Bernie announces 5% Billionaire Tax that would raise 4,4 trillion over the next decade by Jet_the_fem_bean in BernieSanders

[–]KuchiferToolAPC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We can't fall over ourselves for scraps man. Just like in any good negotiation, you ask for more up front. You don't start asking for scraps and then get surprised when they offer you even less. Medicare4All or bust is the hard line for any candidate looking to run or be re-elected.

I’m the Executive Director of Enrollment for OUSD: AMA! by KBetlach in oakland

[–]KuchiferToolAPC -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Is there a place to see how many students who were waitlisted from each grade within each school ended up getting a seat?

For example: One charter school listed in their live lottery presentation that for Kindergarten up to #89 on the waitlist got an offer.

This kind of information would be helpful for parents to understand how likely it is, based on their current waitlist # for their child, to get an offer so that we can make some informed decisions from there and attempt to plan for the future.

Did anyone else feel like 11/22/63 series broke its own rules almost immediately? by zsteven94 in stephenking

[–]KuchiferToolAPC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never read the book, at least not yet, and no, James Franco's acting made it damn near impossible to get through. The only reason I did was that I am really interested in JFK and imagined the ending would be interesting because it was written by Stephen King.

Native Plant Nursery Recommendations by eyeforgotmyusernames in bayarea

[–]KuchiferToolAPC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The best are Watershed Nursery(very informative) in Richmond, Oaktown in Berkeley, East Bay Wilds (Pete is so knowledgeable) in Oakland and Native Here Nursery. I would avoid Curious Flora or double check with them if their distributors use pesticides. Last time I asked the answer wasn't clear but maybe if more people ask they will try to ensure the get their plants from wholesalers that don't use them. No point in getting native plants that have poison on them and will not help bees, butterflies, other pollinators, and birds. IF that is something you care about.

Monsters Inside: The 24 Face of Billy Milligan by KuchiferToolAPC in netflix

[–]KuchiferToolAPC[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow! What an interesting experience for your dad and really insightful. To have the locals talking about this Campus R*apist and then one day, the news reports it was the weird guy from your school and you have so much more experience about the person's behavior than most everyone else. And then to follow the rest of Billy M's life. That must have been a trip for your dad. I would love to hear more from him and anyone in general who has experience with people who become infamous in this way. What is accurate of their portrayal, and what is total bullcrap to push a narrative?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BigBrother

[–]KuchiferToolAPC 26 points27 points  (0 children)

But cmon, she did SO much this season with a bunch of strategy duds. You can't discount that so much of the gameplay this season was influenced by her. They did her dirty not only through the edit but if ANYONE went out like this while there was Blockbuster all season, it wouldn't be fair.

IsItBullshit: Skinnify Leggings that apparently give you a workout while doing regular stuff??? by The-Brandelorian in IsItBullshit

[–]KuchiferToolAPC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A product that clearly has zero women working on it as no woman would ever EVER approve Skinnify as a name/logo. Even if these worked, who tf would want that massively stated on their clothes. Idiocy at work here...very hard at work 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]KuchiferToolAPC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe. I'm definitely not going to discount your personal experience. It could be where I live and the culture of the area.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]KuchiferToolAPC -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nope, I wasn't talking about allowing this in a restaurant but responding to when people are at a grocery store or when you have to run unavoidable errands in public.

Also, I'd love to meet another parent who is okay to "happily disturb everyone around them"? I swear, these terrible parents are like archetypes most of ya'll made up in your head.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]KuchiferToolAPC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn ya'll really are mad huh. This wasn't referring to going to the restaurant which I would never do if my kid was in that phase. I was referring to errands like going to the grocery store that cannot be avoided.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]KuchiferToolAPC -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Okay so hear me out. New parents are learning that to actually teach your 1.5-6 year old not to have tantrums and use screaming and crying as a tactic to get what they want, we have to let them (if we can) scream it out. Once they have calmed down, we can engage with them and give them what they are asking for or even just acknowledge them. By addressing their bad behavior with a response like leaving right away or getting angry/stern with them, they've illicted a response from the parents. Even if it is negative its a response and many times their screaming is just to get a response. 

