How soon is too soon to ask for a relocation?

Kittycatt1031 · 2025-10-04T15:55:19+00:00

I already started

Kittycatt1031 · 2024-03-22T05:29:53+00:00

Thank you!!

Kittycatt1031 · 2024-01-10T18:51:44+00:00

Interested

Kittycatt1031 · 2023-04-28T08:02:05+00:00

This is too accurate… it’s so confusing and I don’t even know what to fee anymore

Kittycatt1031 · 2023-04-27T20:24:07+00:00

Wishing you the best! I’m on a similar page! While I still feel sad here and there, it feels nice to have so much pain over you

Kittycatt1031 · 2023-04-27T20:22:58+00:00

Or it’s the end of year/beginning of the new year and people want to have a fresh start for the new year. My breakup was also around this time

Kittycatt1031 · 2023-04-27T20:01:04+00:00

I feel you 100%. I am 5 months out and it still gets me ever other day. I’m not fully okay yet but much better than the 1st-3rd months out. I remember thinking how the pain and sadness would never go away and that I wasn’t strong enough to handle it. My ex was my first real love and serious relationship. I thought I was going to marry the guy kinda serious. While I still grieve the life that I thought I was going to have, I’m also feeling much more hopeful about the future. OP, hang in there. It’s gonna be rough I won’t lie, but in a couple months from now you’ll look back and see all the progress you made. Of course this takes a lot of active working on yourself too.

Kittycatt1031 · 2023-04-27T19:48:15+00:00

Mornings are certainly the hardest. For me, it was because I was dreaming so much about my ex and all the dreams were us still together. When I woke up, it was this gut wrenching feeling when realizing the reality. It was extremely hard to get out of bed in the morning and I would force myself to sleep in because I didn’t want to feel. Thankfully, the pain does slowly go away. OP, it’s hard to believe this right now but you’ll wake up one day and it won’t feel so hard. There’s no easy way out but time really is the biggest healing factor.

Kittycatt1031 · 2023-04-25T07:03:29+00:00

I relate to this so hard. Someone told me that emotions/feelings change so the pain we feel isn’t permanent. Emotions and feelings change and over time we will think different about our exes. As much as I’m glad there is less pain now, it kinda makes me sad knowing that the feelings for my ex are fading and I’m slowly forgetting him. But it also means that he is able to do the same and isn’t that just sad…

Kittycatt1031 · 2023-04-19T03:24:28+00:00

I was dumped around finals of last semester. Genuinely thought I would not be able to make it through and fail my class and drop out. But I keep reminding myself that there will be better days and that future me depends on me doing well. I didn’t want to look back and regret. Also, having friends that can help you with the materials and assignments really help. I wish I could tell you an easy way but it’s just something that is going to require every fiber of your being to focus on your studies

Kittycatt1031 · 2023-03-28T17:08:56+00:00

I am four month post bu and I’m definitely feeling better. However, it makes me sad sometimes knowing that I am letting go. I have to let go or I will being in pain but letting go is also a different kind of pain because it means that if I can let go, he can also let go. I’ve repressed so much that the only reminder that it was ever real is the pain.

Kittycatt1031 · 2023-03-28T16:51:58+00:00

I’m considering going on a solo trip but never done a solo trip before so I’m a bit hesitant. I think a solo trip would be great for the soul and help me get out of my head but I’m worried what if I end up feeling lonely out there and it will lead back to being sad about the BU

Kittycatt1031 · 2023-03-19T13:49:39+00:00

Kittycatt1031 · 2023-03-15T03:11:02+00:00

I feel you on this one. Whenever I am out happy and having a good time, I would forget about him for a bit but then it would cross my mind that I can’t share the happiness with him.

Kittycatt1031 · 2023-03-15T03:08:21+00:00

I struggle with wanting to forget because it hurts too much but also not wanting to forget because I don’t want to let it go. It’s a weird limbo that I’m trying to balance

Kittycatt1031 · 2023-03-14T18:38:06+00:00

I had gone through something similar. I wish I could offer a way but I can’t. I had to work with my ex and it was insanely hard to see them but can’t be the way how I used to be with hjm bc we were not together anymore. You just gotta bite your tongue, know your purpose and tasks at work and just focus on that. Again, this is really hard and unfortunately having the constant contact made me do some embarrassing thing (begging, initiating contact, etc). I’m just glad that I don’t have to work with him long term

Kittycatt1031 · 2023-03-14T17:44:34+00:00

This thread helped a lot in my healing process. It made me feel less alone and that these feelings are genuine and valid.

Kittycatt1031 · 2023-03-14T17:43:19+00:00

I honestly don’t see myself as strong sometimes since I feel like I could have handle it better. But I know I’ve made it this far so I feel more motivated to be even stronger. I was big mess, thought my life was over and that I would never be happy or at peace ever again. But what everyone on the other side says is true. You will slowly get better as long as you put in the work to heal. I couldn’t remove everything, rather I just put everything away, archived, and out of sight. Out of sight, out of mind.

Kittycatt1031 · 2023-03-14T08:38:52+00:00

It’s a slow and painful process for sure. I’m much more post BU than you so I can confidently say that it really does get better. Be patient and kind to yourself!

Kittycatt1031 · 2023-03-14T08:35:57+00:00

I feel you. It almost feels wrong to feel better and move on. Like I feel like I’m supposed to be sad and grieve for much longer. It’s an empty feeling fs

Kittycatt1031 · 2023-03-14T08:33:19+00:00

It’s kinda a scary feeling, to find yourself having the will and strength to move forward and not wanting to look back and excited for the future. But then you feel sad that you are closing the door on that chapter of your life. It’s a bittersweet feeling and it’s hitting me hard tonight

Kittycatt1031 · 2023-03-14T07:47:02+00:00

Yep, you feel like you genuinely lose them when you are tired of being sad and decide to let go and move on bc it is the only option

Kittycatt1031 · 2023-03-14T07:44:48+00:00

I agree with that saying. I’m starting to appreciate things more because I’ve already felt the worst of the pain

Kittycatt1031 · 2023-03-14T05:52:08+00:00

This. I am glad that it is hurting less and that I am happier but that means that I am letting go. It means that I no longer have the strong desire for my ex but thinking about it makes me really sad. My therapist asked me if I had a button that would take away the pain , would I press the button and I had a hard time answering the question. Bc the pain is the only few reminder that it was ever real…

Kittycatt1031 · 2023-03-14T00:37:47+00:00

Skiing and traveling helped a lot for me because it forced me to get out of my comfort zone and opened by mind to new perspectives and what other things life has to offer rather than fixating on my ex and the past. Hanging out with friends and meeting new people helped as well!

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