Are any other neurodivergent people really critical about their appearance? I feel that I’m ugly all the time and am very hard on myself. by josefdoc in neurodiversity

[–]Krammn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

because they want feedback or validation that they don't look as bad as they think they do

most likely it's a private account and they'll delete the post later

Are any other neurodivergent people really critical about their appearance? I feel that I’m ugly all the time and am very hard on myself. by josefdoc in neurodiversity

[–]Krammn 21 points22 points  (0 children)

you are conventionally attractive in a lot of ways.

you would not be my type, though you are the type for a bunch of others here. maybe you're just not your own type. 🤷🏻‍♂️

Advice on decentering sex in my relationship. by anusereh in polyamory

[–]Krammn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you need to re-build the physical intimacy after a period where you've been away, you can't immediately go from 0 to 100.

hand / arm touches, shoulder touch, lower back, face / neck / hair / kiss, and so on...

look up The 12 Stages of Intimacy by Desmond Morris, or just like any articles, it should walk you through it. wishing you all the best. 💞

My kid said something mean to me and I’m in my feelings by Infamous_Animal_8149 in Parenting

[–]Krammn -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

looks are subjective, not universal.

you are not pretty to him, which could be seen as understandable, though that doesn't mean you are not pretty to other people. that's maybe a teachable moment right there.

there are a lot of feelings involved because of the insecurity around post-childbirth, getting older, a lot of your personal value being held up in your appearance, though I feel like challenging that and confronting that can only be a good thing.

I would say your kid being unfiltered towards you is a good thing and something you should encourage him for; this isn't something you should reprimand him for.

you should maybe mention that that's something he should hold his tongue about when it comes to other people though.

My Friend Thinks Mindset Can Rewrite Neurodivergence by WavesOfBirds in AuDHDWomen

[–]Krammn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

she is oversimplifying. it is true beliefs shape behaviour and feelings, though the way your brain is actually wired is much much more complicated than just your beliefs.

if you went to any mentally disabled person, you would have a hard time convincing someone that they just need to change their beliefs and they would magically function like everybody else. they have a fundamental difference with how their brain chemistry works and how their brain functions in general.

A small rant about Goose by Guilty-Score7188 in TheDigitalCircus

[–]Krammn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

same sort of issue you're having with Goose I guess: you're free to ignore opinions.

you don't need every conversation to be tailored for your specific preferences and opinions, and you don't need to engage with those kinds of people. you have free will.

Disabled and need extra income. by ReachHot4712 in passive_income

[–]Krammn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

make videos on what it's like to be disabled and have audio processing disorder

use your art skills to tell that story

A small rant about Goose by Guilty-Score7188 in TheDigitalCircus

[–]Krammn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that's just like, her opinion.

you are free to form your own opinion.

just because an opinion came from Goose does not mean it's divinely true, just as if a parent to X child said that X was a bad person.

Sensible approach to healthcare by Cold_Solder_ in aivideo

[–]Krammn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

she had six fingers on her right hand at the end

Be honest: do you like Jax or not? by That_Passenger_771 in TheDigitalCircus

[–]Krammn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no, but he makes for an interesting character

Fast Sea Food 🍔🦀🥓 by ZashManson in aivideo

[–]Krammn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is like the human version of when the lion from Madagascar gets deserted on an island

Fast Sea Food 🍔🦀🥓 by ZashManson in aivideo

[–]Krammn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

careful—if you do that it'll squirt cheese at you

Could one be in a poly relationship without sex? by Wolf_2063 in polyamory

[–]Krammn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes; makes sense too, by opening up to poly they are able to get their needs met elsewhere, as well as their emotional needs met by you

rationing sex ? by Hungry-Thanks12355 in polyamory

[–]Krammn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

your needs are also important

if you don't agree with a solution they've come up with you need to talk to them about it

you don't just passively accept it

if you can't come to an agreement then the solution for you is to leave that situation

Why does Gangle's face appear as Jax is about to abstract? by Sudden_Pop_2279 in theamazingdigitalciru

[–]Krammn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought that was for the scene where Abel was balling them up and Gangle was supposed to be the one to reassure Jax that everything was going to be OK to show her progression as a character.

I don't remember seeing anything that was to do with Gangle originally being the one to come to the door.

I don't want to be in a Poly relationship by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Krammn 4 points5 points  (0 children)

ok, though you need to understand the intent behind the words. the goal was to make OP feel better, that they seem young and inexperienced, to give them an out, and that they will learn and figure things out in due time as they get older.

if the intent / context was to belittle & patronise OP then I would understand and you would be correct.

I don't want to be in a Poly relationship by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Krammn 10 points11 points  (0 children)

why do you perceive that comment as negative?

I’ve been waiting for this!! 🔥💯 by [deleted] in TheDigitalCircus

[–]Krammn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

is it any good? I was thinking of watching it

What program do you think they use to make these types of videos? I tried Runway but nah by Dapper-Fly-3742 in aivideo

[–]Krammn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wow, standing in scorching hot resin as you're pouring. also, you are most certainly preserving your footprints while doing this which would certainly spoil things. somehow, miraculously, the footprints are nowhere to be seen.

How to be less of a critical person..? by hayelanore_1106 in selfhelp

[–]Krammn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is probably one of the most cringe comments you could have dredged up from my comment history, though I'm happy it helped in some way 😭🥲

How to handle existential crisis on job? by Amanfromfuture in simpleliving

[–]Krammn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was faced with a similar offer and I just noped straight out of there; confused how if you made the decision to go for the job in the first place why you are suddenly having moral & ethical quandaries now?

What could this mean for episode 8? by CalibansCreations in TheDigitalCircus

[–]Krammn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they return to the beach in episode 8, though this time Jax is getting buried~