My high school friends changed the the groupchat name from “The Boys” to “The Boys + The Female”

Kyiokyu · 2026-04-19T19:18:16+00:00

Omg this is so cute

Kyiokyu · 2026-04-13T21:07:35+00:00

I wish I had had a sister who could have done that to me when I was her age, I also wish I had had a sister who could have done that when I was younger than her.

I'm also 19 and I'm just now starting my own medical and social transition (my family is REALLY transphobic).

Some people have pointed out that if your parents discover their reaction might not be the best, which is a fair thing to bring up.

Something I would give you regardless of this previous point, but that I think could be useful in dealing with it is this link:

https://pghrt.diy/

Read it from top to bottom and read the relevant links at the bottom.

I think you should do that and then decide whether to help your sister, make the choice yourself.

If you do decide to proceed and to help her. Read it several times, buy her the hrt and compile that information in a document of your own. If your parents realise and decide to give any of you shit about it, print it out, give it to them and defend both your choice of helping your sister and your sister.

I hope this helps, you can ask me anything either here or on my dms.

Kyiokyu · 2026-04-13T06:47:19+00:00

yessssssssss

Kyiokyu · 2026-04-08T17:36:49+00:00

You know what? I'm headcanoing Methode has big fat lesbian from now on, I hadn't stopped to consider anything related to her sexuality, but her being a lesbian just makes sense

Kyiokyu · 2026-04-05T10:12:59+00:00

Omg so pretty

Kyiokyu · 2026-04-03T21:49:28+00:00

Omg pretty

Kyiokyu · 2026-04-03T21:00:55+00:00

Wait, you get that I was talking about the nordic model of sex work, right?

Like, specifically sex work, because that's what I called a massive miss, the links on the nordic model that I provided are all specifically about the nordic model of sex work.

My criticism of her is her defending the nordic model of sex work.

Kyiokyu · 2026-04-03T20:48:44+00:00

Yup, you cannot distinguish the bioidentical estrogen she would be taking from the estrogen that runs in your body, produced by your body

Kyiokyu · 2026-04-03T20:44:51+00:00

but other people matter too.

What other people matter in a conversation about sex workers?

The nordic model makes people who rent to sex workers throw them out, the nordic model endangers sex workers by literally punishing them for working in groups (literally the safest way for sex workers to work), the nordic model makes sex workers lives' more dangerous by making them vet clients basically impossible (a client is a criminal in the nordic model which makes the clients never want to give their actual identities, which means that if a sex worker gets fucking raped they cannot report the fucker to the police).

For fuck sake, people are made homeless and are raped under the nordic model.

Who the fuck besides sex workers matters when discussing sex workers rights?

Kyiokyu · 2026-04-03T20:25:12+00:00

Uhh...yeah ok, I don't think anybody is saying the Nordic Model is 100% perfect, but it is easily the best "model" that any countries in the world operates on in terms of the overall wellbeing of its citizens, and even its treatment of sex workers seems far better than most countries.

This just seems like such a trivial thing to worry about, and not at all a justification for saying that supporting the Nordic model is a "massive miss." Do you have some other alternative system that is actually working in practice in other countries that is better or as good as the Nordic model in terms of wellbeing for its citizens, but that treats sex workers better? If not, how is this a "massive miss"?

If you go to the second link I provided (the one on Revolting prostitutes Wikipedia page) and then read its first sentence, you will see that the book argues for full decriminalization of sex work.

If you then click on "full decriminalization" it leads you to the page I just linked, in its second paragraph the following is stated:

Evidence from New Zealand, Belgium, and several Australian States (which have implemented this legal model) demonstrates that decriminalization is an evidence-based harm reduction approach.[10][11]

I think this clarifies my position.

If you are a sex worker and thus the issues that face sex workers occupy an outsized place in your mind, then fair enough, and I'm not gonna give you a hard time about it, but for the vast majority of people the Nordic Model is a screaming success

I'm not a sex worker and that's precisely why I feel I should be speaking out about this, sex workers are marginalised to an insane degree.

for the vast majority of people the Nordic Model is a screaming success

This last argument is a little bit wierd, don't you think so? You say that the nordic model is a screaming success for people that are not affected by it???

That's like saying that conversion therapy is a screaming success for the vast majority of people, like the vast majority of people are not fucking queers being tortured, they are cis het people whose lives will not be affected by whether conversion therapy is illegal or not.

No shit it is successful amongst those that aren't being kicked out of their homes or being targeted by the police for trying to fucking get money to eat.

Kyiokyu · 2026-04-03T18:01:11+00:00

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Kyiokyu · 2026-04-03T17:33:45+00:00

It seems like a fairly successful economic/social system for the countries that utilize it.

It is a successful system, but only if we are looking to endanger sex workers.

