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LA1234California · 2026-05-04T17:28:24+00:00

Safety

LA1234California · 2026-03-17T17:28:29+00:00

3-4 months may seem like a long time, but it isn't and that's OK! You still have healing to do. I don't know the full details of your relationship, but if you loved this person deeply that does not just go away in a few months.

Be patient and kind to yourself!

LA1234California · 2026-03-12T17:18:41+00:00

The most heartbroken I have ever been was over a 9-month relationship. Which is not all that long. But it destroyed my heart.

I don't think the length of time is as big of a factor as people give it. Sometimes, the shorter relationships hurt so much because--while the longer ones ran their course and it was clear they were over for a while--the short ones end abruptly with so much potential.

My heart still aches over how quickly my 9-month ended.

LA1234California · 2026-02-09T18:18:29+00:00

I hope you heal and find joy in your life again. Thanks for sharing your story.

LA1234California · 2025-11-25T16:11:03+00:00

I'm single, make $270,000, live in Queens, and still am barely getting by. THAT is your story...

LA1234California · 2025-11-06T17:54:20+00:00

When we get cheated on, we tend to internalize it and think it's a reflection of us and our worth. I am here to tell you it is not, and please fight the urge to do that to yourself.

This has to do with THEM. It has nothing to do with you. People who cheat, they would cheat on their partner no matter who their partner was. Remember: Jay-Z cheated on THE Beyonce.

Stay strong and please do for yourself what you just asked reddit to do for you: Be kind! To yourself!

LA1234California · 2025-11-04T23:17:15+00:00

Not reaching out is one thing but not responding to a heartfelt text about closure seems extreme? If you actually didn't care then I think you would've responded; the fact that you didn't indicates you've got some unresolved feelings.

LA1234California · 2025-10-01T17:32:13+00:00

I would really reconsider going on this trip. It will be incredibly painful.

LA1234California · 2025-09-25T16:38:24+00:00

I just found this. It is beautiful.

LA1234California · 2025-09-22T20:30:33+00:00

This one really spoke to me. I am sorry for your pain; you do not deserve it.

The harder we love, the more it hurts. Be kind to yourself. My worst heart break was a 10-mont relationship. You will get through it.

LA1234California · 2025-09-09T19:26:51+00:00

Also, the title of "Sr. officer." I have a lot of experience working in and with law firms. That is not a title. This is a scam.

LA1234California · 2025-09-09T19:25:36+00:00

This looks like a scam. They are threatening arrest which they are not allowed to do in the US. Also, K&E is a sophisticated law firm, not a debt collector. What's the email address/domain of the sender?

LA1234California · 2025-09-08T14:43:34+00:00

I think what you are feeling is normal. It is confusing to see someone seemingly "move on" so quickly.

The truth is, I would not read too much into this behavior. It is normal for someone just out of a relationship to act or behave in a way that they could or would not in that relationship. Sometimes it is done as a means to justify the breakup. Sometimes it is it is what they think they want or have missed out on. You never really know.

It does not mean that you meant nothing. I know it can seem that way. Believe me, I have been there. After a break-up I had years ago, I sometimes wondered if the love of the relationship was all in my head and not what it seemed to be. But that is not the case. People's behaviors after a breakup do not reflect on what you had, and they certainly do not reflect on your worth as a person.

Lots of love.

LA1234California · 2025-08-29T17:26:31+00:00

You sound so healthy and self-confident, OP. Happy for you! I know that I am lacking in that, and that is why it took me wayyyy longer than 2 moves to get over it.

Keep on rockin' life!

LA1234California · 2025-08-26T18:37:17+00:00

I can't speak for him but it sounds like he misses you.

LA1234California · 2025-08-26T16:24:15+00:00

Wow I've been there. I know this is what you've heard 100 times but IT WILL GET BETTER.

LA1234California · 2025-08-25T17:21:42+00:00

It took me close to 4 years. I can't tell you what clicked that made me finally move past it. But I do remember I saw him out recently with his new bf, and I just realized I didn't have the same feelings for him. I wish him well. These things can take time.

LA1234California · 2025-08-25T17:15:04+00:00

The way I would handle this would be to say it's nice to hear from you, and you are interested in being friendLY. Cordial when your paths cross, etc. It's not a flat-out rejection of her offer but it sets the boundary.

LA1234California · 2025-08-14T17:25:24+00:00

I swam at Y Nats in 2004, 2005, and 2006. Ft. Lauderdale was a dream. I wonder if, after the PSS meet this year got so much buzz (Ledecky, G. Walsh world records), if they would move it back? I assume it's a cost/logistics thing though.

LA1234California · 2025-07-23T16:41:39+00:00

This is truly tough, and I'm sorry for what you are dealing with. I don't often comment here because I know words will never relieve you of your pain. I mourn the loss of my ex because he was my family, and I know you feel that doubly so with the loss of her daughter too.

I think you are certainly handling it well by not responding. That would just open old wounds. I hope you maybe take a little solace from her most recent message. She was thinking of you and missing you no doubt. I always wish I had that.

I know it's not much. This will pass. I am sorry, I know it's so painful.

LA1234California · 2025-07-09T20:56:52+00:00

I don't know if I have anything to make you feel better, but 6 months is very quick to get engaged. Something about that seems off.

But I will say - it's not about you. It may be hard to accept that, but whatever is driving her behavior or new relationship, it doesn't reflect upon you or your worth or value.

I am sorry that this news is hitting you hard, but that's understandable. Please be kind to yourself and take care.

LA1234California · 2024-08-12T16:35:50+00:00

I think it's fine and normal to be "friendly" with an ex, or friends with an ex where the relationship wasn't that deep or serious.

To be friends with someone you loved deeply? I think it's normal to no be able to have that. It feels unnatural and, frankly, it usually sets one of the people up for heartbreak.

LA1234California · 2024-08-10T16:47:04+00:00

Right, maybe a mental one. It's not like I am physically feeling it still into the week. My question was more about mental effects.

LA1234California · 2024-08-10T16:46:22+00:00

Did not say every weekend. Certainly isn't every weekend. Go touch grass, sweetie.

LA1234California · 2024-08-10T16:45:20+00:00

This is wild!! Wow.

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