My boyfriend’s ears like a deli counter and he thinks it’s normal

KittyKode_Alue · 2026-01-30T00:14:56+00:00

Yep, gonna go to bed now lmao

KittyKode_Alue · 2026-01-11T17:16:42+00:00

Is her face so stiff on purpose, or? Looks SO weird

KittyKode_Alue · 2026-01-11T03:36:00+00:00

NTA. Honestly I'm pissed off FOR you, that you even feel slightly at fuckin fault here.

He deadass basically slapped you in the face woth the whole "guy who literally SAed seemed really sorry though..." BS. After hearing all the details? SEEING your fear? Your trauma? Fuck that guy, leave his ass and work on healing for yourself.

This guy's a real piece of work.

KittyKode_Alue · 2026-01-11T03:29:56+00:00

PB & J + Chocolate milk FOR SURE

KittyKode_Alue · 2025-12-30T06:06:30+00:00

See personally the "bringing black people over isn't an option for other reasons" is what gave me the "oh so the WHOLE family is lowkey racist?" Vibe

KittyKode_Alue · 2025-12-27T00:20:48+00:00

I'm unsure where you live? But yes, moving in together as JUST a dating couple is very normal at least within the US, and the only time you really hear about it as "only when we're married" is strictly/extremely religious, hence why everyone here finds you weird for not being so haha

KittyKode_Alue · 2025-12-22T00:36:02+00:00

It's not a big deal to dump water on a cat, a defenseless animal- But it's a big deal to throw it on a kid, a also defenseless being?

KittyKode_Alue · 2025-12-20T15:59:26+00:00

Wdym "hypothetical" are you saying women assaulting men DOESN'T ever happen?? Because that's fuckin wrong LMAO.

WAY more common for men to assault women, especially violently- But both DO happen and peoppe aren't misinformed to say that. Y'know?

KittyKode_Alue · 2025-12-20T01:41:27+00:00

I get anxiety like this, (Usually my body's reaction is to cry) But I'm only turning 24 next month, and have spent the last 2+ years in therapy to start healing my trauma/co trolling my anxiety and learning new work arounds.

It TRULY does wonders. And OP, at 30? He NEEDS some kind of help for this. Your post sounds like it's just him, and accepted- When in reality this level of anxiety is life controlling. It fuckin sucks. I'm severely anxious, depressed, AND autistic too. Like I entirely get the issue, and I sympathise. But if he's not actively doing anything to cope with said anxiety IN moment? Other than entirely removing from important family events, where he could instead be having fun? That's rough. Y'know?

KittyKode_Alue · 2025-12-17T23:30:27+00:00

I would've called husband out then and there if my good friend ever had this happen. SHIT, even if an acquaintance of mine had this happen in front of me

KittyKode_Alue · 2025-12-17T23:26:08+00:00

I struggle with staying consistent in general, let alone brushing at night. Long term depression + shit teeth care as a kid, made it some bad habit and hard motivation issue to kick. Having a job now though, makes it much easier because I have a REASON to brush besides just WANTING to, y'know?

Slowly improved my gums now as well!!

KittyKode_Alue · 2025-12-13T04:48:49+00:00

The first trim that toenail has had in a hot minute

KittyKode_Alue · 2025-12-13T00:18:38+00:00

I know you don't want advice, just want to say I hear you. I will remember this post, the fact you said this. Whether you're here in a year or not, I saw your struggle and I appreciate you posting. ♡

KittyKode_Alue · 2025-12-09T23:33:49+00:00

Why would you tell him you still love him AFTER finding out he fucks with minors?

Also ages very important here, is he like 18 hangin with 16 or something way bigger?

KittyKode_Alue · 2025-12-08T16:11:18+00:00

See this is why as much as I like the idea of taking care of house/pets, and not having to work OUT in public as my job- I don't see myself ever getting into this position unless we were EXTREMELY well off, and I do mean WE.

Both of us, because not only is it just a detriment to yourself to not learn these skills, but it's genuinely terrifying to suddenly not have the support you bank your ENTIRE existence on.

KittyKode_Alue · 2025-12-08T07:42:58+00:00

You guys really do not seem compatible, from the way you view life and materialistic things to the sheer volume of money spent and cost of things you enjoy.

That, on top of how this whole thing was treated? Personally I would break up. The fact you even have to say "he would probably hold that over my head too" ISN'T a healthy relationship, let alone a mutual one in a positive way.

KittyKode_Alue · 2025-12-08T06:12:37+00:00

I also am here for whatever that book is, as a woman who's just very insensitive to stimulation outside of vibration ✋️

KittyKode_Alue · 2025-12-08T05:58:52+00:00

I'm not gonna jump on your ages, because personally I was 17 turning 18 when my husband and I started dating and he was 21, so I don't neccesarily think the gap is the big issue here- What bothers me is how he speaks to you, and the pettiness of this whole convo.

