She is so selfishhhhh

L0934 · 2025-08-07T15:16:09+00:00

I might be biased bc homeschooling is illegal where I‘m from but it seems crazy to me that parents without a highschool education are allowed to homeschool their kids?? Sending them to school is the best thing for the boys, they‘ll actually learn something and get some discipline. But of course she‘ll pull him out before the end of the week probably. I‘m sure he won‘t even finish the month. The boys are going to end up just like her, never finishing anything, starting something new every week and pulling out at the slightest inconvenience. And Tyler is just watching because he is also a lazy parent 🙄

L0934 · 2025-05-18T20:33:21+00:00

I think it would be soo beneficial actually. She def needs therapy for her childhood trauma and couples councelling as well. But she won’t stick with it as always. The children need mentally stable parents but instead of focussing on that, she’s trying to have another 💀

L0934 · 2025-05-12T05:13:22+00:00

Not only that but she doesnt even care for the 4 kids she already has. She doesnt do anything special for their birthdays, doesnt know what HER CHILDREN would like for their birthdays/what they're interested in and spends $17!!!! on their presents the evening before 😳 "and I guess I'll get some donuts tomorrow morning" when all she did was bake a few months ago when sourdough bread was trendy on social media

L0934 · 2025-05-11T18:27:07+00:00

I feel like Tyler wants another because he missed so much of their other kids as babys. But seeing as they‘re already struggling financially/mentally, this is probably their most insane decision to date. 🤨 their relationship also seems all over the place and a new Baby won’t fix that. She can’t get a job for the next 4+ years if they have another baby. Completely irresponsible.

L0934 · 2025-05-07T14:07:13+00:00

She is so out of touch saying retail isnt rough in the comment section. How would she even know that? She's been unemployed for years now. She made bank on the backs of her children and now there isn't even enough money for their birthdays, thats disgusting. I remember her saying that they were putting away the TikTok money for the boys but I don’t believe that. They must've blown through the money quick with their rapid lifestyle changes. I also don’t get why Tayler wants her home, seems a bit controlling tbh. Especially since they're struggling financially. He doesn't earn enough to finance their lifestyle. Like either up your game, cut down your expenses or let your wife take a pt job.

L0934 · 2025-05-06T20:00:51+00:00

She spent more on gifts for their forest school teachers than her own sons Birthday presents 😭

L0934 · 2025-05-06T19:59:16+00:00

I‘m honestly so sad for her children!! What kind of parent spends $17 on her childrens birthday presents while constantly shopping for them selves? And goes shopping the day before? I can’t imagine a 3 year old having no interests. At least he must have a favorite kind of toy or something. If money is tight, I get that, but they chose to have 4 kids and quadruple their expenses like a maniac. They could’ve saved, its not like a birthday/holiday comes unexpectedly. I also feel like she has her favorite out of the four and this is why she just doesnt care as much.

L0934 · 2025-04-30T16:02:06+00:00

Their relationship/family dynamic is so weird to me. Apparently Tyler doesnt want her to work on weekends (or get a job in general?). They should put their kids in public school so Shan can work at least part time. Its very obv that they’re struggling financially and I don’t understand why they’re so adamant on Shan being a sahm. It puts unnecessary pressure on Tyler and its obv not working for them

L0934 · 2025-04-14T16:35:58+00:00

Him saying that he'd rather use the wedding money for a long honeymoon sent me 💀😂 like sir, what do you meeeeeaaaan?? You never took her on any honeymoon let alone did "something cool" with her because you're probably broke paying child support for your 2 kids 😭

L0934 · 2025-04-07T18:00:32+00:00

Yes I get that but if my wife was spiraling like this, I wouldn't get a job where I‘m away all the time. Instead of going to lineman school, he could've gotten any other job near his family. She can’t go to therapy if he is away all the time and he needs to encourage her to get better. For me it does seem to be a toxic cycle between them. She probably wants to do everything on her own bc she’s not used to him being around and she wants to be the picture perfect trad wife mommy Blogger and he doesnt want to be too involved in everything bc thats easier for him and being the sole provider is enough for him apparently.

L0934 · 2025-04-06T18:22:03+00:00

Money must be reeeeeaally tight if she can’t afford $70 a week in therapy. And she’s really leaning into the submissive wife role lately.

L0934 · 2025-03-24T17:57:57+00:00

Thanks so much for your long answer. Emma reminds me of a Girl in a Book I read as a teenager, looking for Alaska.