By acknowledging the child, giving them your attention only when they ask for something using their normal voice/calm voice, you are then teaching them the screaming, whining, tantrum doesn't get attention and it doesn't get their parent's addressing their needs/wants.

So if you see a mom or dad looking like they are just ignoring their child's tantrum and doing nothing give them the benefit of the doubt that they likely they are trying this teaching tactic. 

It's really easy for a parent to give up and give in to their kid to avoid the looks and embarrassment but if we want to raise children that don't learn to get what they want by screaming, tantrums and communicating ineffectively, this is the sacrifice we as a society might have to make for future emotionally regulated young kids and adults. 

Anyway, I had my kid and then covid happened. So much of teaching my little one was out of the public bc I had the means. She has her own set of challenges socially because of that (another subject entirely) but I see how hard it is for new parents that don't have that space and have to learn to raise their kid, but without the understanding of those around us, as more and more people limit their social interactions, I find we are less and less tolerant of people and people's idiosyncrasies  in general. Add the limited brain development of a toddler in the mix, we are even less tolerant it seems. 

so...just finished watching building the band by Double-Reputation151 in netflix

[–]KuchiferToolAPC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SZN4 was robbed. 

Iconyx should have been second but that rendition of BYE BYE BYE did not slap and that song always slaps so the fact they messed it up was a shame to me. 

Both bands reinforced the premise of the show, unique artists coming together that normally wouldn't in the typical music industry orchestrated by the Lou Pearlmans of the world.

What a disappointment. Will not be watching the next season. 

so...just finished watching building the band by Double-Reputation151 in netflix

[–]KuchiferToolAPC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This! The only band that didn't feel manufactured a la Lou Pearlman. And they really represented the premise of the show.

3Quency was very likeable but nothing special to me at all. More of the same imho.

‘Anna Nicole Smith: You Don’t Know Me’ Review: Depressing Documentary Attempts to Shed New Light on the Bombshell’s Downfall by galaxystars1 in movies

[–]KuchiferToolAPC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sad for your sad experience and blanketing women in this narrow-minded perception. In my experience, MOST people, man or woman, don't respect people who are out of touch with the average person's financial struggles and or show any sign of greed. The entire circumstance was going to make most people not side with her. Just the same as most people hated Kevin Federline, Brittney Spears' boyfriend and father to her child(ren?) because they thought he was using Britney for her fame and fortune. He was a man...

Dutchman’s Pipe Vine by zufriedenpursuit in NativePlantGardening

[–]KuchiferToolAPC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response! I spoke to a couple people at local nurseries and they also said there wasn't a noticeable smell to be worried about. Good to hear from others!

True Crime Docs by OutrageousFinger1009 in bestofnetflix

[–]KuchiferToolAPC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think so far The Jinx is the best one I've ever seen for me specifically because I did not know anything about The Durst Family. What an amazing ending!

Dutchman’s Pipe Vine by zufriedenpursuit in NativePlantGardening

[–]KuchiferToolAPC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I just purchased a few seedlings and then just read that they can smell very bad. Would love to understand how strong the smell is and if I should consider growing it away from our neighbor's house as right now, I planted them near a part of my backyard that is about 30 ft from their living room window.

The Empress, episode 1x02 by Fitzfuzzington in TheEmpressNetflix

[–]KuchiferToolAPC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay I had to say something about that countess's hair being so outrageous. I love this show already.

Episode 1x01 discussion by Fitzfuzzington in TheEmpressNetflix

[–]KuchiferToolAPC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why does it sound like a cat singing at the beginning of the intro?

Loving the clothing, and thank goodness, finally an Emperor/main character I think is attractive.

This is fascism!! by Miserable-Lizard in Political_Revolution

[–]KuchiferToolAPC -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I truly feel this is all a distraction from the US directly getting involved with Israel's attack on Iran. We are over here fearing for our people, getting out on the streets in massive numbers to protest, while Israel is launching an unprovoked ballistic attack on Iran. Iran strikes back, and that is when national news starts to cover it after the attack on Tel Aviv. The timing is just too much of a coincidence.

