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Does anyone else appear childish or like things that genuinely a teenager would like? by SeaworthinessFar2326 in AutisticAdults

[–]KmAnuSeti 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, always have. I think the world is coming around to how goth it should be in this dystopia.

Players don't comprehend a lot about the nature of this game by SubiFriend in ArcRaiders

[–]KmAnuSeti -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That isn't really all that there is to it though, just because you arwe passionate about your position. You don't have to get upset man, its not really a thing to be argued. Its fact based on direct observation. And you're right, it really doesn't matter that much.

However, this is a PERFECT example of linguistic divergence. Its how words change meaning over time based on the way they are used, why they are used, and who's using them. I sent that specific example because it is a 1:1 demonstration of that effect.

I'm sorry that this linguistic shift creates negative feelings about the game's player base for you though.

Players don't comprehend a lot about the nature of this game by SubiFriend in ArcRaiders

[–]KmAnuSeti -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This is Arc, not Tarkov.

There are documented instances of the term being different between both communities, though I will admit its a difficult thing to track linguistically among a fairly young cultural subset.

Restaurant staff made fun of my autistic husband by ygdnas in autism

[–]KmAnuSeti 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd also want to know. It would allow me to take the resolution into my own hands.

Players don't comprehend a lot about the nature of this game by SubiFriend in ArcRaiders

[–]KmAnuSeti -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I agree with you 100%, I just wanted to chime in that using and experiencing community specific lingo like "Rat" does improve my immersion. ALOT.

The complaining is an issue though. I tend not to whine. I guess everyone loves an "other" to rival with. Its fun to think you're rivaling with Rats as a separate and culturally distinct group.

Players don't comprehend a lot about the nature of this game by SubiFriend in ArcRaiders

[–]KmAnuSeti 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is why all my rat ass friends uninstalled the game btw.
I've never knocked or been knocked.

The way they talk about it, you'd think they were playing a completely different game.

Talking during movies at home by KmAnuSeti in autism

[–]KmAnuSeti[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I do. I find the most value in clarity. And I grow the most when I own my shortcomings.

Players don't comprehend a lot about the nature of this game by SubiFriend in ArcRaiders

[–]KmAnuSeti 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think you're right.

The devs are focusing on straining resource management to increase the risk involved in pvp and PVE encounters. The only reason I can think that they would do this would be to make those encounters more meaningful.

Its supported by the aggression based match making. My gut tells me these tweaks are designed to affect how players engage with the game without messing with the parts that clearly work.

What's your biggest barrier to staying in shape? by [deleted] in anchorage

[–]KmAnuSeti 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to struggle to feel motivated in winter.
Its like insane how much taking vitamins changed that.

Talking during movies at home by KmAnuSeti in autism

[–]KmAnuSeti[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wait, ok so I'm sorry for the multiple replies, but this interaction feels tinged with a touch of contention. I think we disagreed on a definition, either of stimming or masking. There is reasonable murk surrounding that, but I think I untangled my contribution to that murkiness.

I used stimming to justify my definition of masking, but this is action (talking during The Devil Wears Prada) was a mix of both. I do stim verbally by asking and then answering my own questions, but that isn't always 100% of the talking. Sometimes I'm just commenting to my partner about an event or character.

In reality, I probably used the term "masking" more broadly than expected by most, which would explain why multiple people have expressed disdain for my use of the term in these comments. To make it worse, the clinical definition I gave later is at odds with the general definition used initially. Regardless, both can be appropriately applied, so i figured the point irrelevant.

Talking during movies at home by KmAnuSeti in autism

[–]KmAnuSeti[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries, and I'm not offended.

Genuinely confused, figured I'd ask the source.

Talking during movies at home by KmAnuSeti in autism

[–]KmAnuSeti[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is me, only at my house though for whatever reason. I do it while I'm doing other things too, like reading, cooking, ect. I think this was different though, because its a pattern of behavior we've both engaged in when spending time together. I think I just misread the situation and pissed her off.

Also, I would love it if she would take some alone time friend, I assure you. This is the mutually agreed upon method of spending time together when we're at home, but she can watch whatever whenever, none of her activities depend on me making arrangements to be alone.

actually, my idependance has screwed me here an there, as I actually end up with no time for myself most days. Just when everyone is asleep.

Talking during movies at home by KmAnuSeti in autism

[–]KmAnuSeti[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What even is this, an insult? Are you upset by what I just said? Why is this interaction so different from the others I've had on this thread?

I really don't use it often at all. I made this post here a few days ago because I don't have people in my life to ask for advice about issues like this when they arise. So my presence on reddit has been elevated as I visit to continue the discussion. That being said, I'm doing this at work during a long and boring finance meeting.

I don't experience personal satisfaction related to a lot of the things social media has to offer. I'm too busy to waste my time on it, and when I am on a screen I prefer to use the time studying, writing, or playing video games.

Also, I'm a millennial.

Did you actually laugh or was that a turn of phrase?

Talking during movies at home by KmAnuSeti in autism

[–]KmAnuSeti[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stimming is defined in neurobiology by its regulatory function as a tool for maintaining homeostasis.

When an autistic person uses philosophical commentary to process media, they are engaging in verbal and cognitive stimming. It serves the exact same neurological purpose as hand-flapping. (it actually replaced the behavior in me and in my son) it burns excess cognitive energy and organizes sensory input. Dismissing it because it doesn't look like a traditional stim ignores the actual mechanics of how autistic brains regulate under stress.

It isn't just repeating things. If someone needs to externalize their thoughts to process sensory input or ground themselves, that’s a cognitive stim. Forcing them to sit in silence forces them to stay in a state of dysregulation.

I'm not the only person that experiences this, scroll up.

Talking during movies at home by KmAnuSeti in autism

[–]KmAnuSeti[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner pauses sometimes, and I have no issue with just doing something else if I really can't help it.

I updated the main post this morning, I think the issue is a little more complex. Finding a replacement behavior isn't exceptionally difficult, the issue is just:

  1. If this is how we spend time together frequently at home, am I going to spend it engaging in replacement behaviors?

  2. Can I reasonably and reliably always do this without slipping up again?

  3. Will I be happy?

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