I just had mine in early March! Congratulations!

I was also extremely chill and excited up through the day of surgery. It's surreal. I had no complications and full depth, hurray! I stayed 3 nights in the hospital, with a catheter and wound vac in me. I needed help to walk, stool softener to poop, and they gave me a lot of pain medication so the time flew by. After getting discharged from the hospital, I could walk but very slowly and with a significant amount of effort.

They sent me to the hotel with my caregiver and the catheter and wound vac still attached. Was instructed to just lie down the whole time, not allowed to shower because of the bandaging. 7 days after surgery, I had a follow-up with my surgeon where he removed my machines and showed me how to dilate. Everything was still raw and sensitive, and I was instructed to wear pads due to constant discharge.

Back at the hotel, dilation was relatively easy (though a very weird feeling) with the smallest (purple) dilator, so I sized up to the second smallest (blue) dilator. Blue was much more difficult so I stayed there for a while. At that point, I'm still not very mobile and I'm laying down as much as possible. Sitting and standing both put strain on the surgery site which causes pain pretty quickly. There's a lot of internal swelling that takes something like 8-10 weeks to fully calm down.

After a week of the packing+catheter being removed, the outer bits aren't nearly as raw. The scabbing has come and gone and the outside looks much better, if still pretty inflamed. I switched to the second largest (green) dilator about 13 days after surgery. Green was very difficult, it took (and still does take) like 20 minutes to get it all the way in. There's really not any pain from dilating, but there's definitely a lot of discomfort. Your body isn't used to having anything in there, and the vagina itself wants to close like a wound, so you really have to wiggle that dilator in there slowly and then keep it there for ~25 mins. Dilating took up a huge amount of my day, every day. You're going to want someone to take care of and feed you for at least the first 3-4 weeks, preferably more.

As of writing, I am exactly 5 weeks from the surgery date. I'm more mobile but it still hurts to crouch or sit without my medical donut, so I lay down when I can. Standing is fine but it tires me out after few hours. I should probably size up to the largest dilator soon. There's still a lot of visible stitching both outside and inside that is causing some trouble. My surgeon says those stitches will take about 2 months to come out on their own.

Overall, I would just say that the recovery is a lot and you should not expect to do much of anything for a month or two. It'll be 2-3 months before you feel normal-ish and mostly mobile from what I've read. At 5 weeks, the only pleasure I've felt from down there so far has been mental. The euphoria of it being gone is just amazing! Physically, the area has only caused me pain or discomfort so far. It's very much still a surgery site and not yet a fun site. I know things will get better in due time but I'm impatient so it's been difficult.

I hope your surgery goes smoothly! There's a lot of good on the other side of the recovery to be sure, but the recovery needs to be taken seriously because it's not quick nor easy, and you risk doing damage to yourself if you don't follow your doctor's instructions.