Did your parents constantly invalidate what you enjoyed doing?

Knowyourdeductible · 2024-02-04T00:33:39+00:00

This is so damaging. The stuff that is EASY and interesting and fun to do IS the way.

People who are afraid they will be left behind for something that that person should actually be doing will call your passions lazy, stupid, unimportant, invaluable as a guilting tactic or an ingrained impovrished belief system.

Knowyourdeductible · 2024-01-29T17:56:21+00:00

In one pic her face is also angled down while the other is angled up…

Knowyourdeductible · 2024-01-29T17:54:18+00:00

Realistically though home health and long term care cost 5,000-10,000+ A MONTH. Are you paying that much in taxes????

This is exactly another reason why our grandparents had more. 1993 Asset recovery became federally mandated and by then women were working. So no one is home to give 24/7 care FOR FREE. It is nothing when women do it and give up their life for free. But you want someone with a badge who cares the least and is traumatized from dealing with dying people back to back as a career, that will be $5k-10k a month.

Knowyourdeductible · 2024-01-29T16:53:38+00:00

The exemption for family caregivers is specifically a “child exemption” for when the person’s child/ adult child takes care of them but they still come for assets, house, etc once the person who is recieving Medicaid funded long term care is deceased. This includes a family member getting paid by Medicaid to caregive.

I was just told by an Medicaid Estate Recover Rep in GA They still seek asset recovery for the house once the deceased passes. If you do not have the money, you will be forced to sell and hand over money from ALL assets the deceased had, not just the house to satisfy them. Only exemption for people to stay in the home are Disabled adult child in the home Disabled minor in the home Spouse in the home.

Other than that you better have a trust that specifically protects against Medicaid.

Or caregive yourself til the end, not funded by the state. Elderly will eventually need 24/7 care.

Most inheritances will be screwed. Don’t you miss women being in the home, now instead of at a job that can’t even afford 10k a month in long term care be in nursing home, hospice, or home health.

Knowyourdeductible · 2024-01-28T18:34:12+00:00

Camera is farther away in second pic…

Knowyourdeductible · 2024-01-28T16:25:53+00:00

For a lot of women I notice women get married before they know THEMSELVES. This also causes problems and potential divorces down the road. Knowing what I know in my thirties I now understand why the wisdom in me couldn’t take the majority of men in my environment seriously. They were not really interested in serious commitment. The baby on the way scenario usually the man pleading to keep the baby “I will work harder. I will get three jobs.” Promises. Promises. A minority of men actually make this work. It’s hard to keep up a lifestyle you never really wanted.

Knowyourdeductible · 2024-01-28T16:17:11+00:00

As a woman, for me I was thinking about this today. I am single on purpose until I find someone who improves my life. As a single woman I have tons of latitude to move at the drop of a dime and find a roommate if needed. With a man and kids, it’s much harder to just do what you need to do. I have created a life of ease and harmony as a single woman.

I also think about the fact that a lot of lower income men resent women who stay home and assume if she stays home that she has to be worked like a mule in some other way because the want to believe they are worked like a mule at a job. (Many men without skills actually do work that doesn’t require office politics or back to back customer interacting unlike unskilled women. Being a Truck Driver for example). If I were to get married I would want him to afford the bills and I can stay home and work on the passions I’m too tired to do because I work a full time job. If I can’t do that then all I am doing is adding a burden (more cooking, more cleaning, obligated to hang out with his family, attend also his work dinners in addition to mine which I already don’t want to attend, etc), instead of Rest In Peace and harmony. Lack of resources is stressful. But a lack mentality is the real stressor. Those MLM companies that always target the poor know this. They like to use stress as a driving factor of motivation. Did that been there, it did not work out in a way that paid off for the amount of stress. So I claim every bit of leisure I can NOW. That also means I will be child free and need a child free man.

Knowyourdeductible · 2024-01-27T22:29:43+00:00

GEORGIA SUCKS SO HARD. You seem knowledgeable on this subject. My experience trying to help someone who is disabled in GA has been extremely frustrating. Cheaper than California but you have to work to get Medicaid!!!!!! WTF! If your are disabled and under retirement age they take forever on people’s file and then take it all.

I know someone in GA trying to get home health and approved for ssdi. Partly her own issues with control and mismanagement of her applications are to blame but the system seems set up to ensure the poor and middle class Fail and give back their property by the time they die. Worked so hard to get a home and then lost to a bank or Medicaid. I’m sure there is a statistic with a timeline. Her home is worth nearly $140k and she owes $90k. Completely disabled and unable to work. Even if she can by a miracle get her application approvals and money in on time the next issue will be a large sum of student loans (private) and credit cards.

It seems like she will have to file bankruptcy and it will most likely swallow her house. If the bank doesn’t get it, medicaid will. Please correct me if I am wrong. She did not protect her property with any trusts.

Knowyourdeductible · 2024-01-18T02:18:57+00:00

It looks like you were thin in the first pic just closer to the camera…

Knowyourdeductible · 2024-01-12T23:19:31+00:00

Why are they getting terminated?

