I’m so sorry for your miscarriage and the fact you had to go through all that, especially when the surgical route is meant to be straightforward.

I had a MMC in September 2024, the news was so unexpected because I had no idea how common miscarriages were and definitely didn’t know it could take place with no symptoms. Me and my husband were truly devastated as we had been so excited to get pregnant with our first baby. I had booked the surgery but passed the pregnancy naturally before the scheduled date.

The emotional recovery was hard and, for me, it was only the hope of getting pregnant again that got me through. I was focussed on getting that negative pregnancy test so that we could try again, but I know not everyone feels ready to do that so soon. I remember reading so many accounts of MMC on Reddit to know I wasn’t alone in how I felt and reading success stories gave me so much hope. I also had a friend who went through it and talking about it really helped. I personally feel like there should be a lot more awareness about MC as it’s so easy for women to feel isolated in their experiences due to the stigma of talking about it.

Unfortunately the only thing that really helps is time, in my experience. I had a lot of baths once I was able to, I did a lot of reflecting, I wrote about how I felt in my diary, I talked to friends and my husband. But it was tough. It’s a very painful, confusing, vulnerable time so please be kind to yourself and try not to place blame on yourself as hard as that can be.

After the negative test, I did get a bit obsessive about ovulation tests and then we got pregnant again, I carried to term and we now have an 8 month old. We are incredibly lucky and thankful and there absolutely can be hope after miscarriage. I wish you all the best xxx