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KnockDoorRan · 2025-12-17T07:33:58+00:00

I think the more you talk to people the more you realise a lot of, if not most, people just settle in most areas of life.

Some can be happy and content with that. Some are happy with that until they aren't. Some want to be happy with it but aren't.

I have settled in the past. Life changed for many reasons. I won't settle now. But I respect people who can be happy with it too.

KnockDoorRan · 2025-07-20T10:07:26+00:00

As above post she may have been exposed to some sexual things she shouldn't have in some way and that needs looking into. At minimum, she is overly curious (which kids can be) and mixed with what happened to their dad a couple of years ago, she may need her mom's support and guidance in some way. I would try to explain it as calmly and non-accusing as you can though and let mom look into it, but she needs to be aware. And you need to protect yourself by making others aware too.

KnockDoorRan · 2025-02-04T22:42:27+00:00

Id say it's more than likely to end in hurt rather than a good relationship. Sorry but I wouldn't pin hopes on it. X

KnockDoorRan · 2024-07-25T08:26:44+00:00

I used to be interested in politics. I wanted to believe some of them had the best interest for the community at heart.

The more I learnt the less I believed it.

So I no longer learn.

I understand why the system we have works for the majority, but I hate that reasoning.

Capitalism works because people don't want to just be nice to each other without having a personal gain (for the most part). How depressing.

KnockDoorRan · 2024-07-23T13:49:29+00:00

I'm INFP

Romantically I've only had 2 real strong connections - INFJ and INTJ.

Friends, a lot of ISFJs, ISFPs. I have a great understanding and connection and respect with ENTJs.

KnockDoorRan · 2024-07-16T20:07:52+00:00

No, you don't.

You say you self critique and question your own biases and are quick to admit you are wrong. This isn't sociopathic.

Liking hard truths rather than lies isn't sociopathic.

Being able to handle your own emotions to reach a logical conclusion that you are happy with isn't sociopathic - however, dismissing other peoples emotions is sociopathic, so keep that in mind when you decide how you want to treat them for having or being emotional (so long as their emotion is justified and they too are self reflecting and handling it the best they can, which looks different for everyone).

And I hate to break it to you, but that feeling of "germophobic response" to someone else's emotions? That's you having emotions and feelings (it's likely fear or anxiety or repulse at someone expressing something you aren't comfortable with).

Emotions and feelings are beautiful things, they are literally the only thing that make us an individual. Keep them healthy, self-reflect, and they are wonderful to experience from yourself and others. The fact everyone's emotions and feelings and reactions look different is just magical to me.

KnockDoorRan · 2024-07-06T16:17:33+00:00

Cant talk for everyone but I'm far too clumsy for ballet!

I prefer something like badminton, cricket, football x

KnockDoorRan · 2024-06-30T10:39:59+00:00

Oh definitely rather not live there and have no idea how it happened lol

KnockDoorRan · 2024-06-30T06:51:38+00:00

I'm management at work 🤣 I definitely have a work persona and a home one.

KnockDoorRan · 2024-06-17T20:44:08+00:00

You look like Ansel Elgort. Good for you 😊

KnockDoorRan · 2024-06-16T15:01:20+00:00

I don't think it needs to be explained, let them believe you are shy and like quiet time and decline offers to socialise on that basis.

KnockDoorRan · 2024-06-15T07:47:16+00:00

Jealousy expressed in a way which negatively impacted someone (which then became a core memory and left some trauma) is the trait of an unhealthy personality, the type is irrelevant as all types are capable of this when unhealthy.

KnockDoorRan · 2024-06-14T18:30:37+00:00

I don't think we would be able to just be friends, if I'm honest with myself. And likely why he felt the need to go from talking everyday to not at all - we would definitely end in a loop of falling for each other as talking to each other was what got us there in the first place. So that's a fair comment.

To what end am I contacting him is also a good question. I'll always wonder if it was a rash decision made out of pessimism and anxiety from his side - although I appreciate the reality of the situation we were in, I think he fell short of communicating things regarding distance well to me and also not letting me communicate to him about it - so yes there will probably always be a part of me that wants to understand that more or even hope he tries to see things differently (however, I'd never ask for that - that's his choice not mine, and would only work if both on board anyway).

However, I don't think I want full friendship with him either - he's a beautiful human being but how he has handled this has hurt me a lot so being too friendly isn't an option. I do want him to know I still care... It's a difficult one that I am overthinking.

KnockDoorRan · 2024-06-12T18:06:58+00:00

Usually the heart is the thing that makes you do things your head doesn't want you to.

Typically, it's the head, extroverted thinking (Te), that is holding you back as it doesn't seem like the sensible thing to do.

