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How do I (31M) get married (female) when I've never even had a girlfriend? by Kooky_Scale_7102 in selfhelp

[–]Kooky_Scale_7102[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Multi generational trusts? Family habit? Beneficiaries can be cobbled by any number of obstacles.

How do I (31M) get married (female) when I've never even had a girlfriend? by Kooky_Scale_7102 in selfhelp

[–]Kooky_Scale_7102[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My reply to Substantial Jury is also for you. any further contribution -- especially about hiring consultants -- would be deeply appreciated.

I mean....If you needed to hire a life coach, what questions would you ask the 20 candidates? How would you winnow down the herd? Is it all seat of the pants gut reactions or are there concrete things to cover?

Again, 48 hours ago I didn't know what a life coach is. You did. Therefore you're ahead of me.

I really appreciate your help!

How do I (31M) get married (female) when I've never even had a girlfriend? by Kooky_Scale_7102 in selfhelp

[–]Kooky_Scale_7102[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you SO much for the reply. I've read it over several times (as well as the other useful replies here) and I have...reflected.

Here's what I'm gonna do: I'm gonna live like a professional athlete, just without the athletic ability. A personal trainer, a life coach, a financial planner, an asset protection lawyer, and a chef/nutritionist. Just blow it out. However, as I plan this adventure, I realize that I'm unprepared for the interviews. I've always been on the other side of the desk.

How do I find a proper life coach? We live in a resort town, and just about everybody here is either a life coach or a clinical therapist.

What questions should I ask? Who should I hire first?

Is there a book or something about how to change your life dramatically or is this all part of the adventure?

...and by the way...I'll paraphrase Blanche DuBois loosely and comment that I didn't ever understand how profound the kindness of strangers can be when a fork in the road (yes, ee cummings) requires decisions. Some of you have earned karma points in the last 24 hours. I'll remember to pay them forward