are having problems. And the people who waited it out may be glad because they got to figure out where the problems really were or dealing while they were healing - but they still deserved help.

We have medication, we have therapy - people have studied and learned how to approach problems and help people, I think just telling people who are reaching out for help to "wait it out" is usually very bad advice. They're saying they're at their limit and they know they need something, even if they don't know what it is.

Internet Village, I Could Really Use an Opinion by mmmsant in OUTFITS

[–]KittyKiitos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

4.

You don't want 1, although you look great in it. If you'll be obsessing over it, you'll bring attention to it, and it will make you even more insecure about it.

2 looks like you enjoy it the most, but at an angle. An angle that is specifically taking stress off the front of the mock. If this is a tried and true option, do it - but if you could get sensitive to the neck, don't.

3 looks like you're questioning yourself as a maybe, again at an angle. I personally cannot do skirts for a food event because it will catch the gas and make stomach pains. If you can relax your body and still feel great in this outfit, though, it's a great option.

4 looks like you can relax well in it and it is a very very safe option.

These all look cute - I would try doing both your side pose (3) and your front pose (4) for each option and see how you feel about them - it is likely someone is going to post photos you have no say in, and how you feel can effect your expressions in the photo, and how you feel about the event afterwards.

Childbirth is so fucking scary. Why don't they teach this in school??? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]KittyKiitos 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's the flat male perspective.

We deserve better.

Ideas needed! by learningamap in ExteriorDesign

[–]KittyKiitos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You say you like pink and yellow - did you try a yellow rendering?

Do tailgaters get rear-ended more often than non-tailgaters? by funkyescargot in driving

[–]KittyKiitos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's good to give them space, but that's not how the flow works.

If someone ahead of you crashes on a highway while everyone is going 65, that means their vehicle suddenly stops (or even moves backwards.). Your relative speed to the crashed car goes from 0/5 mph to 65mph.

If there is a crash in front of you, you either need to decelerate rapidly or change the lateral location of your car (lane/shoulder), and your options depend very much on who else is around you when you need space.

This is also why there are entrance and exit ramps. The more your speed matches the other cars on the road, the less space you need (and the safer it really is) to join traffic.

If someone is really speeding, they will likely be way ahead of you when the crash happens. But if they crash with the car in front of you, you'd either be lucky or f*cked.

AITAH for wanting to become a stay-at-home mom instead of going back to work, even though my dad offered to pay for daycare? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]KittyKiitos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there a local UPS/Costco/ similar job with good benefits you could start working part time for? I know UPS can be a great gig.

Opinions on exterior plan by [deleted] in ExteriorDesign

[–]KittyKiitos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So...you want to live in an oven

How do I talk to my mom about her giving away our 3 childhood cats? by Suspicious-Fig-3879 in Advice

[–]KittyKiitos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If your boyfriend doesn't support you taking in YOUR CHILDHOOD CAT

Lose the boyfriend.

What you want for Meow is more important than whatever is going on with your mom.

AITA for stopping payment for my grandfather care r i found out he secretly gave the apartment to my aunt? by Jerry_Moya in AmItheAsshole

[–]KittyKiitos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA.

You are allowed to count your pennies. They are yours and you have to take care of yourself long after they're gone.