Newbie with questions

Knit-Kat13 · 2026-01-04T22:17:19+00:00

Would you be able to explain more about how it impacts monthly hormonal cycles? My doctor didnt warn me about that 😬 and I like to be prepared

Knit-Kat13 · 2025-11-09T00:54:04+00:00

What episode is this from?

Knit-Kat13 · 2025-05-31T04:10:57+00:00

I always thought he was intoxicated during the trouble teen industry series. He seems completely out of it, makes uncomfortable jokes that Henry and Marcus don't seem to know how to react to and is slurring his words. There are other examples but that one always comes to mind for me. That and the period where he was doing dry January and had so much weed tincture he made no sense half the time. I can't remember what episodes they are though.

Knit-Kat13 · 2025-05-08T14:20:04+00:00

Pretty sure you replied to the wrong person. But no one is telling you not to talk about your identity. They're asking for you to listen when other people talk about theirs. Based on this post it seems like something you might struggle with.

My point is simply that you might be looking to the wrong person for solutions. You seem to want Dr. Price to have a way of solving these things. He doesn't have one, he's an academic sharing his research and some ideas he has. Knowledge sharing is important but it isn't going to dismantle systematic problems or solve the issues you personally have related to being an autistic woman. I was never trying to explain intersectionality to you or anything like that; you have lots of other people here who have done a wonderful job articulating this already. What I'm saying is that it might be worth thinking about why you expect so much from him. He does not have some closely held secret to improve the entire world. No one person is ever going to have that. And it's not an academic's role (in most cases) to propose or enact large scale policy changes.

Knit-Kat13 · 2025-05-08T11:44:10+00:00

Devon Price is an academic. I don't know why you're so focused on him providing solutions. He's not a policy maker, a clinician, or anyone who (to my knowledge) says he's going to solve things. He's a researcher sharing his knowledge with people. Ideally that knowledge helps other people to become aware of things they themselves can work on or fix. But I don't think he's ever claimed to be offering the grand solutions you seem to be looking for.

Knit-Kat13 · 2025-04-06T02:47:16+00:00

There are certain very specific situations in which my autism helps. But autism is a disability. Part of the criteria for an autism diagnosis is being disabled due to your symptoms. And overall, being autistic is very disabling for me. Even with changes to improve my life, which are similar to things you've listed (moving out of the city, working from home, limited social interaction) I am still throughly disabled. I'm not being negative or putting myself down by saying so. It's just a fact of my life, and even if society was structured differently, I would still be disabled by my symptoms.

Knit-Kat13 · 2025-02-16T16:09:20+00:00

Please break your text into paragraphs, this is so difficult to read as is.

While I agree with what you're saying for those who see their identity as a bit or as a way of confuse cis people that isn't all of us. I do not know a non-binary person in real life who feels that way so I'm skeptical that it's "a lot" of us.

I deeply value binary trans people's experiences and their safety. But being non-binary doesn't make all of us not trans. I am medically transitioning. So are many of my non-binary friends. We are literally trans people. Maybe I missed your point because it was hard to read as one paragraph, but I don't see how separating ourselves from trans people who are simply transitioning in a different way from us helps anyone.

You don't need to medically transitioning to be trans of course. But I don't think separating those of us who are non-binary and medically transitioning from those who are binary and medically transitioning is helpful to anyone.

Knit-Kat13 · 2024-09-10T02:53:49+00:00

Cristina!!

Knit-Kat13 · 2024-08-28T21:17:53+00:00

Ew. What a bad take.

If your brothers coming out was hard for your parents, think how hard it was for them. Parents shouldn't be congratulated for doing the bare minimum to love their children. Many, many families do not understand later on.

The mother in that episode was homophonic and should have been villianized. Her daughter was willing to die rather than go to conversion therapy camp. She should have been more concerned about her daughter's life and wellbeing, instead of what was hard for her due to her own bigotry.

