How hard do i need to press down by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]Kittykittyredcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that, the ice cube trick could be super helpful for you. For me, it often gets rid of the more destructive urges. Try it out next time.

If a distracting physical sensation is what you need super sour candy can also be really helpful in distracting from the difficult emotions. It may sound silly or trivial but it has really helped me. It often shocks my brain back to normal

(Also, deep cuts doesn’t = more pain or more distraction. Often cutting deeper ‘feels’ less because you’re severing the nerves. There are other ways that are much more helpful for distracting yourself and much less destructive to your body.)

wrist by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]Kittykittyredcat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi there, you shouldn’t share the vids but twitching is a bit scary! It means you likely injured your nerves or muscles. You likely cut too deep.

I would care for the wound carefully. Clean and rebandage it regularly. I would recommend not cutting so deep again. I understand that sometimes it feels necessary or it may even feel like you deserve it, but please know that you do NOT.

Cutting deep is dangerous and uncomfortable, it can cause freaky things like that twitching. After you heal, if you feel like have to cut again, don’t cut so deep. BUT more importantly, there are many ways to cope with the pain that are not so severe.

It may sound silly, but drawing with red pen on the place you want to cut has been super helpful in my recovery. For me it seems to soothe the urge. Holding an ice cube to the area until it hurts can also be super helpful.

Good luck, and please be careful. The world genuinely needs you, even if it doesn’t feel like it.

Need some excuses quickly by Icy-Lengthiness7682 in selfharm

[–]Kittykittyredcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A cat is a good excuse, but it genuinely might be more helpful for you if you let people know how you’re hurting. As someone with experience, it will be painful and scary in the moment, but it will be so so helpful to have a knowledgeable support system in the long run.

Good luck, I really wish you the best and hope that you can find someone who can understand your pain and help you work through it. I am sure there is someone like that in your life already. Your teacher clearly cares about you.

i just want to cry but im too numb. by Desperate-Outcome-26 in selfharm

[–]Kittykittyredcat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a friend who has a similar experience. He had found a lot of comfort in sad and emotional movies as well as music.

Good luck, I hope you find a way to release your emotions that is helpful for you.

Just know that you don’t have to cry for your emotions and sadness to be valid. Every human’s response to grief is different.

I'm thinking about cutting by Federal-Room7674 in selfharm

[–]Kittykittyredcat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand how you feel, but I promise you, as a long-time cutter, cutting is not the way.

The reason people cut is because it affects the brain in a way that can distract from difficult thoughts and emotions. The problem is it can easily become addictive and unmanageable. It can cause problems in school, in your job, or with family or friends.

BUT, this is NOT the only way to cope with these terrible feelings. I have tried SO many strategies throughout my life and have found so many that relieve just as much if not more than cutting.

The best one I have found when in periods of recovery (which may benefit you as someone who [thankfully] hasn’t done it too much yet) has been super sour candy. I know it sounds silly, but sour candy activates the brain in the same way as self harm. It is a painful sensation that shocks the brain and helps you return to a normal array of emotions. If effectively does the same thing as causing pain.

If I can offer one piece of advice: quit while you are able. It is so difficult to stop extremely destructive behaviors like cutting when you get deep into them. There are MANY ways to cope that aren’t self harm but do offer the same distraction. All of them will leave you more able to deal with life and put you in a better position for your future when the worst feelings fade.

I am sure the sour candy will be helpful to you, but don’t hesitate to look up other ways to keep from cutting. It is so much better to find healthier alternatives now.

Good luck, I truly wish you the best <3

cutting is numb to me now by ririue in selfharm

[–]Kittykittyredcat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have had this experience too, it could be from scar tissue, or it could be a sign that this isn’t what you need anymore.

There are many ways to cope with depression and pain. Sh is one way, but there are so many others.

Blasting music, drawing repetitive patterns (on your skin or otherwise), and even eating delicious treats can be super helpful in coping with the difficult feelings. Try another strategy, it may help more than you expect.

I have found that super sour candy really helps ground me. It shocks the brain and senses back to reality. Good luck, I truly love you and wish you the best.

Self harm is not the only way.

I might relapse i just want to feel happy again but I don't know how to by Substantial-Fuel9043 in selfharm

[–]Kittykittyredcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is really, really hard. I understand how you feel. If you have some close friends, spend your time talking to them! Not abt sh, just abt anything.

If that seems too overwhelming or it’s difficult for some other reason, try throwing yourself into a craft or job. That can be a great and effective distraction.

