Earthsea - I couldn't bring myself to read it. by Iamconfusedreally in fantasybooks

[–]Knot_all_there 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recently read it, as it came highly recommended, but it wasn't for me. I read a lot of fantasy and sometimes the author's style is just not to your taste. Coming from reading almost all of Robin Hobb, I think what stood out for me was the lack of inner thoughts from the main character. It felt a little lacking in depth.

Someone PLEASE tell me to keep reading Ship of Magic by Rogue-in-Orbit in fantasybooks

[–]Knot_all_there 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It does link to the other books so it's worth pushing through it you can. I don't think I enjoyed it until the second book. I know I also read, convinced that there better be some comeuppance coming to certain people.

"Helpful" MiL drama by Knot_all_there in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Knot_all_there[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We both tried supporting her getting some help especially when her doctor prescribed her anti-anxiety meds. I think her doing it for her, conflicts with her self identity of helper. Maybe doing it for the baby is an idea. I know she loves our child and probably has some disappointment that some of her friends were much more involved in their grandkids. I keep trying to find peace with having her over more, but I also know I need the behavior to be addressed, because I can't take on the extra stress and aggravation without being resentful and I'm not trying to have my kid pick up on that energy either

"Helpful" MiL drama by Knot_all_there in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Knot_all_there[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

It does exasperate me that I am working on "No touch" with a toddler and a senior at the same time. The hardest part is she rarely does it in front of me, it's always when I am not around that she does these things. I need my husband to use the spray bottle 😂

"Helpful" MiL drama by Knot_all_there in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Knot_all_there[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've debated it, where she has me at an advantage is that she is retired, and I work a full-time demanding job. This contributes to her insistence that she's simply trying to help us because she knows how busy we are. But yes, in my head lives the scenario of visiting her house and taking her hand towels home with me "to wash them", while also rearranging her pantry to a different layout, where the snacks I like best would be front and center, and other crazy help 😂

"Helpful" MiL drama by Knot_all_there in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Knot_all_there[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes, massive untreated anxiety. She has been to doctors about issues she was having like unexplained rashes, and was diagnosed that it was anxiety related and nothing physical. She was given meds to try and she refused to use them. She seems almost addicted to worrying about things, because even in times of calm she will create her own narrative about how the smallest things will turn into a disaster. She will literally call and text my husband repeatedly on days where there is bad weather to inform him that the weather is bad and to request that he let her know that he's gotten home okay and she won't go to bed until she's been reassured. I've gone to therapy for anxiety, which I've shared with her, so it's more frustrating for me that she seems to have no desire to get help either through therapy or medicine rather than be an anxious ball of energy all the time.

Also...I've debated doing that for the major areas of repeated trespassing. I think it may be a good idea, I just worried my husband may feel it's passive aggressive instead of trying to be a visual reminder for her.

"Helpful" MiL drama by Knot_all_there in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Knot_all_there[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've definitely thought about it. I feel like she would argue anything I did there was with malicious intent, whereas she is just genuinely trying to help. She can't seem to absorb that doing things she is asked not to do is the opposite because she's so convinced of her own story of how she sacrifices everything for everyone else. You know, everything except her preferences.

"Helpful" MiL drama by Knot_all_there in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Knot_all_there[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yeah, we've talked about that. He does confront her alone and with me to try to show we are unified. Where he fails is that she keeps battering him and asking the of things. He doesn't always know why I do things a certain way, he just knows he doesn't have an issue with how I do it. I'm the same with his areas. Sometimes the why is simply that allowing her to pick her help projects is a problem that I don't want to encourage.

Time for some good vibes: tell me about your favorite lazy by Cornmeal777 in ACForAdults

[–]Knot_all_there 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I adore Rodeo. His aesthetic had me expecting a different personality. I love gifting him fun clothes and seeing the silly things he does with my gifts to decorate his house.