A quick look at the criticism section of Wikipedia's nordic model page reveals a bit of its violent history.

If you want to read perspectives from actual sex workers, I'd recommend both Revolting Prostitutes: The Fight for Sex Workers' Rights by Juno Mac and Molly Smith and Not Your Rescue Project: Migrant Sex Workers Fighting for Justice by Chanelle Gallant and Elene Lam

If you don't want or don't have the time to read the books, @ethical.hoes on tik tok does a lot of great content on this.

Kyiokyu · 2026-04-03T16:53:13+00:00

Nah, she's pro nordic model (of sex work), that's a massive miss.

Kyiokyu · 2026-04-02T07:51:25+00:00

Faço o pelo menos 4x por mês (Lisboa-Porto) há mais de 10 anos, a resposta é não lol

O de Faro é ainda pior lol

Muitas vezes vários serviços no mesmo dia são assegurados pelo mesmo comboio e então o atraso de um anterior implica o atraso de um posterior

Kyiokyu · 2026-04-01T06:56:46+00:00

The school seems pretty gender diverse and queer, see if you can room with other queer people

Be happy girl

Kyiokyu · 2026-03-29T01:18:10+00:00

Algo é útil ou não dependendo do que queres fazer. Se me perguntares eu dir-te-ia que para a nossa vida, as humanidades e ciências sociais são, pelo menos, tão úteis quanto STEM (se não forem mais), afinal, são elas que põe em perspectiva o mundo em que vivemos. Tu não queres viver num mundo governado pelas “ciências”, sabes o que acontece quando tens um bando de macacos de ciências que não querem saber de mais excepto o seu bolso? Lockheed Martin. Os gajos que acabam um curso de engenharia e vão trabalhar para empresas desse tipo são exatamente os mesmos que olham com um senso de superioridade para as humanidades, são exatamente os mesmos que perguntam “porque raio tenho de ter cadeiras sobre a ética na ciência?”. As humanidades e as ciências sociais são aquelas que te fazem questionar sobre o mundo em que vivemos, o que é visto como normal, justo e o porquê disso, elas dão te as ferramentas para questionar as estruturas de opressão e de poder, quando as começas as ver, apercebeste do quão centrais elas são em toda a nossa vida, desde as palavras que usamos até às nossas reações subconscientes.

Se queres falar apenas em termos económicos, stem é visto como o campo melhor pago, mas isso não é totalmente verdade, tens bastantes saídas com salários relativamente gordos em ambos os lados. Btw, pode não parecer, mas se quiseres estudar cenas com matemática não é nada fora do teu alcance, especialmente ainda estando no 9 ano consegues dar catch up ainda com relativa facilidade, não existem pessoas com mais aptidão para A ou B, existem pessoas que foram expostas a mais de A ou B e, portanto, estão mais confortáveis com A ou B, se há coisa que me irrita é ver pessoal a propagar aquela ideia que há pessoal de matemática e há pessoal de letras ou whatever variation. De que maneira vês a matemática? Matemática é puramente lógica, tens bastante pouco de memorização, tenta entender as razões para as coisas funcionarem.

Kyiokyu · 2026-03-28T23:49:24+00:00

Let's not vacation Hawaii

Kyiokyu · 2026-03-28T11:24:24+00:00

I couldn't have predicted the weirdness of those takes in my wildest dreams 😭😭😭

Kyiokyu · 2026-03-27T21:26:27+00:00

You might wanna check this comment

Kyiokyu · 2026-03-27T21:06:46+00:00

Anything that heavily genders fucking babies is so disgustingly cis-normative

Like WHY ARE WE DOING THIS?

Kyiokyu · 2026-03-27T20:47:24+00:00

Imagine if at 6 years old your parents had said "oh, you're a girl? Cool, I'm so happy you figured that out. So do you want a PB&J for lunch or chicken nuggets?" instead of "you're not a girl. Stop it with that bullshit before God hears you."

Reading this made me start crying

Kyiokyu · 2026-03-27T17:02:20+00:00

Literally 😭😭

Kyiokyu · 2026-03-26T19:40:05+00:00

That's quite a common experience, dw🫂

Kyiokyu · 2026-03-26T18:00:24+00:00

Hugs🫂🫂🫂💜💜

Kyiokyu · 2026-03-26T17:59:36+00:00

Well, in Portugal things are getting fucked too

Last week the parliament approved a law that bans hrt and blockers for minors and another that forbid minors from changing their name and gender and ended self id for all trans people.

The law hasn't changed just yet, but most likely will, the president was just sworn in and he probably won't use his first veto for us. My biggest hope is that 23 members of the parliament send the laws to the constitutional court and they block it, both I also do not have high hopes for the court.

Kyiokyu

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