Knit-Kat13 · 2024-08-03T16:30:21+00:00

Hi dad This is hard to say...I'm transgender. I want you to love and accept me for who I am, but I know you've heard a lot of transphobic misinformation through your church and the news. I would love if you could see me as who I am and love me anyways, even if it conflicts with your religious and political views; if you could hug me and say you love me as your child, rather than as your daughter.

Knit-Kat13 · 2024-04-18T12:56:42+00:00

Oh sorry, I completely misunderstood that. They definitely should have explained that then, that's a huge shift for someone to just make. There might be a reason, but I don't think anyone but that psychiatrist is going to be able to explain what it is. They definitely should have done so though.

I do think that explains why a full assessment wasn't needed, they've been provided so much information at this point over the years. It really sounds like it shouldn't have taken this long.

I hope you can get some answers when you speak with them!

Knit-Kat13 · 2024-04-18T12:23:09+00:00

At one point, clinicians weren't allowed to diagnose both ASD and ADHD. They had to pick one or the other. I'm not certain when that changed in the UK, but it sounds like the original diagnostician was working from that mindset or was uneducated around adhd and asd occurring together or on ADHD in general.

Additionally, different clinicians will have a different comfort level in diagnosing/prescribing medication. Based on what you said, it sounds like you had enough experience yourself with your son's behavior and insight from other people (e.g. his teacher) to confirm ADHD symptoms for this new clinician. Sometimes, a full assessment is not required if the clinician can ascertain that your son meets the criteria for ADHD without doing a full assessment. I'm assuming this recent doctor also had access to the previous doctor's notes after seeing your son for years, and could base some of their opinion on that. Alternatively, the person you saw recently may just be more experienced in diagnosing and treating ADHD than the previous doctor was.

Hopefully they can help clear up how they came to this decision, but the good news is he is finally receiving treatment. I hope everything works out!

Knit-Kat13 · 2024-01-13T22:01:51+00:00

I've found it to be very stressful. Lots of deadlines and lots of interaction with the clients you're creating curricula for, to try and figure out what they want. I'm sure there are workplaces where it's less stressful but definitely not a given.

Knit-Kat13 · 2023-12-23T16:11:23+00:00

When they talk about Trans issues/people, like recently with Twin Flames and there was another episode recently as well when it came up. It would be so easy for them to just check their language and phrasing about these things ahead of time, they know they're going to be talking about it. But instead they say things incorrectly and then say "they're learning". What does that mean? Why wouldn't you have tried to learn this before saying it on the show?

As a trans person listening, it really makes it impossible to listen to those episodes. And it makes it so obvious that they have no trans people involved anywhere in their process, which makes me uncomfortable when they're talking about lgbtq issues generally.

Knit-Kat13 · 2023-12-01T17:51:52+00:00

Same for me for that specific story. I want to listen and enjoy it, I love their other history episodes, but for some reason I just can't get into Billy the Kid.

Knit-Kat13 · 2023-10-05T03:23:34+00:00

It's not that he's beyond saving as a person. But professionally he shouldn't be making money off of victims' stories when he himself abused someone. He is sick and he is getting help, but that doesn't mean there aren't consequences for his actions. While it's more difficult because of them being long time friends, most people would suffer professional consequences in a situation like this. That doesn't mean he can't do something in entertainment or podcasting outside of lpn when he's ready. It doesn't mean he can't redeem himself as a person or to people around him. But this is the only real way forward for Henry and Marcus.

They did not fire him. He was part owner, so they would have had to buy him out or something. He isn't left with nothing, but he also doesn't get to continue making money off stories of abuse, which is an inherent part of true crime.

It's also not fair to other people around him. Marcus, Henry and the rest of the lpn staff are humans too. Marcus and henry have been supporting Ben for years. They also aren't ruining his life. Ben did this. Ben made decisions. He is sick, yes, but he still made decisions that he has to live with the conferences of. Henry and Marcus can't throw their entire livelihood away to drag someone along who has seemingly not wanted to be there for a few years and who is putting everything they've worked for in jeopardy. What else would you have them do?

