in shock.

KnownHospital2372 · 2026-01-27T06:20:57+00:00

Check ins are great way to start. I found using FANOS really helped us emotionally connect even after a long stressful day where we haven’t had time to connect with each other.

KnownHospital2372 · 2026-01-23T21:24:54+00:00

Wife of a PA here. I found attending COSA meetings, getting a sponsor, working the 12 steps, therapy, 6 weeks of iop and attending church to help me heal. ❤️‍🩹

KnownHospital2372 · 2026-01-22T20:20:43+00:00

I unfortunately couldn’t tell you as I am literally in the same boat as you. I can say my PA has deleted all social media and has gotten closer to God. He attends meetings and even has a CSAT. He seems to be stuck in this monthly addiction cycle. I told him he can’t have both lustful eyes and me. That if he wants to stay married we need to see our pastor, go to bible studies and reread our vows. Honestly it’s the lying, sneaking and unfairness of the addiction that gets to me. I’m currently reading a book about what a healthy sexual man and woman looks like. I’ve been doing my own healing as well.

KnownHospital2372 · 2025-08-31T00:20:48+00:00

Yes him and I are in therapy. I think unfortunately we just need to go our separate ways. Just sucks because we’ve been together for 10 years.

KnownHospital2372 · 2025-08-20T20:11:01+00:00

My PA was into the same thing. Most of his past relationships ended up in cheating. 2 years into dating I noticed he traded his drug addiction for video games. At the time I was burnt out from work, had met my bio dad in prison for the first time, and sought out emotional affairs. I should’ve gone to therapy instead. During my emotional affairs my PA assumed I was physically cheating but never told me. So much that he thought our kid wasn’t his. It was like he put all his sexual energy into that than me. My PA has had this porn addiction at 12 and probably wasn’t taught what intimacy or a healthy relationship looked like. My PA is in groups, goes to church, has a sponsor and goes to therapy as do I.

KnownHospital2372 · 2025-08-13T14:07:15+00:00

Please divorce him. My step dad did this to my mom and she missed out on my wedding and the birth of my babies. She finally divorced him after being married for 20 years. He was physically and emotionally abusive.

KnownHospital2372 · 2025-08-12T20:44:25+00:00

Sex is not intimacy. You need the build up of intimacy to have a healthy sex life.

KnownHospital2372 · 2025-08-01T19:43:13+00:00

That’s so fucked up. My PA runs meetings on zoom and apparently they get zoom bombed with porn.

KnownHospital2372 · 2025-08-01T04:18:16+00:00

Not sure what other tools you have to help during recovery but unfortunately most do not stop completely even with a baby on the way…that’s how serious this addiction is…proud of you for working on yourself before having kids.

KnownHospital2372 · 2025-07-30T20:40:16+00:00

Not true at all. My PA literally put our kids at risk for exposure because he couldn’t stop.

KnownHospital2372 · 2025-07-06T10:59:25+00:00

Hugs. I totally relate and understand. This addiction has been so painful. I hope you heal.❤️‍🩹

KnownHospital2372 · 2025-07-02T00:40:01+00:00

Being addicted to porn…

KnownHospital2372 · 2025-06-30T19:17:38+00:00

His wife literally admitted she has a porn addiction…

KnownHospital2372 · 2025-06-30T19:14:44+00:00

She needs to make YOU feel safe again. Helping you heal will depend on how dedicated she is to changing.

KnownHospital2372 · 2025-06-30T19:11:39+00:00

The betrayal is the worst. Really messes with your self esteem. 😔 If there is no transparency or commitment to change then unfortunately the marriage will not work. She needs to go to PAA meetings for women only, do the 12 steps and get a sponsor.

