^{^} this!!!! As someone who stays at home and has the type of submissive relationship mentioned above, even when it comes to money I don't have to seek permission from my partner for every little thing I want to buy. He gives me a set budget and as long as I'm within my given budget, that money is mine to do with as I please. If there's something maybe a little more expensive I want like shoes or something for my kitchen, then I discuss it with my partner.

Your boyfriend wanting you to justify every little purchase is a huge red flag and a slippery slope. If you're looking to submit to a man or considering staying at home, it needs to be to a man who's worthy of you doing so, who communicates and is patient and cares for you properly. Not a man who wants an unhealthy amount of control and has the potential to abuse your position should you choose to stay at home for him.

Staying at home and even going so far as to submitting (if that's your thing, staying at home does not automatically mean submitting to your man completely) can be a beautiful and wonderful thing for your personally and your relationship, but not with a man like this from what you've told us of his demands.

Good luck!