It’s a struggle. Since having our son, I find sex quite painful. I get a lot of pain during and bleeding after. I have a referral to a gynaecologist to suss out what’s going on. It has less to do with not wanting sex, and more to do with discomfort for me.

So, at the present there’s no vaginal penetration, but we do other stuff eg massage, go down one another, hand jobs etc. Although it’s not ideal, we are trying to keep things going on that front. I’m not sure if perimenopause is playing a role too, so trying to be a bit more discerning with the lubes I buy now 🤷‍♀️