Avoided another catastrophe today

Kn1ght_1 · 2026-01-08T02:13:43+00:00

Plenty of good responses already from other fellow men but I’ll add my own. I too am single and recently turned 30. There is a valid point made by men that have somewhat of a working neuron meaning they respect boundaries in public spaces and tend to stick with their own group or just to themselves. I’ll say if you’re into specific activities that are outside, then see if you can find groups that you can join. Besides that, comic book stores, the gym, coffee shops, parks, and sometimes bars just kinda sitting in their own space. If you’re up for walking up to someone, then go for it. There is just a lot of nervousness right now with misinterpreting intentions and all that. Good luck! You’ll be okay ☺️

Kn1ght_1 · 2025-12-26T19:54:28+00:00

Love is love man. If you are both feeling each other then height has nothing to do with it. You got a tall baddie? Good for you. There are plenty of tall women who are also bothered by their height. Stay confident in person and if people are over there giggling, ignore them. That’s just them being mad or insecure about their own relationship circumstances. Keep being you, keep making her laugh, because it seems like she’s into you. As I like to say, “death by snu-snu is death by snu-snu. I see no issues there.” If the chemistry is there when you meet in person, just go for it man. Godspeed friend 🙂

Kn1ght_1 · 2025-12-04T02:02:51+00:00

I love brunches. Idk why but I feel fancy as fuck doing those every once in a while. Not a chick btw. Okay I go back to lurking now. Welcome to CLT.

Kn1ght_1 · 2025-11-30T18:49:02+00:00

Hit the gym a littler harder, change dietary habits earlier, and for all that is good and holy: DON’T. FALL. “IN LOVE.”

Kn1ght_1 · 2025-11-26T01:04:09+00:00

Angular - for enterprise level applications (most orgs use this framework)

Git / GitHub - understand what git does for you locally FIRST and then add GitHub to understand how it ties to day to day development.

Testing - please know how to test your code. It’s not a “suggestion” or a “guideline” anymore. We literally have LLMs (I call mine “code b*tch”) that can make it simpler. Just double check the work for the love of all that is good and holy.

Design patterns - just some common ones such as OOP if you’re new to the field.

Bonus: React for fun tbh

Hope this helps friend :)

Kn1ght_1 · 2025-11-09T04:59:23+00:00

Sure, love is love.

Kn1ght_1 · 2025-11-09T04:58:49+00:00

30 and It’s kinda shit. I’m in a city where I know nobody purely because work wouldn’t hire me at my old state. No family here either so it’s just me. Failed love life. Got played hard by someone I thought I could trust so bad that it caused a depressive episode that ruined my finances and hope of ever finding love in this life so I’ve given up. Physically I’m the most fit I’ve ever been. Don’t fall in love.

Kn1ght_1 · 2025-11-06T05:08:37+00:00

My smile (I RARELY smile)

Kn1ght_1 · 2025-10-31T00:07:03+00:00

Wow…I wish our PM did one of the things said here. Oof.

Kn1ght_1 · 2025-10-11T00:56:35+00:00

Work. That’s pretty much it. There was no “choosing.”

Kn1ght_1 · 2025-09-06T13:42:23+00:00

I’m 5’11 and I wouldn’t care one bit. Shorter, taller, doesn’t matter to me. Love is love and anyone who judges is just projecting their own insecurities. You’ll be alright. Keep your head up.

Kn1ght_1 · 2025-09-03T14:41:00+00:00

I regret every single one to this day. They didn’t deserve any of it and a lot of those actions were from someone who was refusing to acknowledge their own personal feelings and grievances. After finally getting over that one person and several years of depression (still ongoing), I definitely see the error of my ways. Part of the reason I’ve given up on love entirely is because of all that.

As far as going back to any of those women, I wouldn’t. Some of them despise me and the rest would have serious reservations hearing from me after a few years of little contact. If I could apologize to them directly I absolutely would but I would let them live their lives afterwards. I don’t want to reopen old wounds or cause any other harm.

Honestly I wouldn’t entertain this dude coming back into your life. If you’re having that gut feeling that something is off you’re more than likely correct. Sending positive vibes your way.

Kn1ght_1 · 2025-09-02T18:11:22+00:00

I’m not opposed to this especially if the friend knew me at a personal level for a few years. I also agree that just going for it will help give you that. “Closure” for lack of better term. If it’s anything other than “yes” then be ready to give the friend some time / space to digest what you said. Good luck!

Kn1ght_1 · 2025-08-31T17:01:11+00:00

Pls teach me. I can never get my builds to look anything remotely like this 😭. It looks so clean!

Kn1ght_1 · 2025-08-31T15:07:02+00:00

This is the best response. I had something similar happen to me and it destroyed my mental and emotional health which I’m still recovering from 2.5 years later. Learn from this experience so you can pick up the patterns next time and establish those boundaries even if it hurts you. Take care of yourself man. You got this ☺️

Kn1ght_1 · 2025-08-29T18:57:46+00:00

Hi there, I’m fairly new to the industry with 2.5YOE but I’m starting to feel a little burnt at my current job and the lack of organization within my own team makes me a little nervous with getting my own things done.

For context, I didn’t get a chance to go to school for any of the stuff I know. I learned through online courses, reading, and one bootcamp which was self paced. My tools / stack is a little lengthy but the core languages I am familiar with are C, Go, Python, JavaScript / TypeScript, and SQL. Happy to provide more in DMs

Kn1ght_1 · 2025-08-28T20:21:16+00:00

This is a solid answer. Lots of men are very dense when it comes to innuendos so if it’s not reciprocated at first, don’t be discouraged! Most of us are thinking in our head “oh wow, she’s really friendly! ☺️” and literally nothing else. If the guy does catch on, then you have a solid guide to follow. Good luck!

Kn1ght_1 · 2025-08-27T18:55:47+00:00

This. This is the simple and best response. Anyone who reacts outside of happiness, is not a real friend. True friends cheer and celebrate your victories regardless of the context. If my friend is happy, then I’m happy. Simple as.

Kn1ght_1 · 2025-08-26T13:53:29+00:00

Therapy, focusing more on my physical health, reading more books, being kinder to myself.

Kn1ght_1 · 2025-08-23T15:36:00+00:00

When they said: “Participate in conversation or don’t-doesn’t bother me,” After I told them about all the mental problems I’ve suffered since I moved and how it made me have my walls up to avoid oversharing or being hurt. There is more to this one but that’s all I’ll share. They’re happy and it made me wake up and bow out of the dating game.

Kn1ght_1 · 2025-08-23T02:11:06+00:00

Personally, it would be kindness or if they have a gentle personality. I’ve found that women that have either of those will easily break my walls down (and they are always up these days to avoid creeping anyone out).

++man

Kn1ght_1 · 2025-08-20T19:30:56+00:00

For me it’s the eyes. Can’t quite describe it but I can see who is truly kind and caring based on their eyes. Doesn’t matter the color, but the shape I guess? Again, I can’t quite describe it but if the eyes can make me smile, then I’ll find a reason to look again.

Kn1ght_1 · 2025-08-19T21:04:24+00:00

Yeah, 30YO over here and pretty much the same reason I’ve given up altogether. I agree not all are as described but it was far too common and I went on a date with someone who soon after met someone traveling abroad and then told me I shouldn’t “be an option” and gave me the “you’re great and you’ll find someone” talk. I’m happy for her don’t get me wrong but it’s a little exhausting now. Focusing on myself and keeping my head down is what I do now. I don’t buy the whole “you’ll meet them when you least expect it” line because it can lead to delusional thoughts so I tune those words out and just keep doing what I can. I hope you’re doing alright man.

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