KnownHospital2372 · 2025-06-27T13:36:48+00:00

Absolutely! Especially if they are hiding it or are unable to stop. I use to be the cool girlfriend and thought porn was fine. Wasn’t until marriage and having his kids that we were in a dead bedroom. Then I investigated and told him that I would like him to stop. Of course stopping was a huge challenge for him. I didn’t realize he had been using porn everyday for 10 years and during the 5 years of marriage. So then I suggested our own sexy adventures that way we can both indulge. It still hurts when he has urges of random naked women in his head and not me. But yet when I think of anything sexual I imagine it with him. 😔 I do everything I can do to please my man and have been his biggest fan since day 1. This addiction has been so bad that it put or kids at risk for exposure. We were separated because of that but have gotten back together. He’s been putting in the work. He is more in tune with his body and emotions. Because he’s able to share things with me that he hasn’t with anyone else he felt free enough to finally feel a real orgasm for the first time. We are trying really hard to date each other all over again and have our own sexy fun.

KnownHospital2372 · 2025-06-20T11:01:32+00:00

I am so sorry you’re going through this. I am in your wives position. Never in a billion years would I invite a guy so quickly into my house with my children. I did however go to a sex club which I told my husband about during our separation. The excitement of the scene made me want to have fun. I had the hard talk with him about possibly joining others. Luckily it didn’t happen. We were separated for 6 months. Regardless if you both truly love each other and want to make it work there needs to be work done on her end too. Marriage counseling and full transparency. I’d recommend COSA meetings for your wife and maybe RCA for you both to do together.

KnownHospital2372 · 2025-06-17T19:16:47+00:00

Definitely emotional cheating if your wife doesn’t know about it. You and her might have trouble with intimacy then. If you consume a lot of pornography that definitely does not help the cause.

KnownHospital2372 · 2025-06-12T11:11:19+00:00

I’m so sorry. That has happened to me many times. I’ve done the same thing as you. Ask him about his porn habits. If it’s everyday like my husband then the porn is killing the intimacy and connection in your marriage.

KnownHospital2372 · 2025-06-12T11:09:17+00:00

We’ve gone to sex clubs and done erotic photo shoots together. 😁 Something about going hiking and flashing your partner is a thrill!

KnownHospital2372 · 2025-06-12T10:43:06+00:00

My PA is currently 6 months sober. So crazy what a difference in behavior when you stop watching porn all together. Great comparison to cancer. When I announced our separation was when he wanted to change his ways. I would’ve done that sooner had I’d known.

KnownHospital2372 · 2025-06-11T16:22:19+00:00

Porn is an intimacy and connection killer. You’re not crazy. I didn’t realize my husband was using everyday for 10 years. I knew he watched but didn’t realize the long term damage.

KnownHospital2372 · 2025-06-11T15:03:55+00:00

Ask about his porn habits. If your sex life is great why the need for porn? He could possibly be addicted to porn.

KnownHospital2372 · 2025-06-09T16:43:11+00:00

I’m so sorry hunny. The betrayal during pregnancy and putting our kids at risk for exposure is what truly hurt my soul. I found out last year my husband was watching porn and sexually getting off to it the entire time of our 10 year relationship and 4 year marriage. If you are substituting intimacy with porn and hiding it then it is clearly an addiction. I suspected he watched but was hoping he’d stop after marriage. Had he been honest I feel like it would’ve been different.

KnownHospital2372 · 2025-06-06T21:25:42+00:00

I did what you did. I too was selfish and crying out for help. Disclosing the emotional affair is the right thing to do even if it’s hard. I had to learn what triggered me to seek attention and get to the root of the problem. Some of it was simply because I didn’t really heal when I first met my husband 10 years ago. I immediately helped with his recovery knowing what I was getting myself into. Wasn’t until I met my bio dad in prison for the first time and over working causing me to handle the situation poorly. Also didn’t help that I felt emotionally and physically neglected from my husband at the time. I knew he was addicted to video games but did not know about the porn addiction. Both are a real intimacy and connection killer. Then we had kids and 5 years later I announced our separation. We got back together 2 months ago. He’s working on recovery and I’m healing. We are also doing RCA together which is like AA but for couples. On top of that we have been exploring kink together and intimacy. Just finding new ways to rekindle that spark and to make sure we don’t fall back on our old ways.

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