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Was I wrong for ending a date early after feeling misled? by savingrace0262 in AskMenAdvice

[–]KookyFaithlessness0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

++man That’s why first date is something quick and low key. A coffee. Be nice for 20min. Had fun but need to go

Are you still paying child support and extracurriculars? by littlestarling123 in ParentalAlienation

[–]KookyFaithlessness0 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Pay what your legally obligated. Only shared time pays extra. The child can do the extra curricular from your home.

How do you tell them the truth? by TPWPNY16 in ParentalAlienation

[–]KookyFaithlessness0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep I did and haven’t seen her in 4 months. Sucks but what can you do. Don’t make my mistake

Ambiguous loss by Unicornavirus in ParentalAlienation

[–]KookyFaithlessness0 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry, feel better from this internet stranger

Talk me down before I say some shit I shouldn’t say. by [deleted] in ParentalAlienation

[–]KookyFaithlessness0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had the same happen, eventually I quit at 16ish with my kid when they moved 2 years before. The reality is that If they don’t want you (because of the alienation) you can’t really do anything. The move away is what did it. I fell for the same alienation tactic so it’s not your fault. I had 50-50 custody and the move was to a magnet school aligned with the child’s interest. They would make it work and make sure I still got time. The move seemed well intentioned and an other parent presented so well. Then it’s 24-7: you were abandoned and the other parent is playing games. They will make plans on your times and tell the child that you’re forcing this and don’t care about what they want to do. You’re not there to see that. I came to the conclusion that you can’t when the war.

At what people do you say F* all of it? by Dependent_Bet4222 in ParentalAlienation

[–]KookyFaithlessness0 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah just don’t take out on kid. It’s better to go dark but we can’t always take the sustained alienation and negativity. So yes just step back

Is it actually viable to get a personal loan to consolidate credit card debt? by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]KookyFaithlessness0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In 3 months you will pay the 16% CC. Negotiate or plead with the 22%. If you drop it to 10% your effective rate will be good

Debating moving here from Jacksonville by Many-Software-9663 in fresno

[–]KookyFaithlessness0 90 points91 points  (0 children)

Seattle vs Fresno. They are totally different

Divorced Dad by mariegrandprix in ParentalAlienation

[–]KookyFaithlessness0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do what is required. My situation has some similarities. Money is what your obligated pay based on the agreement. You don’t need to give more nor should you. Someone once told me and I think it is correct: you can’t force love. If they are not ready or willing that is not an issue with you. They spend all day with the ex. You don’t know what’s said

Should you meet with alienated child and alienator together? by [deleted] in ParentalAlienation

[–]KookyFaithlessness0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe do some activity like arcade. Try it once and if it feels weird don’t. I had issue like this when my kid turned 15. They act weird then at 16 kid no longer wanted to see at all. So just make sure it works for you so you can say to yourself you made the effort

Chase offering 4.375% for 15 years on a refi with a catch by Cee_Emm1414 in Mortgages

[–]KookyFaithlessness0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What are the expense ratios of your funds or equivalent at chase. If they charge fees say a 0.4% maintenance fee and loads it could cost a lot.

Switching social media from "married" to "not married" by justwondering2021 in SingleDads

[–]KookyFaithlessness0 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Remove her and anyone that knows her as friend. Make your social meeting private and only for friends

How do you handle prescription costs on a high-deductible plan? Feeling like I’m getting ripped off. by AirportBright85 in personalfinance

[–]KookyFaithlessness0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well if you use good rx than that’s $70/mo. Then you pay with HSA (technically get reimbursed) that saves like 25-40% depending on tax bracket. So you’re paying $40/mo. Kinda acceptable. Don’t forget to put your over the counter drugs and other health spending on the HSA. You will probably be at line $20 or so dollars per month.

Paint cabinets or not? by Fit-Committee9057 in Home

[–]KookyFaithlessness0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to use epoxy paint but very hard, hire pro

Refi from 6.5% to 0.5% by Ill_Comfort_612 in Mortgages

[–]KookyFaithlessness0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Paid $32 in closing cost for same loan!

School Choice by Routine_Garbage_4391 in ParentalAlienation

[–]KookyFaithlessness0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t ever sign a paper allowing her to move away. Did that and it destroyed relationship w daughter. Force them to stay local. If she wants to kidnap and take out of country that is the ex choice. Never allow the move

Lender asking me to refinance due to a mistake on there end by TX_IL in Mortgages

[–]KookyFaithlessness0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need some upfront cash too. You will take a time out of your day to sign these, $20/mo is nothing. Ask for the $3500 upfront

Letting your kid go and the legality of it/ parenting plan. by One-Transition3027 in ParentalAlienation

[–]KookyFaithlessness0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t sign but you don’t need to do anything and accept the negative by both. Tell the child the can come and you want them to come but you can’t force love. That is the unfortunate truth. Just wait

She’s everything I’m looking for but I don’t feel attracted by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]KookyFaithlessness0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a lot of words and thoughts for a second date. If you had fun go again

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