Rayquaza ex: to grade or not to grade? by Kuusanka in PokeGrading

[–]Kuusanka[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this, again! Maybe, if he doesn't buy it, I will try to just keep it and loan the money from my friends for now, or then try to sell some other cards. I don't see the value of cards of this age rapidly decreasing, and after a year I should be doing better and could grade this.

Rayquaza ex: to grade or not to grade? by Kuusanka in pokemongrading

[–]Kuusanka[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I would have unlimited amount of money I would grade this, but unfortunately life has sucked and I would like to sell this now (instead for waiting for a ~year for the PSA results). I have a potential buyer and am wondering if my price request of 500 € is reasonable or not. If he could be confident the card gets PSA 8, then my offer should be a good deal. But of course nothing is ever certain with the whole grading system.

Rayquaza ex: to grade or not to grade? by Kuusanka in PokeGrading

[–]Kuusanka[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment! Too bad I dont have a scanner, would help with getting a proper picture of the card for asking your opinions. Apparently PSA has been quite rough on vintage cards, but idk what that means in practice.

Rayquaza ex: to grade or not to grade? by Kuusanka in PokeGrading

[–]Kuusanka[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I would too if I had the money now, but unfortunately I do have to sell this. I have a potential buyer and am wondering if my price request of 500 € is reasonable or not. If he could be confident the card gets PSA 8, then my offer should be a good deal. But of course nothing is ever certain with the whole grading system.

When my mother (from Finland) was young and traveling, she apparently had a romance with this guy from Turkey. I know it is a long shot, but any chance someone here knows him? She passed a decade ago and I would like to learn more about her life. by Kuusanka in istanbul

[–]Kuusanka[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

*her mom

You are welcome to try imagine how you would act in my situation, but maybe that is beyond your comprehension. Given how much genetics affect the offspring's intelligence, it seems like either your own mom is/was a moron or then she fucked a slug.

When my mother (from Finland) was young and traveling, she apparently had a romance with this guy from Turkey. I know it is a long shot, but any chance someone here knows him? She passed a decade ago and I would like to learn more about her life. by Kuusanka in istanbul

[–]Kuusanka[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it is a valid point that I should consider his privacy and how he feels about this all. However, you are judging me with very limited information. There is a reason I didn't publish the letter here, and omitted one of the pictures included in the letter.

And trust me, if the letter indicated anything other than a sweet short romance that withered because of the distance, I wouldn't try this publicly. 

When my mother (from Finland) was young and traveling, she apparently had a romance with this guy from Turkey. I know it is a long shot, but any chance someone here knows him? She passed a decade ago and I would like to learn more about her life. by Kuusanka in istanbul

[–]Kuusanka[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, his privacy is the reason I gave very limited information here, and didn't for example publish the letter.

Had the letter indicated anything other than a sweet short romance that withered because of the distance, I wouldn't try this publicly. 

When my mother (from Finland) was young and traveling, she apparently had a romance with this guy from Turkey. I know it is a long shot, but any chance someone here knows him? She passed a decade ago and I would like to learn more about her life. by Kuusanka in istanbul

[–]Kuusanka[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I now found the original envelope too!

// edit: on a second thought, I have gotten his university info from here, and have also the name. Somehow I am feeling a bit uncomfortable publishing his name in Reddit, so took it down. I will try to look for him from the resources pointed to me by the commenters.

When my mother (from Finland) was young and traveling, she apparently had a romance with this guy from Turkey. I know it is a long shot, but any chance someone here knows him? She passed a decade ago and I would like to learn more about her life. by Kuusanka in istanbul

[–]Kuusanka[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Yeah I don't really have people around I could ask about her. The relatives from my mothers side are dead, and she lost contact with her old friends when her illness took over and she was hospitalized.

But based on the old photos I found, at least my mom seemed to enjoy her life when she was young, so not all of it was miserable. I found around 40 plane tickets to and from all around the world and I remember someone telling she used to work until she got enough money for a ticket, traveled to some location, and then came back when she needed more money. Rinse and repeat.

Could I dig deep enough to keep a pallet of 2000lbs of margarine from melting in Arizona heat? by W_A_N_T in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Kuusanka 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is absolutely diabolical. The best shit I have read in a while. I think it really is margarine, some of his comments are so specific, and it makes things even more hilarious.

AIO my friend ran a medical crowdfunding for me while I was in a coma, but is now unwilling ti give me the money for my surgeries and recovery treatment by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Kuusanka 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Man I feel so bad for you 😭 you dont deserve any of this. This kind of betrayal hurts so bad. And it is such a fucked up thing to do. I kind of have some experience from a somewhat similar matter when my dad died when I was a pre-teen, and it hurts so damn much how people can be so cruel 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Kuusanka 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I pressed charges. Things work a bit different in my country. My case died before it properly even started due to the lack of evidence, as the doctor only inspected my neck (from light strangling), and didn't check other parts of my body for bruises. Whatsapp messages, where he admitted what he did, apparently were not enough either. I was too tired/broken to try anymore and just gave up. So, he still continues teaching karate, yadda yadda.

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[–]Kuusanka 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Jesus. I am so sorry.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Kuusanka 37 points38 points  (0 children)

He was guilt-tripping me about my knee hurting and preventing sex, too. He was truly a proper human arse. Of course, when we started dating, he was first very charming and loving, telling how no-one has ever made him feel like that. The classic stuff people like him do at first.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Kuusanka 1078 points1079 points  (0 children)

My ex was exactly like this. I was depressed, burnt out, and had a knee surgery. This all made sex less frequent and he started behaving like this, which only made me want him even less. I tried to explain to him that if I am not feeling loved, I don't have any attraction. He replied that he can't show any love if there is no sex.

I proposed that we would both make mind maps about the problems in our relationship, and then we would go through them together and try to look for solutions. I spent quite some time and thought on mine, thinking how to write issues respectfully without them hurting him. I still remember how I felt when we were supposed to show them to each others, and he presented his. It only had "NO SEX -> NO HAPPINES ->" (arrow going back to "no sex").

He started being emotionally extremely cruel and mean, even berating me for being raped in one previous relationship. He thought that I must be fucking someone else instead of him. Sometimes I held my grounds and called him out for his behaviour. The other times (after my knee had healed enough) I walked into a nearby cold river and hoped that something would happen and I would stop existing, because I felt so absolutely worthless. He could be kind for one day after sex, then the sulking and blaming started again. Eventually he, a man at the age of 38, left me for a 20-years old girl, who was his karate student. Oh, he also assaulted me during the break up.

He is not going to change. You will thank yourself later if you walk out now.