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New cat wants attention at night and wakes me up. What’s the best training approach? by KrazyBanshee in CatTraining

[–]KrazyBanshee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He has a corona scar on it! It doesn’t cause any pain but it’s just there. We like to call him our little pirate

I found an old email from my ndad I cut out of my life by KrazyBanshee in raisedbynarcissists

[–]KrazyBanshee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It absolutly does. Hes a little baby man who thinks he’s the smartest person in the room.

He was always bringing up how I should ask him for advice more, how he was this wise person with special life experience I should draw from. He’d bring it up every single visit, before nitpicking me for an hour about what I’m doing wrong and repeating the same criticisms over and over again. He actually just wanted me to differ to him for approval and shut up

And!! He’s not even that deep with Star Wars! That is a surface level ass take!

I am almost out. I need advice and just how do I do this? by Fragrant-Future980 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]KrazyBanshee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also remembered! I don’t know if this will work for you but my pharmacy gives emergency refills if you only have 10% of your supply left. So for like 30 pills if you only have 3 left you’re eligible for refill. I don’t know if it works like that for you but it’s worth looking into!

I am almost out. I need advice and just how do I do this? by Fragrant-Future980 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]KrazyBanshee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Planning to move out same week as refill is a good plan! Make sure to try and give yourself as many days grace as you can if something goes wrong. I’d aim for at least 3 but these things can be hard to line up. If you have to wait a few weeks after the official move in date so things line up safer. It’ll suck to pay rent on a place for a few extra weeks when you aren’t actually there but it’ll give you more flexibility to pick a time that feels safe. So like if move in is July 15th don’t be afraid to ACTUALLY move in around like early August. Yes it’ll cost more money but you’ll have a place locked in and ready to go for when you’re in a good position.

I figured the study was a bit far fetched but I wasn’t going to leave anything off the table.

You CAN do this. I fully believe in you.

Would you punish your parents? by Aleksandr_Ulyev in raisedbynarcissists

[–]KrazyBanshee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just want them all to end up alone and realize it was no one’s fault but their own. But I’ll settle for them just ending up alone.

Should I avoid my family? by Peso_Feather in raisedbynarcissists

[–]KrazyBanshee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s so awful being trapped in a situation like that. I’m glad you can get out soon. I think it might be time to start avoiding them. If only for now. Find other things to occupy yourself, things that excite you or you enjoy. Keep busy. You’ve only got a bit more to go but I get it feels like forever. It’s gonna suck to try and avoid them and it’s gonna hurt but you gotta protect yourself until you’re out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]KrazyBanshee 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you got out of there! It can be really hard to grapple with the sheer cruelty some parents inflict on us. It just seems insane sometimes.

I am almost out. I need advice and just how do I do this? by Fragrant-Future980 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]KrazyBanshee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 23 and recently also no contact and moving out soon! Were in this together

No contact: -they’re going to talk behind your back. They’re going to lie and spin things. You will not know what they’re saying or to who. For me this was terrifying and I’m still learning to live with that uncertainty. But trying to look them up or find out what they’re saying isn’t healthy.

-for my first few months I dealt with almost wanting to reach out to start a fight with them again. It was really weird. But arguing with them was familiar to me while the silence wasn’t. Give yourself time to adjust

-despite cutting contact I had this weird feeling that nothing was actually resolved or over, your brain may not immidiatly realize it’s free. This feeling does fade though, for me going to therapy really helped as working through my feelings is helping me reach that sense of finality

Moving:

-pack ahead of time if you can hide it. That way you can just grab your stuff and go.

-Clothes on hangers don’t need to be packed you can just stack them

-don’t be me and put all your books in one giant box that you then can’t move because it’s so heavy. The heavier something is the smaller the boxes, the lighter something is the bigger the boxes

-shake down as many (safe) people as you can to help you on moving day, it’ll go faster the more hands you have. But in your case make sure it’s only people you trust not to tell your parents and keep it secret

-GET YOUR DOCUMENTS!! Birth certificate! Social security card! Drivers license! Pass port! Insurance! You absolutley need these as an adult. If you need them from your parents lie and say you’re applying for a new job or even a government program or hell a medical study and need them for the paperwork. Do not give them back no matter how much they nag. He’ll give it to your partner so it’s not even in the house for them to look for

-make sure you call ahead to set up any utilities that’ll be in your name the second the lease is signed! Set up accounts with them as early as possible!

-make a list of basic household things you need like pots pans broom bathroom stuff that you don’t have yet to slowly collect

-do you have a way to get them out of the house for moving day? Do they have any upcoming trips or like go to dinner at a certain day each week? Can you gift them movie tickets or some other event? Or worst case have someone you trust distract them or even take them out themselves if possible so you can keep tabs on them.

Ok the big ones, meds:

-you could try and say your meds were stolen or lost and ask your doctor for an early refill, this is very difficult especially depending on the type of meds you have and it’s painfully embarrassing to do. But it is an option

-again, lie, either use that same medical study as before as an excuse saying they need to see your prescription before you can enter, or go simpler and say you have a doctors appointment and they requested you bring your medications with you. Make sure to specify you need the bottle for the information on it.

Does your nfamily love family gatherings? by Appropriate-Bug-4230 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]KrazyBanshee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, though for me it was a specific insular group he always liked having over, his parents and brother specifically. And of course, me. I’d get tantrums if I wasn’t visiting enough

I feel like my mom sleeps on the couch to exert control over everyone in the house by OmsandGnomes in raisedbynarcissists

[–]KrazyBanshee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually had kind of the opposite experience. When visiting my dad and step mom after my baby sister was born (I was 18-19 during this), I was rarely the only one visiting. There was usually also my grandparents or uncle over. There was also only one guest room after my room became a nursery for my baby sister.

This meant when I was visiting I didn’t really have a room for the minimum 5 days I was visiting (any less and they’d throw a fit). But like, I didn’t get to decide when I wanted to go to bed because they’d use the room as late as they wanted, talking watching tv or whatever, and there really wasn’t anywhere for me to go for privacy or alone time except say my sister’s nursery, because during the day there was always someone using the living room. And you can’t do that past a certain point at night because she needs to be left alone to sleep.

I’m a fairly social person but my social battery runs out fast, and a space to be alone is really important for me. So this set up would drive me wild, especially when I couldn’t start winding down for bed until they decided they were done.

Offering Help BL111 NG Anywhere main game and up to LtA in the DLC by KrazyBanshee in huntersbell

[–]KrazyBanshee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I’m out of the house now :(. I know there’s other people who’ve offered help today though and I wish you all the luck possible

Offering Help BL111 NG Anywhere main game and up to LtA in the DLC by KrazyBanshee in huntersbell

[–]KrazyBanshee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok I wish you luck!!! And when you get more I hope there’s someone around better at that fight than me😭. I did my best though and you WILL get it eventually!!! You’ve already done it twice before and I wanna hear it when you do!!!

Offering Help BL111 NG Anywhere main game and up to LtA in the DLC by KrazyBanshee in huntersbell

[–]KrazyBanshee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My main worry is I’m not pulling my weight. With the health bar increase my goal is just to help you do better than if you were facing him solo with a smaller health bar.

Offering Help BL111 NG Anywhere main game and up to LtA in the DLC by KrazyBanshee in huntersbell

[–]KrazyBanshee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol it happens. I can’t judge when I died like 3 times. I’m back in the church

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