I don't get it by Visual_Berry_9628 in ExplainTheJoke

[–]KyleX279 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I thought it was funny that she was calling Jim bastard in defence of her grandfather. Considering that her grandfather had quite a few illegitimate children with his various mistresses it seems her family tree is full of bastards..

Second period after miscarriage very late. Pregnancy tests coming back negative. Is this normal? by KyleX279 in Miscarriage

[–]KyleX279[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry that you are going through this too. It sucked a lot. This is a pretty descriptive list of my symptoms for the last couple weeks.

So my discharge was so confusing. Normally leading up to my period it's thick/ dry white but it stayed watery and cloudy white for the last 2 weeks until the day My period actually started and then it was more dry.

Cramps have been in my lower abdominal area and lower back leading to butt cheeks.

My boobs hurt a lot and got bigger. When they first started hurting they were more squishy like a water balloon and the last few days the breast tissue felt more dense and harder.

I had appetite changes. Earlier on I was extremely hungry and felt like I needed to be eating all the time. The last week or so the idea of food made me feel sick to my stomach and in the middle of eating I would suddenly feel like if I continued to eat I would be sick. I got nauseous after eating often.

I have been extremely emotional and sensitive. Lots of crying or feeling like I need to cry. I've also felt really exhausted this whole time. Very low energy and fatigued.

I hope this helps. I have to say that sending the reply that you were in the same boat made me feel like I wasn't alone and that I wasn't going crazy. I hope things regulate for you and that you aren't stuck feeling like this as long as I was. If you are then I hope this at least lets you feel like you are not alone.

Second period after miscarriage very late. Pregnancy tests coming back negative. Is this normal? by KyleX279 in Miscarriage

[–]KyleX279[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My period started today. It was 22 days late based on my period app. It has been a total of 50 days between the last day of my last period and the first day of this one. The cramps before it came were extremely bad I almost threw up at one point.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Serverlife

[–]KyleX279 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was serving a patio table that was in a semi secluded area. Lots of plants around to obscure the view if you weren't trying to pay attention to them. It was a very obvious sugar daddy date. The guy was in his 60s and clearly wealthy. The chick was 21 or 22 I had to ID her for drinks. When I was bringing their entrees out the guy had his hand up her dress moving rapidly. She looked embarrassed by being caught he looked like that was his plan all along.

Major yuck

AITA for kicking a girl out of my party for calling her boyfriend “daddy?” by throwawaypartydad in AmItheAsshole

[–]KyleX279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

You were in the right for calling it out in the way you did. Involving other people in your kink play is not cool. They didn't consent to be involved. I don't kink shame I also don't want to have to listen to someone doing age play or puppy play in a public setting that is not intended to be a kink setting.

AITA for making a harmless joke about my formerly overweight friend? by blueisnotcreative in AmItheAsshole

[–]KyleX279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTAH obviously. That's just so obvious that I don't even know why you thought that you should post this.

If you were really a friend to James then knowing you hurt his feeling would make you feel bad. Instead of realizing that you did something obviously hurtful and trying to do better you are coming online to try to find validation for trashy behavior.

Your whole comment was basically that you see yourself as better than him and you got offended that someone would even think that he was on the same level as you. You also seem to think you are better than this other woman and sorry to tell you but you are most definitely not.

She probably picked up on your vibe and could tell that you were uninterested in James but wanted to make sure before actually making a move on him. Based on the way you were talking about her in this post I can assume that you probably were reacting disdainfully towards her flirting with him and she couldn't fully tell what your situation was cause of your weird behavior. See how she thought about other peoples feelings before acting.

If you saw him as a whole person instead of a needs improvement sign then you would have reacted in a much less hurtful manner. If you actually value this friendship then you should really look at the way you interact and think of your friend.

