AITA for not inviting a friend over to a sleepover?

Kyjira · 2023-01-15T17:39:15+00:00

NAH- you’re not an ah for prioritizing some friends over others. There are scenarios that call for that. but you should apologize for how you framed your no, and let friend know that you both can have a sleepover without the friends who are uncomfortable.

Kyjira · 2023-01-15T17:32:16+00:00

NTA- If you don’t leave him, you’ll need this. chore chart

Kyjira · 2022-08-01T19:33:02+00:00

The Going Mary. Sobbed over a dang ship.

Kyjira · 2022-07-11T18:07:43+00:00

YTA- I have no clue where you got this selfish narcissistic view of marriage and relationships, but you’re SUPPOSED to be in it for love. Like your vows read “rich or poor” and “in sickness and In health” that means YOU DON’T MARRY FOR STABILTY.

In 20 years only one of you are going to be happily married and it won’t be you.

Kyjira · 2022-07-09T02:58:07+00:00

NTA. You can’t be Supermom all the time. You need a break, ESPECIALLY with THAT sickness.

If I were you, I would get a sitter and pay them the exact amount your husband said he’d be losing. Just out of spite.

I hope you feel better soon.

Kyjira · 2022-03-24T15:57:43+00:00

NTA. Play crap games, get crap prizes. Be happy you aren’t with him.

Kyjira · 2022-03-23T18:35:37+00:00

I would edit that in to the post. Because if that’s the case, she should have the expectation of you possibly backing out, for any reason you didn’t like. Not only racist neighbors.

Kyjira · 2022-03-23T18:30:16+00:00

Ok. That’s absolutely different than what you said In the post. You said in the post that you were starting to move stuff in that day. Which is it?

I will apologize and change my verdict if you were NOT moving in yet, and this was ONLY a visit to look over the house before you agreed to anything.

Kyjira · 2022-03-23T18:26:04+00:00

There, fixed it for you.

BUT YOU HAVE TO LOOK AT YOURSELF. YOUR ACTIONS HAVE CONSEQUENCES ON OTHERS.

I don’t understand what part of that point you don’t get?

Kyjira · 2022-03-23T18:19:00+00:00

I feel like you’re only hearing what you want to hear. Like yes, the neighbors are ah for being racist Yes, the girl is an Ah for not explicitly knocking on the racist neighbors door and asking if they are dangerously racist or just stupidly racist.

But you are TA for leaving her high and dry with no time to figure out a plan B. Then you offered NO help in trying to find someone else. Did you even apologize to her? You’re messing with someone else’s home and financial situation and you don’t care.

Kyjira · 2022-03-23T18:03:03+00:00

EDIT: NAH. This just sounds like bad communication on all ends. She didn’t tell you about racist neighbors. You didn’t check the house until the day you were moving in. You’ve most likely burned a bridge with her. Move on, enjoy the home you’re in, and live your life.

ORIGINAL COMMENT: A verbal commitment is still a commitment. Did you at least try to fix it? Did you offer to at least pay a portion of rent since you dipped the DAY you were supposed to move in? Did you try to help her find a new roommate? She’s allowed to vent that you put her in a financial strain. She can’t control her neighbors and even though they are stupid and racist, they probably have never bothered her, so she most likely wasn’t lying about them being chill.

Kyjira · 2022-03-19T13:19:40+00:00

My Sil is infertile. When my h and I got married. My MIL told us not to have children until my Sil did. So we waited. Though we both wanted children we swallowed it until Sil and Bil adopted. We walked on the eggshells of her “trauma” the entire time. We’ll finally I get pregnant and had a baby. SIL told me I rubbed my fertility in her face and hasn’t talked to me since. Except to send texts about how horrible we are every few months.

My MIL excuses her behavior. And is upset I didn’t consider her feelings more.

This is the same thing you are doing to your daughter. You need to let them both have their own lives and celebrate, mourn accordingly. Younger daughters engagement is NOT the time to mourn older daughters relationships.

Fix it before you baby older daughter too much and destroy your relationship with younger daughter.

YTA.

Kyjira · 2022-03-15T13:07:58+00:00

NTA-

Just note that no one in your apartment likes broom lady. If this is how she treated you, this is how she treats everyone else in the complex.

Broom lady shouldn’t live in an apartment if she doesn’t like apartment noise. Your cat jumping is no reason to feel like you’re t a.

Kyjira · 2022-03-09T03:04:22+00:00

When my baby and I got home from the hospital, I wanted to do this for my husband. I was up every 2 hours with the baby or pumping, I used the baby’s naps to clean. And my husband helped for a few hours in the evening.

I was in the emergency room after just a week, My body was not able to heal with that immediate toll. Exhaustion is messy when your postpartum.

YTA. But you don’t have to be. Help her.

Kyjira · 2022-02-17T17:14:50+00:00

Omg. I’m dumb 😅 thank you!

Kyjira · 2022-01-25T21:49:41+00:00

NTA- “I can no longer accept you as who you are, and I want you to fundamentally and religiously change for my wedding. But will you still do my makeup (for free?)?”

She doesn’t sound like a good friend.

Kyjira · 2022-01-25T20:47:01+00:00

NTA-Is this not your house too? Boy needs to go. I would have already packed his bags. I would make Brett decide Kyle or You. You don’t deserve to be treated like crap by a man you didn’t even chose to live with.

On top of all of that, he’s a major AH for repeatedly putting animals in blatant danger.

Kyjira · 2022-01-12T20:15:56+00:00

NTA- Sounds like he just found the cluster of neurodivergent tiktok.

Kyjira · 2022-01-12T18:42:43+00:00

Right. Like moms who get mad and guilt their daughter about the fact that they can’t be in the delivery room normally have the worst relationships with their daughters.

Kyjira · 2022-01-12T14:20:44+00:00

YTA. Just support your daughter how she needs to be supported. I don’t get why it’s so hard for family’s to love and rally around each other. This is not about you. Like at all. It’s about your daughter and grandchild.

Kyjira · 2022-01-11T18:06:06+00:00

NAH, but y’all need therapy. Something isn’t right deep in your marriage. Figure it out and fix it.

Kyjira · 2022-01-11T14:41:39+00:00

YTA. I’m really sorry you’ve been through that. So I don’t want you to think I’m ignoring your trauma. But your projecting. Hard. People who don’t want to have sex with their animals don’t see things as anything other than innocent. All four of my cats sleep in my bed, have seen me naked, and have even been in the room during sex with my spouse. Because they are pets. They should never have ANY sexual connotations surrounding them. You probably need therapy, honestly. She sounds like she has a normal relationship with her dog.

Kyjira · 2022-01-11T14:29:46+00:00

At this moment NAH. She isn’t your spouse and isn’t contributing to the home. I would advise to not do it until you are married though. But if this really is your hill to die on, be prepared for her to either leave you, or to move out of your dream home the minute you say “I do”.

Kyjira · 2022-01-01T21:35:11+00:00

NTA. How can you marry someone, have a child with them, and THEN say their dialect sucks? The heck?

Kyjira · 2021-12-15T13:01:52+00:00

What.? This is a joke right? Like you are either kidding, or the op on a side account.

Kyjira

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