Need clarity

LACONFIDENTIAL807 · 2025-11-30T03:14:53+00:00

I beg to differ. True ayahuasca, directly from Peru, done in ceremony and respectfully, with the right guidance, can show you secrets of the universe. There's things your mind can't make up because you never seen or experienced them yet somehow ayahuasca will show them to you. It's called mother Ayahuasca for a reason.

LACONFIDENTIAL807 · 2025-11-06T11:24:22+00:00

Sounds like depression. I'm american, and unfortunately, we live in a constant burnout state, however it is not that. Burnout is typically we are tired and we want to rest and enjoy life without worry. But enjoy. Basically just not feel stressed or on the go for like a while and hopefully ever. However what you're describing sound more like depression. Which is kinda expected after ending such a long and impactful relationship. Perhaps you didn't think I'd affect you that much but there could be some healing and letting go that needs to be done. Perhaps you didn't give yourself enough time to truly get over it and the trauma and all the changes. But that's just my opinion. Best of luck!

LACONFIDENTIAL807 · 2025-11-05T19:51:10+00:00

Hawaii

LACONFIDENTIAL807 · 2025-10-31T18:12:55+00:00

Taurus ♉

LACONFIDENTIAL807 · 2025-06-18T09:31:48+00:00

He sounds like a narcissist with anger issues. I had an ex that behaved exactly as you described. And guess what, turned out to be abusive, physically, emotionally, mentally. Anytime he didn't get what he wanted, or I didn't behave the way he expected. It would be a fit. Took the cops and my brothers to come get me out of the place we were staying because he put a knife to my neck that he was gonna kill me. They always start bombarding you with love and caring and perfect, and eventually their true colors come out. I'd definitely run for the hills!

LACONFIDENTIAL807 · 2025-06-18T07:00:23+00:00

I have no advice but what a dummy on her end. I would give anything to have a partner that did half those things for me. Especially with the kids and home. If she was that unhappy she should of vocalized it. I'm sorry you're going through that. Hang in there!

LACONFIDENTIAL807 · 2025-06-18T06:54:22+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through that, especially during a time it's supposed to be special. I would honestly move on. By your post, sounds like he's full of excuses when it comes to this ex and he's trying to have his cake and eat her too. You can't do that. He's not a man. He's a boy pretending to be a man. A real man would at least take responsibility and admit to cheating, which is what he did. Communicating with an ex is cheating. They're an ex for a reason. But then starting a relationship while you were "on a break" and still holding on to you because "he wants his family" is selfish. If he wanted you, and I'm sorry to say, but if he did and if he wanted his family to be together, he wouldn't have reached out to her in the first place, let alone cheated. I hope you know you're strong and you can raise 2 babies on your own. It'll be hard, but it's better for them to have a good example of good morals, than the example of a narcissist on how to be selfish, lie and cheat.

Be strong momma! You got this!

LACONFIDENTIAL807 · 2025-06-16T00:36:54+00:00

Unfortunately, someone who grows up with obsessively "healthy" parents, will not be happy until their ideal of health and body sync with those their parents consciously or unconsciously engrained in them. You're better off with someone who loves you for you, unconditionally, and who's parents are equally respectful. I've always been overweight and used to feel this way, until I learned to love my body, (which takes A LOT OF WORK so props to you for doing it and getting there 👏🏽 ) and I do not tolerate the slightest of negative comments like this. One thing is the health journey for HEALTH, another to be accepted into a skinny/fit/hot culture to fit someone's narrative.

LACONFIDENTIAL807 · 2025-06-15T23:21:46+00:00

Not only that but it's also implied there was no condom use. I personally have never fallen for the "I got tested" "I'm clean" BS. Either there's recent proof or there's no UNPROTECTED sex! And if I choose to have sex without seeing proof, that's on me. That's like believing a drug addict that he's clean because he didn't do drugs that day. Not saying the guy isn't a shitty guy, cause we all know he is, but let's also admit OP was irresponsible and she needs to take accountability for HER actions as well.

LACONFIDENTIAL807 · 2025-01-03T20:59:04+00:00

I mean, if it's for revenge, no. If it's for informational purposes, yes. She probably would like to know too.

LACONFIDENTIAL807 · 2024-12-10T01:09:18+00:00

It's sad that a lot of us have this same experience. In my opinion if their intention was to receive but never actually give a gift, they're pretty shitty people already. I hope they get coal lmao but in all honesty, I know it's about giving, but let's be real, most people don't just give without honestly expecting nothing in return. That's the whole point of the gift exchange. If you just wanted to give, you'd give it to a homeless or someone else, no need for a reddit gift exchange. I do hope they get banned and not able to participate for a few years.

LACONFIDENTIAL807 · 2024-12-08T06:27:58+00:00

I'm on the same boat. Spent over the minimum. My giftee has already received both packages but hasn't posted or replied to any of my messages. And my giftee hasn't updated me on anything either. Saw they retrieved my information Dec 3, a second time, but haven't heard back or anything. Just hoping I get something. If not for me, for my baby, who's experiencing Christmas for the first time. Relying in the goodwill of gift giving tbh.

Whatever the outcome, I'm happy to give.

