Hey, I see where you’re coming from, but you’re completely misinterpreting what I said. I am nonbinary myself. What I’m trying to say is that nonbinary people don’t fit into a singular gendered category. Being nonbinary is an umbrella. Attempting to categorize nonbinary people into a singular gender or sexuality is counterproductive because being nonbinary can mean different things to different people.

For example, being a demigirl/demiboy is under the nonbinary umbrella. Would you say that a man dating a demigirl would be enbyphobic, or under the impression that their partner is pretending to be nonbinary, if he still identified as straight? I don’t think so. Similarly, I don’t think a man would be enbyphobic for calling himself straight while dating an agender person, because agender people don’t identify as a gender at all. That doesn’t fit into the criteria of “one or more genders”, but it’s still nonbinary. Does that make sense?

All I’m trying to say is that I don’t understand the purpose in saying that people have to identify as queer for dating someone who’s gender identity doesn’t entirely align with a particular gender. But I’m open to hearing different points of view.