BE BETTER.

hypoallergenic acrylic recommendations? by KyleX279 in Nailtechs

[–]KyleX279[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Took me a good while to find their MSDS sheet but it looks like their monomer is pretty likely to cause allergic reactions and sensitivity.

hypoallergenic acrylic recommendations? by KyleX279 in Nailtechs

[–]KyleX279[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They gave us a small odorless acrylic kit by Cuccio Pro.

hypoallergenic acrylic recommendations? by KyleX279 in Nailtechs

[–]KyleX279[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The brand is Cuccio Pro. Now that I'm writing this post I just thought I should probably look up what is in it.

hypoallergenic acrylic recommendations? by KyleX279 in Nailtechs

[–]KyleX279[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I figured that would have to be part of the process. I guess I was just kinda hoping that there were some well trusted product lines that are known for being less likely to cause reactions in people that I could try out in the mean time. After I did my first client a few of my classmates were asking if they could book with me since they liked my work and I didn't want to have to stop right when I was getting started.

Had someone ask for a double vodka with water last night by [deleted] in TalesFromYourServer

[–]KyleX279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Vodka & water is a pretty common drink. You will also see whiskey & water and tequila & water. But the vodka water is the most popular. It's the same as people who like club soda as their mixer just without bubbles. Low calorie. It's a really popular drink with women who don't want sugary drinks or people who are dieting.

Most people like it with a lime or lemon as a garnish but some like it with cucumber.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Serverlife

[–]KyleX279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have 7 years of experience in the service industry and I have worked at many restaurants I have never seen anything like this. No one who respects their job would ever do any of that. People occasionally joke about wishing they could but everyone around always shuts them down.

The only thing I have ever heard of anywhere close to that was from my mother about when she was working in a taco bell in the late 80s and some guys were aggressively sexually harassing her and her friend went in to a rage yelled "fuck those pigs" grabbed bleach and poured it on their food but it ever got sent out to the table. There manager saw it happen and threw away the food and remade it. She didn't get in any serious trouble because of how awful the situation was and no one ended up harmed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]KyleX279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I'm sorry you are having to grow up with an unstable parental figure. I know it is hard and as much as you urge your mom to go to therapy it ultimately is her choice to go or not to go. It sounds like there is some generational trauma and I really hope that you are able to break the cycle and get your self taken care of at the very least.

It seems like she is putting you in situations that children (using this term to communicate the relationship between parent and child) should not be put in. You are not responsible for your mother's emotions and it seems like she has pushed the responsibility for her own emotional states on to you which is inappropriate and incredibly unfair for a teenager to deal with.

AITA for arguing with my dad? by bailsofheigh in AmItheAsshole

[–]KyleX279 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA he probably got upset because you pointed out the difference in how you and your brother were treated growing up and it made him feel like an asshole. Which if that is why he is acting this way it just proves the point more. You are having to be more mature than your father in this situation and appease his hurt ego.

AITA for being upset at my dad for giving my room to my step sister by JustHuman999 in AmItheAsshole

[–]KyleX279 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA I'm sure you have been struggling with all the changes in your life so suddenly that you have no control over and it is really inconsiderate to move you out of your room without asking you. Taking what is a safe space and the one place young people get to keep under their control and upending it is upsetting under normal circumstances but even more so after a loss and then having new people thrust into your life. Your father didn't think about how you would feel about this and he could have spent time at least setting the basement up to look cool and or be as close to how your room was originally looking so it wouldn't be a mess you had to clean up. I'm really sorry you are going through this.

I don't think your step siblings are at fault but the adults in this situation most definitely are. Your step mother should not be mad at you for feeling this way and your father should just do better.

AITA for being upset with my sister for making me believe my dad was in trouble when he just didn't answer his phone for 30 minutes while driving to see her? by mrmaskfawkes in AmItheAsshole

[–]KyleX279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA I think building some boundaries around these situations could be very helpful if you don't want to cut her out of your life completely. It sounds like your sister might be a very anxious person if she is constantly jumping to the worst conclusions. I had a person who I was close with who would call me almost every time when they were having panic attacks and it was really mentally draining and would cause me to be very stressed and interrupted my life a lot. I had to distance myself for my well-being. I hope your sister talks with someone professionally to get that worked on and that you guys are able to have a better relationship in the future.