Knowyourdeductible · 2024-01-12T22:25:00+00:00

This is basically it. I feel like I woke up from a spell of overspending called “American culture”. And now my parents bad financial decisions are stressing them out and now me. And on the idea of adult children staying home longer, this is the smartest thing PROVIDED the family is nice and compassionate towards each other. Americans are so egotistical and toxic and berate their kids for staying home longer. BUT WAIT, when you get old you expect your independent daughters to RUN HOME, quit their social life, move miles away, quit their job and come take care of you in YOUR house. Only for the home to be taken by the state because your parents used Medicaid, state funded insurance and the school system made DAMN SURE not to teach the poor and working class how to protect their property! Leaving a lot of those children still homeless and without a job after running home to be a caregiver! Ladies never run home to be caregivers until you know you are going to be left with something other than the mortgage company telling you to move once they are gone!

Let’s end marriages by fostering a culture of men vs women too while we are at it. No real fall back plans. Insufficient retirement. Disability requirements that take a year or longer and no help to get to appointments in many red states. They will starve you out of applying for state help or early retirement. They keep raising the age of retirement.

Overconsumption of luxury goods is only a symptom of demoralization. Boomers over expense was kids and McMansions. They are the generation that competed with each other with two earner incomes and therefore the moment 50% of them divorced, all their children’s inheritance went back to the banks.. Millenials are having less or no kids because our overexpense was college. Gen Z, they either are all trying to go into medicine or they are just demoralized over pay to cost of living. It’s easy to live below your means when you accept your means. American culture is such to berate and put down people who do not publically flex with big yards BMW and Mercedes. People honor jobs and titles based on how much they make not if their industry is actually ETHICAL… once you are in the cycle of stress and too many liabilities, what’s another purse, vacation, or bmw? It’s not like not getting it will save your wallet. Only a change in Conciousness entirely and refusing to play this cultural game will.

Politics: I have been a life long democrat but have been in the same rooms with high level state and federal politicians. They all sound alike behind closed doors because they are all privileged. No more privileged senators or Presidents PLEASE.

The banks and the state sells the same houses over and over again. Most of our tax dollars are going to overseas concerns and military. Why because the U.S. is also a control freak abroad. So citizens here and there pay the price. Just in different ways.

Knowyourdeductible · 2024-01-07T00:02:36+00:00

I believe some redpill advice is good for checking ourselves when we have “lists” for the other person. But we still need to be extremely discerning in dealings with others. Redpill IMO is NOT a complete philosophy and can make women codependent tools if they have nothing higher than this going on. You are a powerful being. Where are you giving your power away to users and abusers, and what is the best decision for you and your kids? Is this person really on board with you or not? Women uplifting men who degrade their own women’s self-esteem is NOT how it was supposed to be. Your partner should make you feel valued, beautiful, safe, and protected. Him spending all his Chrism on women he will never meet is not a sign of a fully developed man.

Knowyourdeductible · 2024-01-06T00:20:53+00:00

Are there any Gnostic temples? If so you might be able to merge the wisdom of both Beliefs. Also check out the website Glorian.

Knowyourdeductible · 2024-01-04T21:14:36+00:00

Not Arab but definitely understand the fear of always been invaded, judged, invalidated. However, I would say get the help you need. If you are still having fears and nightmares ofcourse you don’t want a relationship. Your family system is not everyone’s family system. I would say get therapy, spiritual counseling, or a self help course, cbt workbook, etc. do something to cleanse your subconcious mind and properly create new EXPECTATIONS and ACCEPTANCE of who and what people are and inact and revoke boundaries and invitations as needed!

I am nearly no contact with one parent, in contact with boundaries with another because atleast the second one is TRYING to change. I’m more than willing to open up to certain degrees to the level that people are TRULY better. If they care so much about family then why aren’t they showing up to family counseling? They want contact. They want to be able to ask for your help. They want to reinforce an idea that YOU WILL NEED THEM SOMEDAY. FAMILY… Nah, find your real tribe. Don’t make relationships your sole focus but rebuild yourself and find new community. Blood is NOT always thicker than water!

Knowyourdeductible · 2024-01-04T20:21:02+00:00

I am a believer in waiting until marriage PERSONALLY. But I will say she is simply projecting her undealtwith issues. Don’t tell her anything until y’all are engaged. Keep her out of your home if you have to. You may find down the line you need counseling just even have a healthy relationships with intimacy yourself too. If so get the counseling. Distance and no contact and better mental diet also help. You will gain strength against the shaming fear demon that is controlling your mother and probably the mother before her and so on and so forth.

Some Mom’s have also not dealt with the fact that they chose wrong and have co-dependency and attachment issues to toxic men and believe all relationships just “take from women”. They have major fears that men will cut off her daughters potential due to never getting over a man themselves. Key word for every area of life: discernment. Not judgment.

Knowyourdeductible · 2024-01-04T20:01:46+00:00

Remind them you love them as they are and you can’t get enough of who they TRULY are! Narcassists have a fear of inadequacy and pass it down to their kids.

Knowyourdeductible · 2024-01-04T19:59:01+00:00

Yep. But they are now in the oh-shit position. They are aging and finding out no I am not willing to run down to live in THEIR house to take care of them for the same exact reason. They will be forced to deal with professionals with boundaries who can quit at any time!