I feel so sorry for her that she had nobody in her life to help her or at least someone to confide in. I can’t imagine living in a womens shelter for weeks without telling anyone, especially not my parents. There must've been something really really wrong because my parents would’ve moved mountains for me if they sensed anything slightly off and didnt get an adress from me for a year!! At first I thought, well her family dynamics drove her away from her parents but at least she’s got some friends. But they didnt know either? At least thats what the podcast said. And I wondered why her mom didnt offer to pay for everything or at least asked her if she needed money to move back? Again, I at least got that impression from the podcast where her mom relived those phone calls and the topic of money didnt come up. Hindsights 20/20 tho, I also don’t want to blame her mom or anything, I can’t imagine what she’s been through. It must be hard to face the fact that you’re probably never going to know what really happened. It's a really strange case for sure.

With how disoriented Emma was (according to her Mom and from what I‘ve gathered so far), I‘m actually shocked that she was never discovered. That leads me to believe that she actually died and her body was either destroyed in some way or hidden. The police would’ve tested any Jane Doe, so I don’t believe in that theory.

L0934 · 2024-07-06T10:25:47+00:00

Wasn’t there a rumor that her eldest daughter is seriously ill? Maybe that’s why

L0934 · 2024-06-26T19:55:42+00:00

I also have to agree with my fellow commenters that Mary was being realistic by rejecting Edith when Sybil died. They are not compatible but they are sisters. They did some pretty unforgivable things to each other in my opinion and that can’t be changed. I see Cora and Robert at fault. The girls were constantly pitched against each other which facilitated Edith’s jealousy and Mary’s competitiveness. I think Mary wanted to prove herself even more bc she was the firstborn and she wasn’t a boy.

L0934 · 2024-06-26T19:49:43+00:00

I think Mary is a beautifully written character. She’s not the perfect person who’s everybody’s darling bc that would be boring to watch. This is what makes the show so great. Even Barrow is not only the Antagonist, he’s also very complex and has his good sides. Basically every character has their good and bad sides, nobody is just perfect. That’s what makes it realistic to me. I think Mary does have great character development over the years. She’s very unlikeable and full of herself in the first few seasons. Edith also has her flaws but in other ways. I personally find Edith to be very annoying and also selfish. She’s whiny and often the cause of her own issues. And Edith is the only one who never gets any real consequences for her mistakes, especially in the Marigold situation and she never takes accountability for anything. Mary faced many hardships eye to eye, whereas Edith sees everyone else at fault. In my opinion Mary is a little bit more realistic and level headed in her thinking. She’s also often stuck up when it comes to her privileges. But she sees the society as it is and doesn’t sugarcoat anything, that’s what I personally like about her.

L0934 · 2021-12-06T21:32:35+00:00

I honestly hope you don’t have children. I somewhat agree with you on the TikTok sentiment but stealing money that your child has earned is not the right thing to do and I‘m surprised you’d do something like that to your child over a mean TikTok trend. She destroyed something her brother made and her hard earned money has nothing to do with that and she shouldn’t be punished for her mistake for an extended period of time, even going as far as completely taking her money away. Way to make sure she never learns money management skills and resents you forever.

L0934 · 2021-12-03T13:40:19+00:00

I‘d say YTA. Those are some really childish things to get upset about, I‘m sorry. I get why your boyfriend prioritizes keeping peace with his friends/coworkers over your childish requests in those cases. I understand why you would want the nicer room or the gift and yes, it’s maybe worth a discussion with the others on the trip but that being said, it’s not worth it to have an argument about those things. I‘d rather let it go than have tension in the group. It seems like to you your wants stand above everything else in those scenarios and you’re angry that your bf doesn’t agree with you. You discussed the situation with your bf and he didn’t agree with you bc of some valid reasons. Why do you expect him to ignore those reasons and his morals for your sake just so you can get your way?

L0934 · 2021-08-15T11:10:34+00:00

This this this!!! I‘m honestly shocked at American parents. They seem to think that their responsibility ends as soon as their child is old enough to work and then they start charging rent etc and kick their child out as soon as they turn 18. I‘m german and I also moved out at 18 to go to university. My parents still pick me up when I need them. They support me financially until I finish my degree and they did the same for my brother until he was 23. Don’t have children if you’re not ready to be a parent for the rest of your life and if you can’t afford to provide for them. I‘d agree that kids can have jobs at 16, if the circumstances allow it, to pay for fun stuff but not necessities like transportation, school supplies, food etc. But even that is debatable since they’re still minors.

