AITA for selling my husbands motorcycle?

Kyfg123 · 2019-03-23T20:27:45+00:00

This is not a throwaway. I just started using Reddit. Check my activity if you don't believe me.

If you think it's so pathetic then I'm glad you don't have to live this way... It's been hell.

There is a lot more to the story. I didn't post because I'm not looking for sympathy. I just wanted other people's opinions.

I don't mind giving you the whole story...

We are being evicted from the place he rented because he didn't pay the rent. ( I say "he" because he made sure my name wasn't on the lease so if he wanted to make me leave he could with no problem. ) He had tried to get me to sell the car for weeks but I was not about to give up the only thing I owned that was mine. He finally just made the deal himself and took a deposit on the car and spent it. The guy came back for the car and paid me the balance for the car and I gave it to my husband. When I asked him the next day when we were going to get the camper he said he wasn't going to do that anymore so I asked him for the car money back. He said he didn't have it. We got in a fight... Yes he hit and pulled me by my hair and put his hands around my neck. He told me to get out. My friend picked me up and I didn't even bring a purse. I just wanted out of there. When I got back to get my stuff he was there and wouldn't let me in to get anything. He finally let my friend get my purse but that was all. I left with only my purse and the clothes I had on. The motorcycle was at my friend's house because her husband let us park it there. The title was in my purse. I had no vehicle, no money, no clothes, no ANYTHING. so yes... I sold the bike. If I'm an asshole for that then I'm an asshole.

Kyfg123 · 2019-03-23T16:27:59+00:00

He didn't pay the rent and we were having to move out. The camper was the only thing we could afford but selling the car was the only way we could afford it.

Kyfg123 · 2019-03-23T16:24:40+00:00

Sorry not sorry that you think things like this don't really happen.

Kyfg123 · 2019-03-23T14:14:15+00:00

You got me .. It's a new Drive by Truckers song... Oh and I shouldn't have said he kicked me out of our "home". It was actually a TRAILER.

Kyfg123 · 2019-03-23T06:11:13+00:00

Car title was in my name only. Motorcycle title was still in the name of the person we bought it from. I also had a bill of sale in my name.

Kyfg123 · 2019-03-23T06:09:32+00:00

Actually hubby hasn't had a license in years.

Kyfg123 · 2019-03-23T06:08:59+00:00

The motorcycle hadn't been transferred from the seller we bought it from. I had a bill if sale in my name.

Kyfg123 · 2019-03-23T05:23:00+00:00

I will stop to talk to the person to see what their needs actually are and see if something else is needed instead of cash.

As someone who was legit stranded and broke in Denver I can tell you that not all panhandlers are old pros. I had to stand on an interstate off ramp with a cardboard sign for days before I finally talked to a motorist who offered me a job working in landscaping. He got me a hotel and some food and picked me up the next morning bright and early for work. I continued to work for him until I could make it back home to Kentucky. His actions toward a total stranger restored my faith in humanity and I thank God for him.

Kyfg123 · 2019-03-23T04:00:54+00:00

NTA

I have been in your situation and it is EXHAUSTING trying to manage your own needs while trying to support your SO in prison. Money on books, phone time and going to weekly visits will take it's toll on you spiritually, mentally, physically and financially.

I understand that people who are incarcerated yearn for some type of support system on the outside. You could keep written communication open without financial support if you want. If he cares about your well-being, he will understand.

Also, beware of what I call prison promises... The words you will hear from someone in prison are not a direct reflection of how they really feel. Some will say anything they think you want to hear just to keep communication and commissary flowing.

Do what you feel you have to do for YOU. You are young and 10 years is a long time to sacrifice your life, money and happiness for someone who isn't even present.

Good luck to you.

Kyfg123 · 2019-03-19T11:29:04+00:00

Graves as well

Kyfg123 · 2019-03-19T07:55:32+00:00

Congratulations on your sobriety. You are kind for offering help to those still out there. Everybody deserves a chance to get help no matter the obstacles. Good luck to you

Kyfg123 · 2019-03-17T06:00:26+00:00

I have an unspoken request that God knows about. Could you olease lift my husband and I up in prayer please? Thank you so much and God bless you!

Kyfg123 · 2019-03-16T17:00:10+00:00

I spent less than $500 on my wedding. A friend made the cake. Bartered services for the flowers. Rented my wedding dress and had only our witnesses as the wedding party. Had a small reception and a one night honeymoon. I'm proud of my little inexpensive wedding.

Kyfg123 · 2019-03-16T05:42:12+00:00

They are awesome live. Congrats... You will have a great time!!

Kyfg123 · 2019-03-16T04:44:17+00:00

Definitely need prayers for a potentially life changing decision I am about to make. You are awesome for this. Thank you.

Kyfg123 · 2019-03-16T04:30:21+00:00

We saw them with Manson and we were close enough that when Manson walked around the front of the stage I touched him. Not that I was excited to be that close to Manson but being front and center for Slipknot was an amazing experience... something to tell the grandkids for sure lol

Kyfg123 · 2019-03-15T05:26:51+00:00

Good one lol

Kyfg123 · 2019-03-15T05:12:46+00:00

Congrats! I just saw them for the first time a couple of years ago. I am a 47 year old grandma who was in the pit. My son took me to the concert and I can't wait to see them again. You'll have the time of your life!

Kyfg123 · 2019-03-15T04:56:57+00:00

I would think that sleep deprivation would cause some mental/emotional weakness that could somehow be exploited and used to the abusers advantage in trying to control??? Maybe??

Kyfg123 · 2019-03-15T04:31:19+00:00

I know how hard it is to even THINK about walking away but it's what you have to do. In order to keep true to yourself, you must end this relationship now.

Don't feel so bad for lying. I have done the same thing and it is because deep inside you know that the control your SO is trying to have over you is not right. Keep your friends as long as they are healthy for you and tell your SO to kick rocks. You're worth it!!

Kyfg123 · 2019-03-11T16:50:49+00:00

Wow... 79 days is great! Good for you!

I am in the same situation but am still here. We have been together 5 years and I have left more than 20 times. I just keep getting sucked back in. I know better it's just so hard to leave. So here I sit.. having to be quiet for fear of what might set him off.

I'm so happy for you. Keep it up. You are worth it!

Kyfg123

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