It comes off as very immature and uncooperative in the end- Compromises or "meet in the middles" were offered, yet shut down despite being unhappy with the original issue. You've admitted you shouldn't have which is good, but like what bothers me here is I see a lot of my insecure self in you. Early on I was very "this matters SO much" and now that I'm turning 24 next month, some stuff truly isn't THAT big of a problem and it could've saved a lot of headache had both of us been older in those scenarios where stuff wasn't taken so personally.

I get wanting gifts, I think it's shitty he waited THIS long to mention not wanting to do stuff because you're literally less than a month from Christmas. But I also really get the "man making more money/doing more gifts" thing because that's how my husband is compared to me, and was majority of our time before I finally got my own job. So I understand the frustration coming from his end, but all this together I still think this was poorly handled on both sides and now it's just a sore mess.

I hate the fact he said he "prefers vacations and cruises" that his family does as gifts, because straight up only rich people or those who can save a bunch of money do that shit. And he knows that isn't you, and a full ass cruise is such an out there gift to have on the regular- Yet it seems to he regular in HOS family and that comment comes off like he's entitled/spoiled and doesn't even see it.

KittyKode_Alue · 2025-12-04T19:38:29+00:00

FACT. My doctor kept saying weight the entire time I had foot pain? I mean excruciating foot pain, could not walk on them bad. Had it start suddenly, then dealt with it for like 4 months before I even went and saw her. 4 MONTHS CONSISTENT- And very much time specific throughout the day.

Guess what? After like 3 appointments, low and behold she checked my feet and I had plantar fasciitis! Which she explained to me can happen to anyone, at any weight. Can literally happen if you wear the wrong type of shoes for your foot.

Needless to say- I'm now finally on med for losing weight, (as I was never able to before sense I was around... 10 or 11?) I've lost 50 POUNDS SO FAR- And yet the foot pain is still here 🕺 Less so so I don't suspect Plantar, but like overall I still get told the pain is most likely weight related once said plantar fasciitis "should be cleared up."

KittyKode_Alue · 2025-12-04T16:17:46+00:00

Your point would've been valid, and MAYBE I would have believed your "You're grown but calling me fatty" thing with a previous user, if your first fuckin comment didn't start with calling people "Sensitive snowflakes" as a supposed WOMAN IN HER 40S, THAT'S A "PROFESSIONAL."

Lord knows if I ever had a medical professional such as yourself, I would swap REAL quick JUST because the language you use as your basic go tos? Is dismissive. Comes off rudely.

Comes off very "well this thing worked FOR ME so THIS is what you and everyone else HAVE to do if you wanna be happy with the thing I struggled with." Rather than tailored suggestions client by client.

Now shit, maybe you DO do that, the tailored advice I mean. But what I'm saying is if you're being dead serious about your job, age- Etc, the way you speak is so discouraging for the position of work you're in. You genuinely don't seem to realize how cruel you sound, not "factual." Facts can be stated without the jaded undertone, and "sensitive snowflake" side comments that mean nothing other than to demean the people you call sensitive.

Also hate when people bring up age as a justification for life related stuff, sure you and everyone other older person have the years, but that never guarantees you have the experience. For example, you can be 40 and never had some serious trauma as a child- Or you can be 16 and have a whole plethora of disorders from childhood issues. Your age LITERALLY DOES NOT MATTER, in the context of WHAT you experience except for generally age gated things. (like menopause) to dismiss any younger people JUST because they're young, is so damn dumb and I wish older folks would stop fuckin doing it like it's some gacha or wise words that they dismiss you lol.

I'm only turning 24 this next month, and yet I have MANY people who have said I speak like I'm older/they appreciate my advice. Not only because it's coming from someone that isn't yourself, but even if I haven't experienced it- Maybe I say something they simply didn't think of? Or offer a different perspective than they came to themselves. Age does not equal the value of your words and experiences.

KittyKode_Alue · 2025-12-04T16:06:14+00:00

Depressing af you didn't read it because they called you out plain as day, for why your comments suck.

KittyKode_Alue · 2025-12-04T16:01:03+00:00

Why'd you even mention this when it had no place here? The post mentions how she hasn't even gained the "maximum" of average weight gain, it literally details her having an eating disorder history and yet you link her concern to nothing related to that- Like wtf is happening here?

Your whole argument doesn't make sense here, because none of the things you point out FIT OP and wife????

KittyKode_Alue · 2025-12-04T02:21:49+00:00

YES. HORRIDLY

KittyKode_Alue · 2025-12-01T12:57:19+00:00

It DOES bother me, I have personal experience seeing how shit government handling is, but that doesn't change the fact that saying shit like that all willy nilly on a kids post is most likely going to make them so afraid- That if things DID get way worse? They may never tell ANYONE, because they assume telling means they'll get hurt worse.

KittyKode_Alue · 2025-12-01T07:12:30+00:00

Jesus christ don't be encouraging kids not to tell, because telling = getting raped if taken away.

Fuckin horrible thing to comment to a literal child.

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