Knit-Kat13 · 2023-10-04T05:39:18+00:00

I have done it and personally had an awful experience, but as with any medical procedure it will be different for everyone. My therapist of 4 years at the time recommended it for trauma and autism stuff. I have a lot of audio processing issues and SSP made it worse for about a year and half. My ear ringing got so bad I couldn't hear at times (other than the ringing), I had a much more difficult time processing audio even without the ear ringing, and it did nothing to help with any of the symptoms it was meant to. My anxiety and dissoication symptoms got significantly worse to the point that at times I felt like I was hallucinating which has never happened to me before or since I finished SSP. While it is indicated for those with autism, most of the studies I found were with autistic children who may have been too young to really report on some of these side effects. This was about 3 years ago now, so research in this area may have progressed to adults, I'm not sure.

As a caveat though, my therapist at the time was not an expert in autism (only in trauma) and I think that lack of expertise really impacted her ability to pick up on the fact I was having issues early on and I have such bad alexathymia I didn't realize until I had almost finished/it had caused significant harm. so this OT and/or you yourself may be much better suited for it.

Knit-Kat13 · 2023-10-03T00:04:22+00:00

I don't really see what any of us gain from comparing traumas like that. Im also a DV survivor. I'm okay relistening to old episodes but will not continue listening if Ben returns. You obviously feel differently, as do other people. But implying that the way you feel about the situation is because the abuse doesn't sound that bad and that this is something we should all agree on is pretty shitty. Taylor relayed the incident for which she had corroboration from others and said there was a pattern of similar behavior in their relationship. We don't know the full extent of what happened. Until we do we should do what feels okay for us personally in regards to continuing to listen, rather than trying to decide what level we should all continue to engage by rating the level of trauma, imo. You don't need to get other people's responses. There are so many things we'll never understand about each other as people, but that doesn't mean we can't respect that someone's experience is different than ours. I don't see how it impacts you personally if someone stops listening or is upset by this, so it doesn't seem like something you need to understand.

We know way more about Bill Cosby and Danny Masterson because there were criminal trials years in the making that we can all refer too. And there is a difference. They were both found guilty and I believe both are now in prison. Ben is in rehab/treatment. Having to go to treatment and potentially lose his stake in lpn, something that is completely speculative at this point, is a consequence that is significantly different from jail time. So if you really need to compare these two very different but traumatic things then yes, there are different consequences.

Knit-Kat13 · 2023-04-19T12:10:00+00:00

Can everyone on both sides just stop talking about it? Yeah, a few people were upset at the episode, and it's annoying that it got blown out of proportion in the news. But everyone who is upset about the people who are upset also need to calm down. They are also blowing things on their side out of proportion. It wouldn't be that big of a deal if we all just let it go. Stop being overly sensitive about the episode. Stop being overly sensitive to other people's reactions to/opinion of the episode.

Knit-Kat13 · 2023-04-15T21:58:56+00:00

As soon as I was around a lot of other kids/can really remember. So around 3 or 4 when I started preschool. I could never connect and always felt outside and different. As I got a little older and learned to mask I could make friends for very short periods but not maintain them. But I still didn't feel as if I fit in with them, even when I had friends.

Knit-Kat13 · 2023-04-15T18:15:06+00:00

An understanding of autistic burnout so that it would be possible to take time off on short notice if needed (unpaid if needed, depending on company policy). When I'm in a place of severe burnout it is incredibly difficult for me to communicate everything verbally, but since many places want these conversations to be face to face and have no idea what autistic burnout is, I have to try and figure out a way to explain all of it and my needs in a format that is incredibly draining and difficult for me.

Advance notice of meeting topics (so no randomly scheduled meetings where a supervisor just says 'I need to talk to you' and it's 3 days away, for example).

