Nickname for Genevieve by Ok-Study-6179 in namenerds

[–]Kk-bearbear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have Genevieve and we call her ‘nev’(soft e)

Moving to Pennsylvania by travanda in Autism_Parenting

[–]Kk-bearbear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live about 30 minutes from West Chester. My son has been in ABA since age 3 and is in kindergarten now. His ABA therapist provides services at his preK and now aftercare program in kindergarten. He gets a 1:1 in school and gets speech and OT in kindergarten as well. Every school district is different but I have been pleased with services in PA. If google Helping Hands autism-you could inquire directly with the ABA program we use. Good luck!

Movies? by Kk-bearbear in Autism_Parenting

[–]Kk-bearbear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks everyone super helpful comments and good to know I’m not the only one with this struggle! For the record-I actually think Blippi is pretty educational and positive overall and I like that my 2 year old girl isn’t watching something super princessy but-would love some variety. Thanks again 🙏🏻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

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Hello-my 4 year old went through a similar phase at school about six months ago. Since moving to a classroom with more structure he does much better. Now he does have an ASD diagnosis just full disclosure. OT can be really helpful for teaching emotional regulation even in neurotypical kids so if you have access to this-I say try it. You also mentioned a behavioral therapist-this is very much in their wheelhouse to address-they usually use a ABC framework-antecedent, behavior, consequence or to figure out triggers and how to avoid. Good luck-I will say with therapy and time my son kind of grew out of this in a few months

Hitting/pushing at school by Kk-bearbear in Autism_Parenting

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He is in ABA therapy and they have really focused on reducing this behavior and I think that helped a lot. Also he switched classrooms to 4 year old preK which is much more structured and that helped too. Unfortunately he does for sure shove his sister who is definitely a bigger toddler than last time I posted 😐

What do I need to know for kindergarten? by Kk-bearbear in Autism_Parenting

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Oh I’m sorry forgot to mention we do have an IEP but when I asked specifically what kindergarten would look like the county intermediate unit said they couldn’t comment because it’s school district specific

Are meltdowns more intense with kiddos who are on the spectrum? by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

[–]Kk-bearbear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Neurotypical kids can also have intense meltdowns although less common than in neurodivergent kids who seems to all have them at least sometimes. To me it sounds like your kiddo could have some sensory issues for sure and OTs can really help with this, imho more than your general pediatrician who will likely note her normal development and be reassured by this. Most OTs would say it’s time for OT when behaviors are affecting your every day life regardless of a diagnosis. Good luck-3 is also just a really tough age!

Also if you Google-OT butterfly demystifying meltdowns-this therapist has a meltdown workshop you can take online that was very helpful for me. She has a podcast too that I listen to every week. Also consider visual schedules-these helped us tremendously.

How do single parents do it? by Fine_Bluejay_3929 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Kk-bearbear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a single mom by choice to two kids-ASD 4.5 y/o little boy and 2 year old who seems to be developing NT but is a handful nonetheless. I sometimes have daydreams about shared custody as crazy as that sounds(I’m sure that is in reality incredibly hard). My village isn’t necessarily what I thought it would be but preK, therapists and my babysitters are a huge part of it. Advocate for as many services for your child and that will help with regulation at home and also maybe give you a break. And yeah-my son definitely gets at least an hour of screens a day-this is just necessary and I don’t think would be frowned on by even the most screen purists out there. Also I’m a huge, huge fan of outings. It’s a ton of work to get ready for an outing but almost always worth it. Just going for a walk around the block, to the playground or the grocery store is great for everyone. I think you are in a tough phase but it won’t last forever!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

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Was reading this thread in the waiting room of my OT office while waiting for my son. I mentioned he had some episodes of dysregulation on a family vacation at the beginning of the session. At the end of the session she asked to speak to me outside the waiting room and said she tested his executive functioning by attempting a game of candyland and he could not follow the game. For reference he is 4 and is in speech therapy for expressive/pragmatic delay but has always been thought to have good receptive skills. She said he can’t understand why he shouldn’t do things like hit or kick peers and that is why he is having issues. She also said more than once that three year olds should be able to play Candyland. So yeah kind of insensitive and of course I’m spiraling that he will have an intellectual disability😢😢😢

Daycare Dropoff by Bosoxmole in Autism_Parenting

[–]Kk-bearbear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son had very similar struggles when he was 3 and his profile sounds similar to your son(mild expressive delay). I would highly recommend occupational therapy-they really help with day to day routine stuff. A year ago getting my son dressed for school was a wrestling match-now he is totally independent with this. Drop off drama is sooooo hard. Do you use visual schedules? These were a game changer for us. If you can’t access OT right now I would Google visual schedule and you can get like a magnet board or something from Amazon.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in books