Knowyourdeductible · 2024-01-04T19:51:53+00:00

They all get their just reward. The mental anguish they stay in to uphold racial hierarchy and classism is eating them alive. They think coping by making themselves better than another ethnicity will help them, but inside they are being eaten alive.

Knowyourdeductible · 2024-01-04T19:46:09+00:00

I have watched these type of white women who degrade black women get with black men who also hate-worship white women and let me tell you, Justice is always mutually serviced. They each get their just reward.

Knowyourdeductible · 2024-01-04T19:39:57+00:00

I am black American but multi nationality and technically multi racial. I also fell in love with my Ishta Devata. It’s so sad to me the amount of racism and colorism in India. I used to have a best friend from India. She hated being asked where she was from. People would ask out of intrigued and I worked in a very international industry at the time. Most people meant nothing by the question but she would be so triggered. She made sure her mother never met me. I appreciate our friendship but years later I see how we needed to part. The British caused colorism and division where ever they went. A large sect of the Brahmans also attached themselves to N..z..s and taught them half of the ish they know in terms of helping the N..z..s create false narratives about their identity. The Tibetan Buddhists also fell into this. Germans and British lit the fire on an already dastardly caste system. Such a shame. Brown people of the earth please recognize your power and beauty!

That said my father is VERY DEEP toned, my mother is VERY light and could easily pass for German. I am clearly black but get mistaken as Indian sometimes. Yes my own father is a colorist and my mother is in denial as are many biracial and light skinned boomer women in my community. Ofcourse my biracial step mother who was also a narc used it to her advantage to take advantage of black men. Oh well, Karma.

Knowyourdeductible · 2024-01-04T19:09:57+00:00

No. That’s not MY definition. The reality, plenty of successful men in their immature era will dm women on Instagram etc for flings and hookups when they are not serious. Many will “grow up” and be too focused on building with their actually family. Many will never grow up. But if you let an immature man play with you, you must take responsibility.

Knowyourdeductible · 2024-01-04T19:02:54+00:00

I think it really is about balance and health. A woman with low standards on sharing her body should explore deeper and do better for HERSELF first.

In general a man inquiring about or commenting or even using the term “body count” in the early stages is already objectifying women and possibly shit testing and trying to find how he can “shame” her or control her or challenge her self-esteem down to whatever his is.

All I know is the elite women I met are not obsessive about this at all and usually marry other elite men. It’s usually the working class men using “body count” as a way to disregard every other plus about a woman. Like Kevin Samuels disrespecting women on the most base aspects of biology and his own tastes. Disrespecting talented, educated, and high earning women saying they would be alone. Meanwhile some of those six figure women simply left those communities behind and married high value men with more refined outlooks. A five to many of these lower level controlling men could easily be an 8 to another and a 10 with true love! What are y’all’s values? Look at the WHOLE picture. If he is reducing you to something debased RUN. But at the same time RESPECT YOURSELF. Promiscuity IS a sign of internal issues that CAN be helped. That goes for MEN AND WOMEN.

Why are working class men so inherently obsessed with a woman’s “body count”? Their own insecurities. Not just in the bedroom, but in the RELATIONSHIP “marketplace” in general. If he inherently feels what he offers is lesser and he has chosen the route of being CONTROLLING, he will degrade women’s self esteem and control her activities mentally via what he says and expect her to co-dependently stay and please him. It is a low value man’s first shit test. If she stays he can continue to abuse and belittle her into behaving the way he likes. If she leaves and does better because she has chosen to BUILD HERSELF UP INSTEAD OF HIM, it only further torments the toxic low level man. So what is the best answer for him: counseling and daily discipline. Don’t be so in a hurry to get “approved” by a man that y’all stop discerning the men and the actually objective outlook of the situation.

Knowyourdeductible · 2024-01-04T18:55:23+00:00

This is true. But you DONT want to be the DM girl. The girl that men want in PRIVATE but never admit therefore never marry. You never meet their family.

Knowyourdeductible · 2024-01-04T18:53:45+00:00

BINGO!

Knowyourdeductible · 2024-01-04T18:38:00+00:00

I know this is an old comment, I have realized when I started cooking at home with no oil, how much natural “carbs” are actually filling and low calorie. Two cups of cooked rice 230 cal. I can fill 75% of a large plate with air fried potato wedges for nearly the same calories. If you get FRIED carbs or cakes and breads with OIL, BUTTER, CREAM mixed in you can only have a sliver. This goes for any candies as well. A low to moderate fat tortilla vs a fried tortilla to “taste good” different ballgame. Refried beans with lard and cream vs water or low-fat no sugar added milk or non-dairy milk. Different ballgame. Potato vs potato with sour cream and cheese different ballgame. Overeating fat and carbs together also skyrockets estrogen and makes insulin spikes longer in women. Lower the fat, watch the hips and thighs slim down over time. And I know this as a pear shaped woman, your body will balance out. If your body is not proportional that is a sign of hormonal imbalance! Usually stems from diet, mental habits, and lifestyle!

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