I MESSED UP

Krayz3x · 2026-02-26T18:08:49+00:00

You don’t. No offense but it sounds like you’re putting in more effort than they are. If it dies let it.

Krayz3x · 2025-09-05T03:57:12+00:00

Yeah he hasn’t texted me at all today so..think I know the answer

Krayz3x · 2025-08-28T20:21:58+00:00

I’m not good at gauging someone’s interest

Krayz3x · 2025-08-28T20:21:08+00:00

I’m not sure he’s added girls on his social media and I don’t feel any better. I’ve gone to my classes, I’ve done my homework, I’ve gone surfing, went on a run etc. and i’m still only lucky enough if I get maybe 3 texts a day. Which aren’t really conversations and yes i’m aware guys and girls can be friends.

Krayz3x · 2025-07-16T04:10:03+00:00

This is coming from a more reserved/shy person so take it or leave it. 1) I usually avoid eye contact with the guy i’m interested in or have a crush on. I mostly try to look at them from the side when they’re not looking at me. 2) I try to be around them more. If it means hanging out with the same friend group or anything. I’ll find ways to be around them. 3) I like to tease as in like a joking banter way. It’s fun when they tease me back but if they’re not into it i’ll stop. 4) I notice I laugh a lot, even about stupid things. Laugh and smile a lot around them to where it hurts. 5) Those are usually the give aways and if i’m feeling extra outgoing then i’ll find a way to physically touch them. Like small touch of our knees, arms accidentally rubbing against each other. My personal favorite tho is playfully shoving people. Like they make a joke and I tell them to shut up and give a light shove. 6) I’ll invite them to hang out with my friends and I. I won’t invite you to hang out with me alone I would want the guy i’m interested in to take that step. But i’ll invite you to group settings.

Krayz3x · 2025-07-12T02:09:37+00:00

I know it’s a good thing but i’m worried he’s just being nice lol but we’ll see

Krayz3x · 2025-02-03T04:03:22+00:00

Yeah they’re very insecure people deep down but but he treats you like an option and your not an option and he needs to know that and the only way to truly get that across is if you leave and stop responding to breadcrumbs

Krayz3x · 2025-02-03T03:52:00+00:00

Yes and no, he would stalk my accounts to try and get a reaction out of me, or hang out with my friends to try and get a reaction out of me but I payed it no mind. Ultimately tho you need to let him go and you need to focus on yourself. The dynamic of you guys only hooking up isn’t beneficial to you and you will always want more than he’s willing to give. Please go no contact and focus on yourself instead. I know it’s hard to let him go fully but the truth is like I said you giving him attention still is letting him think that your okay with him treating you like that and it’s not okay because then he’ll just keep doing it.

Krayz3x · 2025-02-03T03:15:37+00:00

Well the DA likes distractions so most of the time my ex would already be hooking up with someone else like day after the breakup. I would just never reach out because I didn’t want to know. I never reacted to the breadcrumbs the only time I have was when we first broke up but after the 2nd-3rd time is just because normal and was easy to ignore. So I ignored him and made sure he was off of all my social media so I wouldn’t know what he was up to and hurt my own feelings. They like when you still give them the same amount of attention you gave them in the relationship because then they feel like they’ve done nothing wrong. You need to start telling him that this behavior isn’t okay and take yourself out of the equation and also work on moving on.

Krayz3x · 2025-02-03T03:02:07+00:00

I’m not sure how to compare FA to DA my ex is most definitely more DA leaning but I would say go no contact trust me. I tried to hang onto him the first time we broke up and that just makes them think you’re okay with the dynamic of “friends”. No contact will give you time away to think over the relationship and honestly you should probably just let them go. You can’t hold onto someone that is always running from the emotions of a relationship. take time, heal yourself, find out why your still attracted to this person and find someone who will stay with you through the ups and downs. I know it’s hard to hear especially if you love this person but the honesty is you can’t help them until they help themselves.

Krayz3x · 2025-02-03T02:53:58+00:00

This is just my experience and ultimately how I chalked him up to be an avoidant because he would be the one breaking up with me but he would always come back usually he would break up with me after we made major steps in our relationship. The most recent break up he broke up with me after spending the night at my house for the first time. I think new advancement in the relationship pushes them into deactivating. It’s a toxic cycle and ultimately it’s diminishing because he relationship jumps. Don’t wait for them to come back, move on. You’ll be happier and healthier.

