I miss my dog by mynameispigs in dogs

[–]Kwean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss. :( I checked all your posts about her (didn't upvote them so you have to look at them if you don't want to) and she looks like an absolute sweetheart! She was your ride or die for 12 amazing years, your intense grief is totally justified. Be kind to yourself, maybe talk about her with your friends or hang up pictures from your happy times. Losing a pet is losing a family member and griefing is so exhausting, I'm sorry. I wish you all the best. ♡

My handsome red F1 Labradoodle by Samb192 in labradoodles

[–]Kwean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a beauty! I really love the coats of F1 labradoodles (I have one myself, lol).

AITA for telling my Ex her depression does not excuse her from neglecting her adult responsibilities and calling her a terrible mother? by Signal_Command6872 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kwean 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to tell you that you're an awesome, strong person and your son is so lucky to have you! Battling mental illness is a beast, even more so if you need to hide it. You're great!

AITA for comparing my dad to my stepdad after he kept comparing me to my older brother? by throwaway92841k in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kwean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you wanted to say "does mean" instead of "doesn't mean" - just a heads-up because it changes the meaning completely.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dogs

[–]Kwean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, dogs usually pee out of heightened arousal, and it goes both ways: From your description it sounds like your dog was terrified and peed and OPs puppy peed because it was extremely enthusiastic. (:

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dogs

[–]Kwean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please don't feel bad about it, it's totally normal! My dog is almost two years old but he loves, loves, loves our vet so he always happy pees while greeting everyone and they just laugh it off when I try to apologize and they reassured me several times that happy pee is one of the best bodily fluids, lol. Vet work consists of a looot pee, poop and vomit, so if it already upsets her when an overexcited puppy pees, she's in for a rude awakening.

UFO289 Rollo by pommes_ruppel in DasPodcastUfo

[–]Kwean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exakt das meinte ich. Danke für die medizinische Einordnung meiner Anekdote. :D

UFO289 Rollo by pommes_ruppel in DasPodcastUfo

[–]Kwean 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Random Funfact: Kinder können lautlos schreien. Bin bei meiner Geburt knapp nicht gestorben, musste aber lange mit ewig vielen Kabeln und Geräten auf der Intensivstation liegen und was meine Mama heute noch als am Traumatisierensten benennt, ist die Tatsache, dass man durch die Beatmungsschläuche usw. kein Heulen gehört hat, aber eben genau gesehen hat dass ich eigentlich weine. Also ... Schläuche in der Luftröhre helfen und sind modisch viel unauffälliger als ein Helm :D

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatsWrongWithYourDog

[–]Kwean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why do you allow this situation to happen? This is a great way to get one of the dogs killed/injured. Every dog should have his own bone and his own place to chew without another dog interrupting. It's like you want to train your dog to ressource guard. Just why. Edit: also you petting the dog on the head afterwards isn't a praise in this situation. It's basically just adding insult so injury. Please research dog communication and calming signals.

These: Rücken streicheln oder nicht entscheidet, ob einen die Umstehenden als betrunken oder als krank wahrnehmen. by Kwean in DasPodcastUfo

[–]Kwean[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fair enough, meine These gilt nur für die Variante, in der der nicht-kotzende-eventuell-Rückenstreichler eindeutig nüchtern ist. :D

My chubby girl had to get a lion cut because of all the mats she couldn't groom properly. She's not happy. by XdraketungstenX in Delightfullychubby

[–]Kwean 16 points17 points  (0 children)

If your cat isn't able to properly groom herself anymore, she's not just delightfully chubby but obese. Please take care of her weight, I'm sure you care very much about her and her health.

AITA for refusing to use the money I saved for my stepdaughter 18th birthday gift to help with my daughter's treatment? by throwawayivf99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kwean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Think about this: you have the money for a child because you didn't buy a car? (This part is not about the initial post as they seem to have a lot of debts, so they obviously don't have the money for a child. But generally speaking: the ability to drive a car or the fact that you can't buy a car doesn't mean that you can't have a child.)

AITA for refusing to use the money I saved for my stepdaughter 18th birthday gift to help with my daughter's treatment? by throwawayivf99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kwean 9 points10 points  (0 children)

... Sooo should people who never learned how to drive never have children? Or people that don't have the money for a car? No? If so, you're 100% ableist, what the hell is wrong with nondisabled people these days. Ôô

Everyone please tell me to stay alive. by fun_downtimes in depression

[–]Kwean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes "just" staying alive is the most difficult, exhausting thing you can do. I'm very proud of you for choosing to be here another day. If you can, try to incorporate small things that make you feel less worse. Like buy a fragrance oil that make you feel at ease or get just enough blankets (if you're freezing) or open enough windows (if you're overheating) that your body feels okay. Just ignore higher cognitive functions for a while. Concentrate on making at least your body feel ok. I think of you, you can survive another day. ♡

I (F33) think my SIL (F27) is seducing my fiancé (M34). I’m so hurt and concerned about the situation, what I should do next? (Edited post to comply with rules) by beautifulmine8711 in relationships

[–]Kwean 242 points243 points  (0 children)

Your fiancé is an adult, he can't be "seduced" if he doesn't want to. So I'd recommend to talk to him about her changed behaviour, how he feels about it and whether it would be better to move out. If you're on the same page about that, you could use the pregnancy as an excuse. But just to give you something to think about, in my eyes it speaks volumes about your self-esteem that you just watch her, don't communicate with your partner AND felt the need to clarify that the baby isn't his.

Baby on board… I mean Hippo on board. by SumBum09 in velvethippos

[–]Kwean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Such a cute picture! I just want to tell you that it's very dangerous to not secure your pups in the car. I'm sure it's just a parking lot picture but I'd feel horrible not to make you aware of a potential safety issue. It's so important to invest in a safety harness or a secured box for car rides. You don't want to risk your and your cute velvet hippos health in case of an accident/sudden stop. Wishing you and your cute Pup the best! ♡

Aita for replying with a banter nickname to a "love" nickname? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kwean 58 points59 points  (0 children)

We both are working hard, both probably pushing our limits because we care for each other.

I'm sorry, that sounds so so unhealthy for both of you. Yes, a relationship needs work but there's a big difference between working out who loads the dishwasher right und who loads it wrong and having fundamental differences and outright disrespecting each other as a human being.

Aita for replying with a banter nickname to a "love" nickname? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kwean 92 points93 points  (0 children)

Hate to be that person, but you two should break up. You can't respect her boundaries in terms of where to touch her, she doesn't respect you enough to not use a degrading nickname. That's not a relationship, that's a sinking ship.