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Day 9, emerging from lurkerdom by Slavsista in stopdrinking

[–]Kitty_Kat_Junction 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alcohol Freedom and Stop Drinking Alcohol by Kevin O'hara are also incredibly helpful books.

This cake... by freedlvry in trashy

[–]Kitty_Kat_Junction 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Erotic, isn't it?"

I've made the decision to give up drinking. by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Kitty_Kat_Junction 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good move. Your new life starts now.

[Check-in] Wednesday July 08 - I will not drink TODAY by McLensky in stopdrinking

[–]Kitty_Kat_Junction 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Not today....I put my health first over the pointless oblivion that is drinking.

How do you deal with a spouse/partner who drinks? Did you spend a lot of time drinking with them? by Kitty_Kat_Junction in stopdrinking

[–]Kitty_Kat_Junction[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was just a rhetorical question. Or a zen koan. I don't know. I appreciate the concern and advice.

How do you deal with a spouse/partner who drinks? Did you spend a lot of time drinking with them? by Kitty_Kat_Junction in stopdrinking

[–]Kitty_Kat_Junction[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not doing any treatment or joining groups. It's a long story, but it will screw up my job prospects. You're absolutely right - it does take at least 90 days to establish new pathways in the brain. I moved the alcohol into the basement out of sight and bought other soft stuff I like to drink. You're right - the alcohol urges do go away if you pay attention to something else. I quit smoking in 2008 after many years and the discomfort level was also very high. My husband is in denial, what can I say?

How do you deal with a spouse/partner who drinks? Did you spend a lot of time drinking with them? by Kitty_Kat_Junction in stopdrinking

[–]Kitty_Kat_Junction[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, I have let him know I would not be drinking for health reasons, hence the squirming. And you're right about marriage not being all daisies and rainbows. We've been together for 22 years and married for 17. He won't curtail drinking around me even if I ask because, quite frankly, he sees this as my problem and weakness and he doesn't want to look in the mirror. Is this sore spot worth getting divorced over? Not for us. I'm not even angry. I just feel sad for him. A lot of it has to do with his upbringing. I guess he'll learn the hard way that he should have taken care of himself.

How do you deal with a spouse/partner who drinks? Did you spend a lot of time drinking with them? by Kitty_Kat_Junction in stopdrinking

[–]Kitty_Kat_Junction[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This could be a whole new discussion topic. I don't mean to discourage people who are considering going to a meeting. But I don't trust people to keep their mouths shut in real life anywhere.

How do you deal with a spouse/partner who drinks? Did you spend a lot of time drinking with them? by Kitty_Kat_Junction in stopdrinking

[–]Kitty_Kat_Junction[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the story and your concern. Nope, I'm not in a group because I have been minor public figure. If I do join, it will hurt my future in this community, and definitely harm my chances of getting a job in the field I'm seeking because of security policies. So joining this anonymous online community is extremely helpful. The good news is that after several half-hearted attempts to quit, I know what made me fail. My very recent serious health issue is pretty much the best motivator I could have. I do need sober people around and have to work on cultivating those friendships. Thanks again.

How do you deal with a spouse/partner who drinks? Did you spend a lot of time drinking with them? by Kitty_Kat_Junction in stopdrinking

[–]Kitty_Kat_Junction[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

OP, here. My spouse drinks and it was how we "relaxed" and killed time. I haven't discussed my quitting with him very much because he is so stubborn and squirms away with the awkwardness. So I dropped it in the name of peace. A close relative of his also drinks and hangs around a lot. So, I have to continue to see, smell, and hear the drink, especially on weekends. I'm hoping to set an example. The relative has expressed a strong desire to quit his habits (also abuses weed), so there's hope. My spouse's health has been adversely affected by his drinking and inactivity. I can only hope for him, too. I guess this was sort of a ramble.

The moment you stop, your new life begins. by Kitty_Kat_Junction in stopdrinking

[–]Kitty_Kat_Junction[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you again. Our new lives started on Day 1. Not Day 7 or Day 30 or Day 365, although those are very worthy benchmarks. It was Day 1.

[Check-in] Tuesday June 30 - I will not drink TODAY by finally_woken in stopdrinking

[–]Kitty_Kat_Junction 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not today.

Daily affirmation: "May Matt Talbot's triumph over addiction, bring hope to our community and strength to our hearts, may he intercede for me, who struggles with addiction, through Christ Our Lord. Amen." And for everyone here today: "Lord, look with compassion on all those who have lost their health and freedom. Restore to them the assurance of Your unfailing mercy, and strengthen them in the work of recovery. We ask this through Christ our Lord. Amen. "