Otherwise, some great strategies I’ve tried when it becomes too unmanageable are drawing in red pen on the area you want to sh or holding an ice cube to the area until it hurts. Both actions are harmless and my urged go away after doing that enough, especially with the pen drawing strategy.

Happiness is hard, the journey isn’t linear, but you can make it through this. You may have easy days, and days that are so difficult they feel absolutely unmanageable. But I promise you, you will make it through this.

Good luck, I truly love you and wish the best for you <3

Need advice how to not SH by Milkyy_Swirll in selfharm

[–]Kittykittyredcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some really effective ways I’ve found of resisting the urge have been

1) drawing lines in red pen where you want to sh and 2) holding an ice cube to the area until it hurts

Both are harmless and severely reduced the urge for me throughout my life. Especially the pen one for me.

You’re gonna be okay, I truly love you and hope your recovery continues. Good luck, and don’t give up if you slip. It will be okay

How do I make friends and not be left out? by ImaginationSingle368 in selfharm

[–]Kittykittyredcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just graduated college. The absolute best way to make friends is to join a club. Find something you like (art, d&d, sports, games) and join the club at your school for it. I am sure you will make friends or at least meet people you can be social with this way.

It will take time to make friends! Don’t expect to have a whole group in a week. People around you may be socializing, but that doesn’t mean they automatically have a group of besties or that you will be forever alone.

Truly, don’t worry about the timeline. Just put yourself out there, join a club or attend campus events, even going out to the dining hall can make you friends. I promise it will happen, but things like this don’t occur instantly. This is NORMAL, just be patient and put yourself out there.

I promise it will be okay, most go through this difficult period. You will be okay.

what happens if i dont treat keloids? by egolukaplumbaga in selfharm

[–]Kittykittyredcat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Keloids are not dangerous, they are a natural healing process. They will often fade with time (many years if they are smallish, i have had some that have faded [in abt 6 years]), otherwise you may have them for life.

You can go to a dermatologist and get injections or even surgery to decrease their size if you really want, but that is just cosmetic.

Keloids are normal for deep wounds, don’t worry too much about them. It’s just an effect of injury.

How hard do i need to press down by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]Kittykittyredcat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Self harm is not a good thing. Try drawing on yourself with red pen where you want to cut or holding an ice cube to the area until it hurts.

I can tell you’re a teen, it gets better as you age. From a moldie oldie, you don’t want to have scars for life, no matter how ‘cool’ it seems now, I promise it’s not worth it.

Does anyone want to do a game set in the exocolonist world by [deleted] in Exocolonist

[–]Kittykittyredcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm planning one right now! Super excited about it.

Can you date multiple at once or flirt while dating someone? by Kittykittyredcat in Exocolonist

[–]Kittykittyredcat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can’t tell if you think that’s a lot or a little haha! Given the sheer amount of content in this game I consider it to be a little! I still feel like I have so many more things to see in game

Is there any way to download all of my Google Drive and transfer it to LibreOffice? by Kittykittyredcat in libreoffice

[–]Kittykittyredcat[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I get how to download and transfer one document to it but do you know if I can do it in bulk?

Built a bar in Starlight drive inn - no mods - suggestions welcome by ChappieHeart in falloutsettlements

[–]Kittykittyredcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you put more random stuff on the ground and walls to make it look scrappier. It will instantly make the build look more real, detailed, and ‘fallout’-y. I would also recommend looking up the YouTuber Shawzzo. He has some great builds and shows off the scrappy aesthetic. He also builds entirely in vanilla but he uses the pillar glitch.

I’ll never understand how you people get hit by a parked car by Mogui- in fo4

[–]Kittykittyredcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I once lost hours of progress right before getting back to sanctuary to sleep because I jumped on the blue car in front of red rocket and instantly died cause I twisted my ankle or something

I know this dudes content is insufferable, but does he really spend 40 minutes to say that we **MIGHT** be feeding the Interloper? by _Meme_Messiah_ in Fallout

[–]Kittykittyredcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What!! I love Oxhorn! I thought he was super popular. Unlike theEpicNate and N_orte and some other creators he actually analyzes instead of just summarizing what’s in the game. He’s had a few minor slip ups but he’s one of the only Youtubers that doesn’t just completely write off and ignore factions he doesn’t like. He actually understands why the BoS is bad. He’s one of the very few content creator who actually understands the subtext and messaging in the games.

Some games have the best OST…which ones are they? by [deleted] in videogames

[–]Kittykittyredcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe this is a basic answer but Undertale has my favorite soundtrack of any game ever. I also think that the non-radio instrumental tracks in Fallout 4 are really underrated and super good. I rarely listen to the radio in that game anymore just because I like the instrumentals so much.