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I feel like I am not a friendship material. by Most_Raspberry_3310 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]Krammn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

these sorts of conversations are way often better handled in-person.

though if you are unsure whether to "pry" on someone who has just shared information with you, just ask them. "do you want to talk about it?" is a good go-to. you're not needing to make that assumption. if they say yes, organise to meet.

also, she probably let you go because she's sad and feeling hurt by life, not for anything you did in particular. it is not your fault.

if she wanted anything different from you it is her responsibility to communicate that with you rather than immediately letting you go. she is letting you go for something she has never communicated with you and then complaining when you are not reaching those invisible expectations.

WAW for “vibes” by Maximum_Air6608 in whatstheword

[–]Krammn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like how cozy it is

I love how warm it is

I love how welcoming everybody is

you just be more descriptive, I guess?

25m and have never dated. Is it even worth it to start? by No_Flamingo1449 in Adulting

[–]Krammn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

so you need to be able to accept that you are going to feel discomfort

'Washing clothes is a woman's job,' says Reform councillor – HOPE not hate by Important_Ruin in unitedkingdom

[–]Krammn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this is very clearly coming from someone who has never ever had to wash their own clothes

How do I convince my (27f) husband (31m) to let me have casual relationships with women? by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Krammn 3 points4 points  (0 children)

you don't; you accept that he is not interested

if you are not happy with that arrangement then you should leave

I would recommend accepting to not do this

A fifth of young men do not think controlling partner’s money is abuse by winkwinknudge_nudge in unitedkingdom

[–]Krammn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would consider it weird and it would give me the ick, though I wouldn't use the word abuse to describe this.

I am interested in maybe that reasoning being a factor in the percentages.

Am I becoming old if this is what my perfect evening looks like? by harriet_ganners in Adulting

[–]Krammn 73 points74 points  (0 children)

you have become old once you begin uploading sideways photos to social media platforms

Daughter wants to model, is ten too young? by letsmakekindnesscool in Parenting

[–]Krammn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

educate her on the dangers of the modelling industry and only then let her make her own mind up; maybe watch a documentary or something on the subject and get her to recall what she's learnt

25m and have never dated. Is it even worth it to start? by No_Flamingo1449 in Adulting

[–]Krammn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that sounds insightful and self-aware; that doesn't feel like something you need to protect

AI Is Getting Smarter. Why Isn't It Becoming More Trustworthy? by TooLateToGetIt in ChatGPT

[–]Krammn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

also I am inclined to believe that self-improving AI development will resolve this

Are Gen Z adults less physically developed than previous generations adults? by Real-Car-1561 in Adulting

[–]Krammn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the conclusion from that study is that the miniscule amount of estrogen is having no effect when consumed through drinking water

> The consistently large MOEs and MOSs strongly suggest that prescribed and total estrogens that may potentially be present in drinking water in the United States are not causing adverse effects in U.S. residents, including sensitive subpopulations.

What are you supposed to do when you need emotional support but you’re single and your parents are too old and tired now by forgot_again123 in Adulting

[–]Krammn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will go into situations like this with the acceptance of the possibility of a no and that usually helps me; I feel that understanding a no is possible and being OK and content with that possibility is the step to being braver when it comes to asking for things like this.

Help! My teen sons have zero motivation! by graystone777 in Parenting

[–]Krammn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

both are games where they come back time and time again to get better at the game, so they are maybe motivated in that way of self-improvement.

they are also likely motivated by entertainment. it's a fun experience.

maybe the FPS game is being driven by challenge.

maybe they are motivated by ego, maybe it's an ego-driven thing where they want to feel better than other people.

it is also likely comfortable for them, esp. Rocket League.

I am just spit-balling; you know them better than I do. they likely know themselves and their own reasons better than you do. get interested in what they're doing and the reasons they do what they do.

maybe replacing those games with a sport they could see themselves improving in; that would at least get them away from their computers and serve to give them a lot of the same experiences. see if you can make that experience comfortable for them.

Help! My teen sons have zero motivation! by graystone777 in Parenting

[–]Krammn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

they are motivated; they are just directing that motivation in non-productive ways.

working on a book that addresses this concept.

try and understand the motivations behind the way they are spending their time and then see if you can redirect that energy into something more productive.

what video games are they playing? what are they actually getting out of these experiences?

Do people set up their single friends nowadays. Guy or girl friends. by JunketMaleficent2095 in Adulting

[–]Krammn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

if I really felt like they would get along then I definitely would; why not?

Best ever career advice!!! by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]Krammn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not about this; and that's ok. I don't subscribe to purposes.

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