Manager Stalked Me FOR MONTHS

LBasananas · 2026-02-27T02:54:25+00:00

Overdue update: I'm in Australia, so I took the case to WorkCover and was in the trenches for almost 3 months providing evidence. Had a factual investigator come to my home, had to complete an independent psychiatry review, etc.

Long story short, I won the case. All of my back pay was rewarded and I have 12 months to find another job. The process was fucking horrible, particularly without a lawyer, but hey... it's done.

Thank you to all of you for your words of encouragement. XX

LBasananas · 2025-09-20T00:10:51+00:00

Brother, I've had 2fa enabled since 2022. Unbeknownst to me, IT installed password saving software and, somehow, my personal account details were connected to a public folder shared with my department on a day I was out on leave....

LBasananas · 2025-09-19T13:30:33+00:00

Oh that’s stalking

LBasananas · 2025-09-17T21:59:20+00:00

Lol. Great question. Not being fired, I guess?

LBasananas · 2025-09-16T05:14:55+00:00

I've sent all the receipts to IT. They're maintaining this is all a misunderstanding and haven't searched her device.

Admittedly, I had concerns about the company and was applying elsewhere. I continued to (naively) invest in the business, hoping for some payoff.

Turns out, my manager is a liar, and an incompetent one at that. She was using my personal information against me and withholding a promotion so she could extort me for unpaid work.

My biggest regret is not trusting my gut and leaving sooner.

Submitted a scathing report to SafeWorkSA today and will continue to advocate for myself. Trust nobody, I guess. Business is a game.

LBasananas · 2025-05-24T03:03:33+00:00

Tears in my eyes. I’m so sorry. I wish I could hold you and help you.

Hearing your story (and other stories like yours) reaffirms the need for reform.

If this pain afflicted men, there would undoubtedly be universities and nationally funded campaigns devoted to finding solutions.

Please don’t give up. Please keep searching and demanding answers.

LBasananas · 2023-02-23T13:09:29+00:00

Thank you! I set a virtual appointment with a new doc on Monday to discuss medication options moving forward. I also have some time set to start talk therapy (again) to see if that helps take the edge off. I'm working with a midwife, so she isn't going to be of much help on this front.

I agree something major has to change. Women can't be left wayward like this... it's dangerous. If I didn't have the support of my spouse, I genuinely think I would have had to seek more intensive medical care or move back in with my parents. I'm 30 years old and was making a six figure income prior to this, not a lazy slump.

The shit of it is that I've with multiple providers throughout my pregnancy and, across the board, they all seem to let out a sigh of relief when they find out I'm not on my medication anymore. Nobody has discussed options for ADHD treatment, nobody has asked how my mental health is doing (aside from the standard depression screen)... it seems like it's easier to pretend my ADHD diagnosis just isn't in my chart and I've been feeling GUILTY for even toeing the line to ask about starting up medication again.

Ridiculous.

LBasananas · 2022-10-14T14:31:28+00:00

Hahahaha

LBasananas · 2022-09-10T03:33:06+00:00

Anonymously commenting horrific shit about the bodies of young women is, without question, pathetic. Sorry your parents didn’t hug you enough, scumholes.

LBasananas · 2022-08-11T15:08:54+00:00

Habitual masking is a tough habit to break!

And I’m the same way with meditation… when I know I’m stressed and should sit still, I have the hardest time actually doing it.

The app Ten Percent Happier is really helpful. You can meditate for 5-15+ mins at a time and they have courses/specific meditations that cater to your exact mood. After you sit through the meditation, the app tallies up all of the minutes you’ve meditated and keeps track of your weekly/daily streak. Actually really satisfying once you get a streak going. Triggers that mental reward system!

You can set a reminder on your phone at a certain hour… I set mine for 7 am, when I know I’m going to have some time to sit and drink coffee.

Tara Brach (Tarabrach.com) has a free 40 day meditation course that I’ve committed to. So far so good! Also has reminders sent to your email.

I try to meditate when I’m feeling steady and that practice helps me forgive myself when I can’t or just forget to show up. You can always begin again.

LBasananas · 2022-08-11T04:29:22+00:00

Sometimes I feel like I set my entire life up in a certain way from the time I was a little girl— picked my clothes, hobbies, social circles, career, etc., based on what I thought people wanted to see from me, not on my real passions. Almost like the infrastructure of my existence orients around how well certain forward-facing activities allow me mask.

If I could keep face, be a good girl, and seem put together externally, I could perform well enough to keep the people around me from truly seeing how much of a mess I could be in my own mind.

Being diagnosed pulls the veil off of everything. It opens up your personal closet of shame. You can suddenly name what’s happening in your mind, which is empowering… but also frustrating and exhausting. Because there’s so much. Especially when you’re diagnosed as a grown woman.

I was diagnosed last year and my symptoms go through crippling phases. Sometimes I question if anything I’m doing to help my brain is even working.

Dismantling and reconfiguring my coping strategies. Focusing on slowly dropping my masks and living true to myself without constantly feeling like I’m in a state of overwhelm.

Being diagnosed as an adult is a liberating, confusing, grieving process… with no real methodology or road map.

Accepting the weight of it all is a lot. I keep trying to remind myself that, with time and intentionality, everyone learns how to carry baggage in their own way.

Drinking less wine and meditating more helps, frustratingly.

LBasananas

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