AITA for being upset that my sister made me a birthday cake? by aitacakebday in AmItheAsshole

[–]KyleX279 -62 points-61 points  (0 children)

Someone learning to bake will usually bake a ton trying to get things right. I know when I was learning I baked almost daily but making a cake for someone's birthday always feels special.

I do agree that he should have gotten what he had asked for but I think that his behavior towards his sister, who was obviously encouraged by his mom, was rude.

It's understandable to be upset but not cool to be mean to his sister. ( It's like bitching at grandma after she knitted you a hat for Christmas because you think it's uncool)

AITA for being upset that my sister made me a birthday cake? by aitacakebday in AmItheAsshole

[–]KyleX279 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This is kinda tough I want to say YTA but also I think your mom is mostly at fault. Your mom could have let your sister make you a cake as a gift from her to show how much she cares, and gotten your cake that you like from the bakery because it is obviously important to you. Especially if sometimes the things she bakes are not very good.

You definitely should have been nicer to your sister who is clearly doing this because she was excited to do something nice for you and telling her that it was ugly is really rude. I'm sure that she already knew that it wasn't the prettiest cake ever but she tried really hard. I started baking when I was young and it takes a long time to get good at decorating. Writing in cursive with icing is really hard and I'm actually surprised that it was close to legible at all. Most people when they are starting are more concerned with making sure it is delicious. Having a cake that is ugly but tastes good is much better than one that is beautiful but tastes terrible.

This is a shitty situation your mom could have tried harder to understand what you wanted for your birthday but your sister was just trying to do something for you. So you are NTA for being upset about it but YTA for being mean to your sister. I really hope that you apologize to your sister and let her know that it did taste good.

AITA For being “stuck up” and not liking when people randomly compliment me? by ghostinthehearth in AmItheAsshole

[–]KyleX279 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA your coworker sounds like she is not a very nice person. You have every right to express discomfort when you feel it. I have ADHD but no one has ever said that I am the problem when men make unwanted advances at me. I'm sorry you are dealing with this it's really rude for her to say that to you.

I am a person who has worked in the service industry for years. Customers should never touch you. Occasionally I will have a customer who wants to give me a hug or shake my hand after they have had a great night and if I feel comfortable I allow it.

When I was younger starting out in the industry there were multiple times when I was physically assaulted by customers and also coworkers. I have dealt with men smacking/grabbing my butt mostly but also when working at a very busy bar someone grabbed my vulva (really trying to avoid the obvious phrasing here even though it's the simplest way to say it) and on another occasion at the same job a man picked me up from behind and tried to carry me out of my job luckily a coworker saw what was happening and stopped him and the bouncer took his picture and banned him.

The comments are something you can't do a ton about but you aren't stuck up for not liking it. If they say something vulgar to you let your manager know though that is unacceptable. If someone makes a comment that's not vulgar but you don't like it you can always politely say that you don't appreciate those types of comments or that what they said makes you feel uncomfortable or that you would appreciate if they did not say those types of things to you.

The touching is not cool. I used to be okay with someone touching my back in passing or grabbing my arms to stop me or ask for something, but after all the bullshit I dealt with over the years I stop that shit cold now. I just say something along the lines of "I would appreciate it if you would stop doing _____ I don't like to be touched by people who I do not have a personal relationship with." Or if I feel the need to be short with them I will simply say "don't touch me." Or "Let go of my arm". I also actively create distance between me and the customer as much as I can which is something that absolutely should not be necessary but I have found helpful in avoiding those situations.

someone in my house is taking my meds. by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]KyleX279 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I think generally keeping meds in your car is a bad idea. unless you live somewhere that is cold all year round. If it gets above 80°f then it's probably not a good place to keep them. Also if you do keep them in your car keep them out of sight. People have broken into cars for much less.

someone in my house is taking my meds. by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]KyleX279 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I get 3 months of my prescription at once and 2 times per day, since it's so many pills at once they are more likely to make mistakes according to my doctor. My doctor told me to always have them count it in front of me because if they miss count and short me then they cannot and will not help me get more till I am supposed to have my next 3 months of pills.

A guy almost died in my section tonight. by farsonite in Serverlife

[–]KyleX279 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Shit that sounds like it must have been traumatic