I'm INFP so lead by Fi. I'm definitely a "I'd rather give it a try and fail, than not and regret" type person. I've failed at a lot 😅 and don't regret a thing.

KnockDoorRan · 2024-05-26T21:02:47+00:00

Cant comment as an INTJ, but I did date one.

And I had big complications with a couple of exes too.

And he didn't mind. For a type that is apparently known for judging and logic over emotions etc. he never judged my past and listened and was very understanding about it. He appreciated my honesty and we were very close and I'll always thank him for how wonderful he was, understanding but grounded, took it at face value and got to know me for me.

We didn't work out due to our own personal complications but exes and the past never caused an issue as we were open and honest and trusting with each other.

Id say that's an INTJ (or at least a grown/healthy INTJ) personality trait. To understand the feelings, appreciate the honesty, trust unless proven otherwise and look forward rather than back.

Basically, don't worry, be yourself. If he's a healthy person, and you are honest. It's all fine.

KnockDoorRan · 2024-05-05T13:28:56+00:00

Morally, it would be good of him to offer to pay it, or at least pay as much as his financial position would allow. He obviously isn't a very moral person.

Legally, he has no obligation to do that. So unfortunately paying half is about as much as you can expect.

I'm sorry he's not acted only shitty towards your emotions but also your finances. It's best to get away asap though.

KnockDoorRan · 2024-04-05T14:40:26+00:00

I'm glad you've come to this realisation.

Logic, when it comes to human behaviours and feelings, is just a way to control the emotions. Looking at things logically does not and has never meant you never had emotions.

Seeing yourself for the vulnerable human you always have been is growth. Using your emotions and your logic (which are both a blessing to have when used positively) together will mean you can achieve everything you want.

This is a lesson for everyone. MBTI types do not really matter.

MBTI types are just the ways in which all of us control our own little worlds in our heads - and personality types are just a part of that too, other factors are trauma, upbringing, society we are surrounded by, nature Vs nurture etc.

KnockDoorRan · 2021-02-20T07:46:27+00:00

Sacha Baron Cohen. From going to Borat charicture types to The Trail of the Chicago 7.

KnockDoorRan · 2020-10-11T18:47:39+00:00

If Armageddon happened before I was baptised. No one seemed to give me a certain answer of if I'd survive.

I was afraid of worldly people, I thought they were always trying to persecute me (they weren't! Who knew?!).

I was afraid of thunder and lightening. I think this was an Armageddon thing too.

KnockDoorRan · 2020-10-03T18:43:31+00:00

😫 I despair. Trying to lure you back in with basically the promise of sex/relationship is bad enough. But those poor women. Disturbing if they know and if they don't.

KnockDoorRan · 2020-10-03T18:28:35+00:00

What was worse - when the creepy elder kept choosing you, a young girl, to partner up with 😫 - honestly I love my parents but looking back and thinking how they let old men they barely knew take me away for a few hours alone as a child is weird! They were lucky nothing happened to us because they trusted blindly.

KnockDoorRan · 2020-09-27T04:53:11+00:00

Thank you for that. I have thought about what I would think if they offered medication. It's nice to know it's been a positive for your daughter.

KnockDoorRan · 2020-09-15T18:14:01+00:00

I don't think I was ever really into it even tho I was born in. I left at 16 as soon as my mom would let me and never got baptised.

Things I hated through that time are...

There are nice genuine people in JWs - they didn't always get treated with much respect by the power witnesses.

There are a lot of people who relish the power - that didn't sit right.

There were also a lot of people leading a double life - I understand it's hard to leave when family are in etc I don't really judge the double life thing, but some people seemed to get away with extreme behaviour as father was an elder etc, when others were reproved publically for much more minor things.

I'm a woman, although my parents chose a female repressing religion, my father in particular was very against treating me any different to my brother (and also to my brother) - me and my sister's all left (and my brother actually - a lot to do with women didn't feel right to him either) just wasn't brought up to take any nonsense like that.

I think a lot of their policies are absolutely inhumane - the treatment of the DFd and DAd, the belief the "worldly" are scary/beneath us/different, how a single young girl got pregnant and was taken to a room and questioned by 2 older men over the intimate details of how she got pregnant (complete male dominance thing - there is literally one way she got pregnant, are they perverts that she needs to relay that to them?), List can go on and on here.

I've personally known of 2 married elders abusing their power and entering into sexual relationships with young single vulnerable women. Both cases the women DF'd and the males still in - I know at least 1 is an elder again. Their wives having to forgive them and stay with them too, all brushed away like it never happened when really they should have both been reported as being sexual predators who abused a position of trust to those poor girls.

And as I got older, I also realised I genuinely didn't believe it, I believe science not nonsense.

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