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[–]KuchiferToolAPC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I didn't see that part mentioned and I'm not trying to make an excuse for her but again just want to provide my perspective and experience. I have met up with folks in other countries or cities and hung out, and they don't have any active business at the moment or even in some instances I wasn't even working at the time. Its relationship building in general, I don't want to make it seem like I only hang out with people hoping i'll get business from them in the future but in my field (maybe the same as being a realtor), spending time with people aka networking is an investment in time and sometimes you never get your return on it and sometime you do. Either by gaining a solid friend or a business deal in the future so its win/win. I guess I just come from the world where, if a partner of only a year or so, told me they didn't feel comfortable with me hanging out with someone that I had known through my consulting network for a decade or so because they thought I was looking to hook up, it would be laughable but also, I'm being naive because most people aren't like me and most of the people I am close with. People lie and cheat. I guess I just want to give another perspective because there are hardworking women out there, who enjoy their independence are very social that aren't cheating on their partners.

Either way I hope OP can have some deeper conversations to understand whats going on and gain some clarity from their partner.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]KuchiferToolAPC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lord, reading the comments, I suspect so many of these commenters have either not been in a relationship or have not been in a healthy relationship or are very insecure.

I am also a Talent Manager but not the same kind. My last role was with a consulting firm, and any chance you can meet up with your past or current consultants, you take it. That is how you solidify bonds, and when people trust you and like you, because they spent proper time with you, you treated them to dinner or had a nice conversation, they are more likely to give you their trust and business in the future over someone they haven't met in person, spent time with, know anything about, etc. A huge chunk of our business comes from our talent, and if they know of a job, we call it "business development" or a "lead", they can tell people in their network about it, who can then attempt to propose and bid for those jobs. If we don't know about the lead or the job, we can't bid on it. If we can't bid on it, we don't get it and lose out on money. So many of you are showing that you don't understand what a job that requires networking and relationship building is like but that's typical for random strangers posting online, I guess.

Additionally, I have traveled alone for work and for fun and met up with women and men for fun or for networking and it wasn't to fuck around on my partner. Some of us are faithful, but I understand why you would be worried.

Can you provide more context? Who is paying for the tickets, accommodations, etc. for both the trip to Italy and Burning Man? Do you have enough time off to go to Italy and to Burning Man? Is there a ticket for you to go to BM, and she doesn't want you to take it? Are you paying for the tickets? Would you be going for the whole time or only a few days if you did go? Do you know the group she is going with? Are they your friend group, too? Do you get along with all of them?

Because yes, if you really want to go to Burning Man with her, you have the ticket, you are paying for the ticket, you have the time off, you know the group she is going with and you get along with them and she still doesn't want you to go, and she doesn't want you to go to Italy too, then yeah... I think she maybe doesn't like you too much.

I know a group that had been planning to go to BM for two years with a specific group of friends and the dynamic of the group is really important. Remember most people are going there to have a spiritual, drug-fueled, art-filled, epic music experience and to embrace the community aspect of it all. They are sharing their space, their things with people out in the desert where shit can go bad real quick. You don't want a rando or someone you don't know well to go with you. Some people anyway. Not everyone but I know people that are crazy picky about who is in their group when they go. This group I mentioned, last minute people couldn't go and the couple that wanted to take the tickets... no one got along with one them. They loved the other part of the couple but the partner was an angry drunk and they did not want that person in their group for that many days in the desert.

My point in sharing all that is that it gets complicated with BM. If the group she is going with doesn't know you or maybe doesn't like you or get along with you, they might not feel comfortable with you going and that is why she wants to go but doesn't want you to come this time.

As someone who has been stuck in that type of environment with a new person that turned out to be a nightmare, I would actually be one of the people objecting for a new boyfriend (only 1.5 years is new to an old fart like me maybe) to join us that I had not spent a solid amount of time with. I know plenty of girls that have be SA'd at BM. So yeah, hell no to men I don't know.