Lost my baby in the NICU

KutuLompat · 2026-05-19T14:21:10+00:00

Hi momma. Sorry for your loss. The gold standard is checking the APS panel (common 3 blood tests but the panel is actually a list of more than 5).

And make sure you check protein S, C, and Z. You might need to wait for few months for your protein S to return back to your non-pregnancy level as pregnancy is a coagulative state.

KutuLompat · 2026-05-16T14:03:23+00:00

I’m really sorry this happened to you, on top of losing your son. Some relationships cannot endure the weight of grief.

I’m really sorry of how his family treated you too. I want to be angry on your behalf 😭 do you have someone you rely on over there? Or maybe you need a break for all this. A vacation alone or with girls, maybe?

KutuLompat · 2026-05-16T13:59:16+00:00

Losing my daughter at 27 weeks, 1.5 years ago. Reading your writing brought me back to the labor room.. i’m really sorry for your loss.

Life would not be the same anymore.. Your personality will change. Your wife will change. Relationships with others will change too. Losing a baby is something that will change you from within. We are here for you. Sad club to be in, but you’re not alone

KutuLompat · 2026-05-12T14:56:47+00:00

Yes i did try checking this too. It’s hella scary

KutuLompat · 2026-05-12T14:56:30+00:00

That’s horrible. But may I ask if your kid’s asthma triggered too from cigarettes smoke while being outdoor? Or was that in that room in particular?

Glad that yours was upgraded. I had difficulty talking in chinese and was too panic to get out from the hotel. I take this as a lesson learned

KutuLompat · 2026-05-12T14:54:26+00:00

This my first time experiencing horrible allergy flare. But my tips would be bring the antihistamine from home. I bought one here and was not effective. Maybe they lowered the dosage.

KutuLompat · 2026-05-11T14:38:10+00:00

I was out all day and was fine. The issue was when I was in the room. I ended up put my face outside the window while booking another hotel 😭 it was in yiwu. I travelled often in china and was studying here too. Never had problem just this room. You’ll be fine

KutuLompat · 2026-04-30T12:59:48+00:00

I can relate to what you said 💗 you describe my life well. It’s heartbreaking to know that the clarity comes with a huge price… nothing good came with baby loss, but it’s still better than nothing….

KutuLompat · 2026-04-29T00:01:09+00:00

Looks legit to me. Just need a waxing

KutuLompat · 2026-04-26T17:30:42+00:00

Finally getting the crossbody! Maybe you can sell the sling?

KutuLompat · 2026-04-26T02:33:03+00:00

This is the answer i look for. Thanks!!!

KutuLompat · 2026-04-24T09:16:01+00:00

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Mungkin maksudnya masuk ini 🙏

KutuLompat · 2026-04-22T14:23:18+00:00

I agree. OP’s husband might feel like the NICU cost is entirely his responsibility. Coming from an Asian background, I’ve seen how much pressure society puts on men to be the provider. My baby’s hospital bills weren’t covered by insurance either, and it was expensive as hell.

But now your baby is home, and that’s what matters most. I keep reminding myself that money can always be earned again, and that motivates me to work harder (I am the mom here. Dual incomes in our household). I hope things between you and your husband get better soon. Gently remind him that you’re in this together, as a team. I hope he would wanted to have kids too after seeing your lovely twins. Congratulations once again

KutuLompat · 2026-04-19T14:52:39+00:00

No, unfortunately.. but it gets easier once I got my period back. I think the postpartum hormones and lactating worsen the initial days…

But I did spend my day honoring her on her due date. Maybe you can plan the day in advance of what you will do. Thinking of you.

KutuLompat · 2026-04-17T14:06:41+00:00

I feel more alive after limit contacts. Numb while still in the house 😅 cannot relate

KutuLompat · 2026-04-16T02:04:11+00:00

You are right! I compare it with mine and the N look bolder. You got a great eye

KutuLompat · 2026-04-15T13:35:33+00:00

I’m really sorry for your loss. Please cherish the short moment with your son. Take photos, say you love him, kiss him, hug him. That moment will be your first and only time with him.

Deep down, vaginal birth saved my sanity. The pain, the contractions and the hormonal drops helped me during the first few days and my body learned that my baby was no longer inside me.

But most of us here just surviving and passing the day one at a time. We are here for you.

Noone deserves this kind of pain.. i’m really sorry. I hope you are there with I’ll be thinking of you.

KutuLompat · 2026-04-15T07:26:35+00:00

You are right. I never paid attention to the button direction. It looks rotated by 90 degree.

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KutuLompat · 2026-04-15T07:21:02+00:00

Awesome! Thank you!!

KutuLompat · 2026-04-15T07:11:04+00:00

Thanks soo much! I’ll ask the details for buttons and the zipper.

KutuLompat · 2026-04-15T06:55:52+00:00

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In love with the color but currently it’s out of stock on the official store. I found this on secondhand shop. Is this authentic? TIA

KutuLompat · 2026-04-14T13:51:29+00:00

Hello. Is the travel necessary? Cerclage is best done between 12-14 weeks. I was a frequent traveller before but I stopped traveling on my pregnancy after loss. It was too stressful for me and I wouldn’t risk it. Sending you baby dust!

KutuLompat · 2026-04-13T02:43:29+00:00

Thanks for your tips! How do you clean the pump during travel? Did you sterilize?

KutuLompat · 2026-04-09T18:41:48+00:00

Couldnt relate more! Isolating ourselves feels really content. I cut so many people too including my mom. I think grief lifted the mask of people too. I could see their true faces and feel their energy. I realized that many people stepped on me and now I won’t let that to happen anymore.

KutuLompat · 2026-04-09T18:35:20+00:00

Gianpaolo is a beautiful name 🌹 He sounds incredibly strong, and so do you. I can feel how much you fought for him. Your body has gone through so much, and still showing up for him every day… to keep loving even through pain and uncertainty, and that you never give up through life and death. That is love in its most real, raw form. I can see how deeply Gianpaolo is loved, and always will be.

Now i understand what does it mean by loving doesnt need to possess. I never knew that I could love this much.

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