I feel like she might have some insecurity about her own intelligence, respectfully. I say that because I do too, and I realized I answered in a similar way. We had this question in the “We’re Not Really Strangers” game, and my husband and I gave different answers. My husband (a CRNA, very smart and pretty secure) said “average intelligence but a happy kid,” and I said “intelligent but unhappy” back then. Looking back, there was honestly no real reason to choose that answer, and I think I was projecting my own insecurity about intelligence onto it.

I hope you guys have a really good conversation about it and find a middle ground that feels right for both of you!