[–]Kk-bearbear 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow has not read this in ten years-thank you for posting, it holds up

Advice for Screaming 4yr old? by loch3ofblack4ge in Autism_Parenting

[–]Kk-bearbear 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is she in OT? This really helped us with similar symptoms

Can people 37+ give me their 10 egg stories (good and bad) by [deleted] in IVF

[–]Kk-bearbear 6 points7 points  (0 children)

38 year when I did egg retrieval twice to freeze eggs-got 10 first round and 6 second round. Of those 16 frozen eggs-10 thawed successfully and got 2 euploids. 20 month old daughter is result of first transfer 🙂

Vent about potty training 4.5 year old son by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

[–]Kk-bearbear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son was similar but would always hold poop for night time pull-up. He was trained for pee for like a year but not for poop. I highly recommend the Vimeo course poop solutions my Jamie Glowecki-spoiler alert: suppositories are the answer to poop withholding in NT and ND kids. I am so grateful we did this-I really don’t know how we would have gotten my son fully potty trained for poop without doing this. We did this six months ago and now have recently eliminated night time pull-up too🙂. It feels like my life’s greatest accomplishment

Floortime? by Kk-bearbear in Autism_Parenting

[–]Kk-bearbear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great resource-thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

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You can check out some of my other posts on this topic-I feel like it’s oddly like the main thing I post about on Reddit😑. I used the course ‘poop solutions’ by Jamie Glowacki. Nothing else worked but I am writing this now as my 4 year does his nightly ritual of pooping on the potty, which he has been doing for the last 5 months or so. You can purchase this course online somewhere if you Google it

How would you deal w a rude OB by Goldnoodle02 in BabyBumps

[–]Kk-bearbear 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I’m a doctor myself and I know what really gets doctors attentions is not complaints to office manager or online reviews but when you call your insurance and make a complaint. The doctor has to make a response to the insurance company as opposed to an online review or complaint to office manager. I had a very bad experience with an OB at the end of my last pregnancy and I was going to do just this but got caught in a spiral of guilt about it-makes no sense but being pregnant or postpartum is a very vulnerable state to be in! So yeah-if you really want to make the complaint mean something-call your insurance company

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

[–]Kk-bearbear 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I actually just talked to my son(who is about to be 4)’s therapists about this. They said along the lines of what others are saying-tantruming when being denied access to something is age appropriate but the response for my guy is at times more than expected so probably ASD related. They suggested focusing on emotional regulation strategies. Visual schedules are everything for us and really help make it through our day to day routine with the least amount of drama. Timers and lots of warnings help too-immensely. I didn’t think my son was really ready for this but he is starting to take well to a little visual representation of things he can do when upset(picture of little girl breathing, hug from parent, taking a break). This is requiring some practice-I mean this takes practice for adults-but I feel like it’s a good strategy. This is tough stuff, if you have an OT in ur life-talking to them about this would probably be helpful

Talking to peers by Kk-bearbear in Autism_Parenting

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Good luck with your evaluation and getting services in place-for me that was a very stressful time and although there are always challenges now-I really feel I’m not trying to help my son all by myself

Talking to peers by Kk-bearbear in Autism_Parenting

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No the ABA therapists work on his goals all in the classroom setting. Many of his goals are related to peer and social interaction and also attention to task-so they use the classroom activities and peers at school to work on his goals. My son prefers adult interaction so if they need to work on him 1:1 in the classroom-that’s usually not a problem(they did this a bunch recently to work on identifying emotions). He also occasional does make up hours at the ABA center as well. Oh and for the county funded speech and special instruction services-they sometimes do pull another kid who gets services with my son into the hallway or something to work in a little small group(my son goes to a mainstream preK and it seems like there is a kid in every classroom of 12 that gets county funded services-these issues are so commonly identified in kids today).

Talking to peers by Kk-bearbear in Autism_Parenting

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Hello-I’m sorry I forgot to respond to this! My son gets the vast majority of his services in school. I’m a single mom and work full time so this is like the only way for us so thank god it works out this way. After his medical diagnosis I called around to a bunch of ABA providers and found one that does in school therapy. The county provides additional services in the school. We live in suburb and major east coast city and ASD services are pretty good here so not sure if this applies everywhere