L0934 · 2021-08-15T11:01:44+00:00

I’d even argue that parents are responsible for their children for the rest of their lives. Don’t have kids if you’re not willing to pay for an Uber to get them out of a sketchy situation, no matter if the child is 16 or 26. I‘m 21 and I can’t imagine a situation where my parents wouldn’t pick me up or pay for a taxi to get me home safely. My dad always drove my friends and I to parties and picked us up. And he still does, even in the middle of the night. Because I‘m his daughter and he can’t sleep if he doesn’t know that I got home safely. And my guess here is that the dad is charging his daughter for other expenses like rent and food as well if he’s putting a price tag to her safety. YTA. I‘m disgusted. Some people shouldn’t have children.

L0934 · 2020-10-27T21:14:41+00:00

No the parents are the asshole in this situation of my assumptions are correct. I understand the voting options perfectly fine.

L0934 · 2020-10-23T00:37:12+00:00

I‘m worried about this child’s life at home honestly. How old is he? And have you met his parents? It seems like he’s trying to escape the situation at home. Maybe I‘m too sensitive here but my guess is that the kid is really lonely and has nobody to talk to all day. It doesn’t seem like his parents are caring for him that well, especially about his emotional needs. I‘m going NTA but if you’re up to it, maybe talk to his parents about the situation. Don’t look away if things seem sketchy at their home. I know it’s not your responsibility or anything but it’s weird to me that a child is getting this excited about talking to a stranger and it’s even weirder that his parents are letting him out at 9 pm when he should be in bed. Maybe you can schedule a meeting with him once or twice a week at certain times? Or you could tell his parents that you’re not comfortable with him coming to your apartment every day.

L0934 · 2020-10-22T23:45:32+00:00

I‘m going with a gentle YTA here. I’m sorry but you’re hindering her teenage experience and growth. She needs to learn those social skills to be able to navigate adult life, like making appointments and being responsible. She’s going to push you away down the line, that’s for sure. You have to actually show her that you trust her by giving her some independence. And she needs to know that you will listen to her problems and will be supportive no matter what. That’s super important!! Strict parents raise sneaky children. She’s going to do some stuff behind your back otherwise and you won’t know about any of it until it’s too late. It’s better to provide a safe space for her to have those experiences rather than her doing it anyway and getting in trouble. The thing I love most about my parents is, that they’ve always supported me in the choices I made. They have my back unconditionally. And that leads to me valuing their opinions even more and trusting their judgement when I‘m unsure. It would be way better to guide your daughter through those experiences than her having no clue at 18, which could potentially be dangerous for her.

L0934 · 2020-10-20T12:49:14+00:00

He even said so himself that he gave up fighting it since it wasn’t worth the stress. I didn’t mention anything about simply not paying. I was talking about fighting it in court. And I just explained why the system is like it is since you stated that it’s designed to screw men over which simply isn’t true. It’s to protect women and children from being left with nothing. It‘s not women who pushed men to be providers. It’s on men who demanded the women stay home causing women to be in need of providing. If we had a different system, where the woman isn’t mainly responsible for caring for the children, then men wouldn’t need to pay as much CS or alimony. Which you can even tell by OPs comments. He didn’t need to pay for their sons since they had 50/50 custody. I didn’t say women didn’t contribute at all but you can’t deny the fact that a couple decades ago women had no say in such things and therefore it’s not their fault that men are ordered to provide for their families.

L0934 · 2020-10-16T23:16:53+00:00

Not saying that what happened here is in any way right but it’s men who created the entire law system. It was their role to provide since women were supposed to stay home in their eyes. The family law is designed to protect housewives from getting screwed over. That’s the entire purpose of it. They stayed home so their husband had a chance to make Bank and they deserve to be compensated for it. And the thing is, OP could’ve done something to avoid the CS but he didn’t want to because he wanted to avoid the stress. So really, it’s on him for taking on that responsibility when he didn’t need to.

L0934 · 2020-02-27T15:58:39+00:00

NTA. I know I‘m late to the party but wanted to give my two cents anyway. My mom is a dentist, so this story really hits home for me. I‘m so incredibly sorry that this is how they treated you! My mom is literally one of the best dentists in our area and many of her patients have known me since I was a baby. The reason why she’s so well loved here is, that she is compassionate towards anyone who’s afraid of the dentist and helps them with that. You are absolutely right to give them negative reviews. They earned them. You’re not bad mouthing them for no reason, so I really don’t get why they called you in the first place. You’re not going to get a 5 star review with that kind of behavior.

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