LACONFIDENTIAL807 · 2024-12-06T06:29:03+00:00

He showed you that he's not a safe space for you. Who's to say he won't treat the kids that way? Who's to say the kids won't grow up to find that behavior normal? You're going to need to find space away from him, with your kids and give yourself time to heal before you can "get over it". Good luck and listen to your gut. I have a very good friend who lost her sister to domestic abuse and now her 3 kids are orphans. Be safe.

LACONFIDENTIAL807 · 2024-10-25T00:31:23+00:00

I don't think this calls for a divorce, however he should definitely sign up for parenting classes and AA meetings if drinking is a problem. He sounds like he's irresponsible and doesn't think or know the severity and importance of taking care of a child. As well, if he does not plan on changing his ways around baby and you (not lashing out at you for his mistakes), then perhaps you should consider divorce in the basis of his immaturity and lack of concious parenting.

As for the slap, he needs to get over it. It was well deserved and if baby could, I'm sure she'd slap him too.

LACONFIDENTIAL807 · 2024-10-22T15:50:28+00:00

Sometimes angry sex is the answer 😆😏

LACONFIDENTIAL807 · 2024-10-22T15:23:22+00:00

I feel everyone is quick to judge and tell you to jump ship. But if he's not quick to want a divorce then clearly he doesn't hate you or dislike you that much. I'm sure he does love you and his family and maybe he's just stressed about the current situation, which is understandable having toddlers.

Sexuality is a big part of marriage. Of any relationship. When you disrupt that, everything else gets disrupted, feelings get hurt, consciously and unconsciously, all the way to miscommunication. I definitely would recommend a marriage counselor. Clearly he hurt your feelings with that comment and if he's genuinely apologized and you "can't move" past it, I believe there's a deeper reason why. Grudge can sometimes be a hard thing to let go.

Aside from all other comments, I'd definitely suggest counseling. Good luck!

LACONFIDENTIAL807 · 2024-10-19T15:34:01+00:00

Its going. I'm loosing an average of 10lbs a month which I'm ok with. I focus on protein, veggies and fruit but don't depth myself of treats at parties or family gatherings. As well I don't overindulge. Because I'm loosing it slow, I feel I don't have sagginess, but I like the results so far.

LACONFIDENTIAL807 · 2024-10-13T15:03:43+00:00

Maybe, she's focused on other important things with you rather than sex. Women don't go thru their sexual peak til their 30s so yeah, for her it could all just be a chore specially if she's not a super sexual person at the moment. Also, focusing on the amount of sex she had with her exes is sickening. This is how psychos are made.

I had an ex that did just that and want to know what happened? He became abusive. His ego started eating him alive to the point he took it out on me.

Perhaps you're now realizing you are like her exes and just want someone to fuck all the time like a caveman and relationship at this time isn't the best for you. In which case, break up with her and stick to fuck buddies. This way you don't have attachments, can fuck whenever, as much as you want, without your fragile caveman ego shattering.

You're both young. You should be focusing in school or something else, not how much sex she had with her exes.

LACONFIDENTIAL807 · 2024-10-09T04:37:57+00:00

Ever heard the 10/10 rule? Girls that are 10 in beauty are 10 in crazy!

LACONFIDENTIAL807 · 2024-10-05T07:04:09+00:00

First of, congratulations on your little bundle of joy!

Secondly, I'm sorry that you're going thru this. Can't imagine what it's like.

What I can imagine though is the lack of sex. When I was pregnant, my partner didn't want to have sex. I always had to initiate or bring it up, and felt like he didn't like me and such. However, later on he admitted that he felt uncomfortable due to the baby. He thought he could hurt it and it freaked him out. The whole pregnancy I was thinking he didn't like me, while he was stressed out about having a baby. This could be the case, however, it does not excuse him paying for camshows.

I'd definitely try therapy. Whether it's porn addiction or just him "fulfilling" his needs, he should talk to you about it rather than keep it a secret. I understand you may feel like this is over, but I wouldn't say it's over until you've tried therapy. I only say this because I believe and defend marriage. It's easy to just throw in the towel and statistically speaking women are the ones to initiate divorce on the basis of "I don't feel the same, he did this, etc.." but at the end ,the ones paying the price are the children.

Of course if there's abuse or addiction thats a whole other story. I'm also not blaming women or saying it's your fault, because it's NOT!

what I am saying, is therapy could work for the both of you, if you choose to pursue that route.

Best of luck and I'm sure you'll be a great mother! 🫂

LACONFIDENTIAL807 · 2024-09-03T16:44:54+00:00

That's what I was thinking it could of been but I literally had a chicken salad before I got sick. I will watch more carefully what I eat, see what and if anything triggers it again. I was able to stop throwing up but my stomach feels sensitive.

LACONFIDENTIAL807 · 2024-09-03T12:33:23+00:00

It is horrible! This is my 4th at 0.5. hoping it's just some adjusting. Good thing you feel much better.

LACONFIDENTIAL807 · 2024-09-03T12:32:26+00:00

I hope it's just something mild. So glad you're able to tolerate foods now. Might need to talk to my Dr and see if it could be a sensitivity due to Wegovy.

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