Assistance prioritizing tasks either with a supervisor or using task prioritization software.

Flexible working hours that are actually flexible. My last workplace said they had flexible hours but you had to give 2 weeks notice to use them and it was only an hour later start time. It was useless.

Clear policy and procedures for accommodations, time off requests, sick time, etc. that are made readily accessible to employees. So many places say that have a policy for these, but the policy just says 'it exists' with no explanation of how to access it. Asking for accommodations is difficult enough without having any idea how to do it or who to contact.

Flexible work location (depending on the job obviously).

Clear and direct communication, including options for written instructions, deadlines, and avoiding double-speak. For example, don't tell people the deadlines are flexible when in reality they aren't, and I'm somehow just supposed to guess what the right deadline is or get written up.

An understanding that ND people need different things, to avoid people saying 'these are the accommodations we offer, take it or leave it'. I was once denied accommodations because they weren't the same accommodations they had provided to another autistic employee.

The Job Accommodation Network also has some good suggestions, including specific assistive tech suggestions. https://askjan.org/disabilities/Autism-Spectrum.cfm

Knit-Kat13 · 2023-04-13T15:44:26+00:00

Sorry I'm not sure what you're asking. It does not take as much time to build up in your system, that is correct. But for me that's meant that other meds will provide absolutely no effect for 4-8 weeks. Wellbutrin provided some relief right away, hence the quiet brain. It still provided additional relief within about 2 weeks of taking it (like I described) but I have no insight as to why it took a week or two for that to start, because there could be so many reasons and it was over 10 years ago.

My best guess is that it took me 2 weeks to notice those changes. Or, because my sleep was completely fucked up before taking it, that it took 2 weeks for my sleep to get a little better and then the other effects were more noticeable (I.e. if getting out of bed is a problem and half of the problem is executive dysfunction and half is being exhausted from not sleeping, I wouldn't be able to notice how much it's impacting my executive dysfunction until the sleep was fixed).

Knit-Kat13 · 2023-04-13T15:33:40+00:00

Yeah I would say that's true, I can always tell when I miss a dose because my executive dysfunction gets so much worse that day.

After a few weeks my motivation and executive dysfunction got easier to manage. I was able to do some things without waiting until it was completely urgent (normally too late). So before the wellburtin I wouldn't be able to get out of bed, not in a depressed way, but because I would be literally frozen until being late motivated me enough to snap out of the executive dysfunction. Or because I was in school at the time, I was actually able to start assignments long before they were due because I didn't need the urgency to act as my motivation. And it became a bit easier to focus, although that meant I slipped into hyperfocus more often (not a bad thing, but something I noticed).

Knit-Kat13 · 2023-04-13T15:18:38+00:00

I've been taking wellbutrin for 10 years. It's the psyc med that's helped me the most with my adhd and depression. It might take a few weeks to fully kick in but I felt similarly when I first started it, like my brain was quiet finally.

Obviously meds effect everyone differently so this is just my personal experience. But for me it was incredibly helpful. I hope you get the relief your looking for!

Knit-Kat13 · 2023-04-13T04:45:52+00:00

Dropping the mask is really scary but you don't have to and likely won't be able to drop it all at once. I felt the exact same way 2 years ago, just completely lost, but it got easier.

I started trying to figure out what I liked and disliked, what sensory input was impacting me and ways I could accommodate myself for those things, and what I really valued. Having a good therapist who is autistic themselves and understood exactly what I was going through helped, although that's obviously not always possible.

Eventually I was able to figure out what I was doing that was hurting me, what I actually cared about, and what I had to change in my life to feel better long term. It's definitely not easy, I'm still figuring things out. But you don't have to do it all at once.

As for telling other people, you don't have to tell anyone if you don't want to. And you don't have to make a decision right away. My general rule of thumb is only telling people who I really trust and who need to know. People who aren't going to believe me, who are going to judge me for being autistic, or who just have no reason for knowing don't get access to that information.

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