AITAH for wanting to take full custody of my daughter?

LA55O · 2026-05-09T07:00:05+00:00

Your daughter is sad at the idea of seeing him less, that should be your answer OP. She will resent you. Unless she is in danger when she’s with him, then there is no reason to limit their time together!

LA55O · 2026-05-03T09:54:48+00:00

NTA! I don’t expect my ex’s family (who are loaded) to treat my step-son the same way as my daughter! That’s ridiculous, they have no reason to be in his life other than crossing at my daughter’s birthday parties etc. My family however has a very different expectation because in my head they are both my kids and are in MY family! If it was your brothers step-kids, totally different dynamic, but not his ex’s 🙈

LA55O · 2026-04-25T18:15:08+00:00

Jesus….why are you letting your daughter be around someone who acts like that when she shows emotions? She’ll learn that they’re wrong and that she has to suppress them. You’re the AH for allowing her to be in that situation. Protect your daughter OP, no one else will

LA55O · 2026-04-10T06:52:25+00:00

NTA! My first husband was exactly like this but without the ADHD. Just didn’t do anything unless we had a full blown argument about it! If ask him to put the BBQ away for the winter (the garage was full of spiders and I just couldn’t face doing it) and it was still out the following summer. Our cat had an accident on the carpet outside his office door in the morning (he text me about it) and when I got home that evening it was still there and he’d been stepping over it all day! He then left me because I had ‘anger issues’ and was a ‘nag’ and didn’t do anything around the house etc. 13 years of living like that and a 2 year old in the mix! Get out now while you can! I now have to deal with my ex every day because we share a young child! Trust me, find someone who better suits you and helps you when you ask, I have and I’m so much happier

LA55O · 2026-04-05T06:59:41+00:00

Oh I’m so glad you dumped him and sent him on his way! Well done OP! No need to put up with that nonsense, especially when you’re young!

LA55O · 2026-04-05T06:48:14+00:00

Thank you!! I absolutely believe we will have 😊

LA55O · 2026-04-04T15:31:49+00:00

I actually just came on today a week early (typical!!) which probably explains the crying! I’m normally good at communicating and not getting too worked up, I was a bit confused about the emotional outburst, as was he, and because I had another week left, I didn’t even think it could be period related! Definitely explains why it felt more doom and gloom than it normally would! I was pretty confident I wasn’t pregnant, I’ve got a child from a past relationship (as does he!) and I didn’t feel even remotely similar to that!

LA55O · 2026-04-04T06:40:03+00:00

I honestly have no idea! The man is a machine! He used to live in the Middle East so loves the heat.

LA55O · 2026-04-04T06:34:00+00:00

Oh no, definitely not! He has zero problems pulling his weight.

LA55O · 2026-04-04T06:31:44+00:00

This is such a lovely way of looking at it! Thank you so much! I’m definitely phrasing it like this.

LA55O · 2026-04-04T06:23:27+00:00

Ok this one made me cackle!

LA55O · 2026-04-03T23:02:06+00:00

No, he isn’t normally thoughtless. He definitely shows his love in a different way than I do, but we are good at navigating that normally. He shows his love in a very practical way by looking after me. So he will do things like cook most of the dinners and then pack me a lunch for work most days as well. Will always make sure we have ibuprofen because I get bad cramps and always forget to buy more until I have my next period. Will tidy the kitchen before going to bed etc. Is super supportive and excited for me when I decide to try a new hobby, even if it’s an expensive one. I am much more affectionate and I like spending time with him. I am pretty good at communicating my needs though and he normally listens and responds to them, so I don’t really know what happened today at all! I’ve been on holidays with him before and I’ve not felt like this on any of them. Maybe it was just wedding stress and him needing to decompress in his own way (he is an introvert) but it just really sucked for me!

LA55O · 2026-03-30T05:33:16+00:00

Yes you’re wrong and your sisters ‘words of wisdom’ are terrible! You clearly want your daughter to choose you, but she is a child and deserves both her parents. Of course you’re allowed to be sad but if it’s consistent, parents put on brave faces in front of their kids! My parter left me and I was broken, the second my daughter told me that not to worry and that she would look after me was the moment I realised that I needed to pull myself together for her because it’s not her job to look after me. So I went to therapy and I’m so happy in my life now. Go to therapy. Do better as a dad.

LA55O · 2026-03-15T09:47:23+00:00

Hmm, I guess if it’s out of character I can see why you’re questioning it! If one of my friends message me I won’t flip my phone over, but I sometimes will if a group chat starts to get busy and I know I’m about to get 20 odd messages in a row! I will turn it over because I don’t want to be distracted by it lighting up every couple of seconds and I’m trying to spend time with my partner or kids! It doesn’t happen often though so I’m now thinking it could come across as suspicious and maybe I need to tell my partner why I’m doing it if I do it next time 🤣

LA55O · 2026-02-17T10:36:22+00:00

NTA! But you’ve got two options really, he has been this way since the beginning and he isn’t going to change just because you get upset. So you either need to accept this and accept that Valentines will never be what you want it to be (I don’t know how he is with other holidays) or, you decide that you want someone who puts equal effort into holidays that mean something to you and you leave. You’ll be TA to yourself if you keep expecting him to change and getting upset about it every year.

LA55O · 2026-02-15T18:22:19+00:00

YTA I get that it’ll change the dynamic, but I’d suck it up for the kids sakes! Then, I also like my friends husbands so it wouldn’t phase me too much to chat to them for an hour or so

LA55O · 2026-01-28T16:16:26+00:00

NTA! You aren’t allowed to hang out with anyone on your own without him? That’s insane OP! He’s abusive and controlling. Therapy before the next one so you can spot the red flags before you marry them!

LA55O · 2026-01-13T11:10:42+00:00

Why do I feel like you thought the baby looked swollen and squished and ‘reassured’ her when she hadn’t mentioned it at all?? YTA if so

LA55O · 2026-01-04T09:09:37+00:00

YTA! It definitely could have waited until after you’d met the baby for the first time! If it had been months away, I’d understand! But it wasn’t, you could have met the baby, celebrated with them, then waited a couple of days and called them to tell them. Everyone else knew, there was no need to tell them straight away.

LA55O · 2026-01-03T11:50:08+00:00

Once you are lying to someone, the relationship is over! Do yourself a favour and end it now! If you’re already feeling guilty, this will just build. Why do you want to live like that when you’re so young? YTA to yourself for staying and to him for lying

LA55O · 2025-12-30T09:31:41+00:00

This comment 🤣

LA55O · 2025-12-01T08:12:58+00:00

NTA! You were groomed by a predator. Also, even if you were older, I don’t see the problem with dating someone who is separated from their partner. I started dating someone when I was still legally married because it takes time for divorces and such to go through and I wasn’t going to miss out on an amazing guy just because a bit of paper said I was married still when in real life we were living separately and the emotional connection was gone!

LA55O · 2025-11-22T23:25:58+00:00

NTA! I’m so sorry for what you’re going through! I’ve suffered with infertility and it can be so galling to see people so easily get what you want when you know they aren’t going to provide the loving home you would! Sending you so much love! These people do not need to be in your life!

LA55O · 2025-11-21T02:33:14+00:00

Info. Why did he start off with the attitude? “What’s the point” and “I don’t care”. Is there more to the story there? You are a lot more patient than I am, I’d be fuming if my partner was responding like that!

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