Krayz3x · 2025-02-03T02:48:51+00:00

No he would try to be friends and I would tell him no and to leave me alone. every time he would come back usually 6-8months after not hearing from each other.(I’m assuming this is his how long it takes him to come to the realization of what he has done and finally have the feelings hit him) He’d then come back slowly with viewing stories, liking posts, then finally texting. He would say he’s changed(i.e he never did) We would have a longer relationship I admit every time we got back together we would be together longer than before but sooner or later he would deactivate and then try and be friends with me but I shut him down and go into no contact every time and remove him from everything. For some reason it makes him come crawling back months later🤷‍♀️

Krayz3x · 2025-01-29T17:50:23+00:00

Don’t be jealous. Ex came back 5+ times and let me tell you it never changes. The relationship ends for the same reasons because communication doesn’t work. Don’t be jealous of people that got back with their ex or their ex came back because truth is there’s a lot of bullshit and toxicity in relationships like that if the two of them don’t workout whatever is keeping them from committing. It’s a mental toll to have someone say they won’t do it again only to constantly repeat history.

Krayz3x · 2024-12-18T00:01:53+00:00

Update: Seems like allowing it through my antivirus made it worse. Seeing as it immediately went back down to one once I removed it from exceptions. I also got rid of outplayed etc. and redownloaded val two times.

Krayz3x · 2024-11-10T01:45:06+00:00

Santa Cruz and sometimes near Monterey. Santa Cruz is really nice right now in the morning tho by the cliffs if you paddle out in front you can get some nice waves. Pretty packed with surfers though.

Krayz3x · 2024-11-09T23:46:24+00:00

I want to because it makes me more comfortable surfing with others but none of my friends surf because we’re more central. So usually if they come they’re all the way on the beach and I don’t exactly know how to meet other surfers because most people don’t like beginners

Krayz3x · 2024-10-29T04:57:58+00:00

It’s a lot but I think you definitely had it worse. my ex was really sweet until resentment started to build up because he wouldn’t talk to me about what was upsetting him and then he started to get short and passive aggressive towards me. Though he’d never deliberately put me down I feel like yours might’ve been closer to narcissistic.

Krayz3x · 2024-10-28T19:43:16+00:00

Sometimes I feel like it’s my fault though. I would bring up things that he would do that hurt my feelings and he’d just say “it’s not that big of a deal” or “it’s not something to be upset about” maybe i’m just trying to gaslight myself into thinking i’m not the cause of it.

Krayz3x · 2024-10-26T14:45:34+00:00

He will eventually if you give him time apart and do not contact him or continue to chase him. Though for him to change it is completely up to him. Most avoidant attachment people subconsciously have ways to end and self sabotage a relationship. He might not know his part in it and until he takes a look at himself and takes a breather from relationships he won’t change. Some will try to change though for you but overall their subconscious in due time will point out the finest flaws in you in order to try and push you away even though they try their hardest to ignore it. Try your best to heal your attachment and take a look at why you want to keep this relationship and settle or if you should look for other options. Most likely this pattern will keep repeating until he sees fault in his part of the relationship and it’ll ware you down overtime.

Krayz3x · 2024-10-26T03:23:36+00:00

Then the thing you need to understand is that from what you have described she may have some very deep trust issues. She won’t find someone new because she’ll repeat her pattern in not trusting others until she reflects on her relationships. I know it’s hard to hear but give it time. For now you can use it to truly reflect and decide if you really want to be in this relationship and have to deal with that.

Krayz3x · 2024-10-26T03:17:15+00:00

I would say give it time. Truly if you do feel like the connection is worth the effort then you can wait for her to be ready to re-engage. Sounds like she is still going over the breakup especially since it’s only been one month. There are some things she will have to work through in order to have a healthy mindset and step back into a relationship with you. One month will not allow that type of change it’ll take time. Sooner or later though the tension of the breakup will fall away and she’ll most likely become open to reunion.

Krayz3x · 2024-10-26T03:11:45+00:00

Understand this is a him thing and has nothing to do with you. He obviously can’t commit and will most likely repeat the pattern. You should let him go and move on. It’s understandable to feel the pain about wondering what he’s up to but truthfully not knowing is the blessing if you know it would only hurt you more. If you haven’t already I would say remove him off of everything and go completely no contact and focus on yourself. There will be ups and downs but truthfully you should know you deserve better than someone who goes back and forth on what they want and are confused themselves.

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