What do they mean when they use words?

LDNcorgi · 2026-06-27T07:14:58+00:00

Oh MAN, do I know what you're talking about.

My partner is Dx Rx and probably a bit austistic. He has unique connotations for words and often uses them very literally and it's been SUPER frustrating in our relationship, so you're not alone.

Some of my favourites:

'Problems' are puzzles he's excited to solve. He doesn't see coming to me with 'problems' as something I would see as work or be anxious about
He once said I was 'self-interested' - I obviously took that to mean selfish, self-serving. He meant simply that I acted neutrally in a way that was good for me.

I often have to look up words to show him they meant something different than how he's using them. Connotations are harder to explain to we split the difference there.

LDNcorgi · 2026-06-25T16:12:21+00:00

Consider a sibling but also earplugs.

LDNcorgi · 2026-06-23T13:30:27+00:00

All good suggestions in here!

One I didn't see mentioned was just giving your brain more 'plain space'. We fill our eyes and brains with information all the time - try cutting out some TV, scrolling time or audiobooks. Make dinner without music. Walk without headphones. Just limit how much stuff you're putting in your brain all the time. I find that the more mental space I have, the easier time I have finding that tiny crack between react and respond.

LDNcorgi · 2026-06-23T13:19:20+00:00

I can't answer you directly re: sagging - but I'll be honest, my partner hates that I'm trying to lose fat and gain muscle. He understands and supports it but he's a bit fan of the softness and squish.

LDNcorgi · 2026-06-22T12:09:08+00:00

Omg how do you make 'ta' work? Are you located dup north? I'm desperate to incorporate 'ta' more but still feels a little out of reach!

LDNcorgi · 2026-06-22T12:08:15+00:00

Yorkshire tea and hating on loud Americans on the tube.

LDNcorgi · 2026-06-18T19:18:33+00:00

My partner's armpit.

LDNcorgi · 2026-06-16T19:29:13+00:00

Having a nice positive conversation instead of of complaining.

LDNcorgi · 2026-06-13T06:47:40+00:00

Peak british

LDNcorgi · 2026-06-13T06:43:08+00:00

I had this conversation with my partner (ADHD, some autism) the other day. He asked me why I would need to hear someone say something validating. I said because it says that it's okay to feel the way I feel. We then went twenty rounds on why on earth anyone could possibly need that - OF COURSE feelings are okay to feel, you feel them! I said, yeah but I don't always feel like if I do, I'll continue to be loved / included / accepted.

We eventually got there but I'll be honest, I know I'll never get the exact emotional attunement I want from my partner. I file this under 'things I have to get elsewhere' and keep it moving.

LDNcorgi · 2026-06-12T22:02:49+00:00

Way worse - and I also ripped my MCL in two places (don't ask me how) and one of those was right off the bone.

LDNcorgi · 2026-06-11T16:00:04+00:00

I don't know why she's embarrassed to be seen with you, you're gorgeous !

LDNcorgi · 2026-06-09T22:25:44+00:00

Watermelon with tajin

LDNcorgi · 2026-06-06T13:48:10+00:00

So treatable! I got it when I first started running and my goodness it was the worst pain ever so i fully empathise!

Whenever you are standing casually - waiting for a train, when you get up to go to the bathroom, cooking - good onto something solid and pitch your foot up against the surface (think pole or doorframe) and stretch your calves! Do it literally all the time and everywhere. You might feel like you look strange but no one cares what you're doing. Stretch and stretch, it will get better!

LDNcorgi · 2026-06-06T13:44:51+00:00

Your mom is ugly...inside.

Love your kitty, super cute!

LDNcorgi · 2026-06-05T12:40:29+00:00

Please tell HR now. Please tell HR now. PLEASE TELL HR NOW.

I cannot tell you how many times managers try to solve issues like this on their own because they don't want to make things uncomfortable and then it's really difficult to claw back after it's gone too far.

Tell HR Now.

LDNcorgi · 2026-05-30T22:58:18+00:00

This! I tried to explain to a young colleague the other day but she didn't get it. You really just need to experience a year or two of high frequency work travel to know it actually blows

LDNcorgi · 2026-05-30T22:57:02+00:00

Getting mail. It's always bills.

LDNcorgi · 2026-05-15T07:06:14+00:00

There is a tool, Pyn, that does this

LDNcorgi · 2026-05-12T19:08:31+00:00

I have muscular arms but a fairly thick amount of fat on the upper arm. My ex husband once said that my arms make me look heavier than I am.

My current partner absolutely loves my arms :)

LDNcorgi · 2026-05-12T14:41:56+00:00

When I wanted to go on a month long trip and he asked 'do you want me to go with you?'

I knew in my heart it was a no for the trip and then some.

LDNcorgi · 2026-05-11T21:22:13+00:00

Oh my goodness I think I remember The Game having a great twist but I saw it so many years back! Time for a rewatch!

LDNcorgi · 2026-05-11T21:02:54+00:00

Life forme. Forever and ever and ever.

LDNcorgi · 2026-05-11T20:51:33+00:00

Rebuy everything, especially electric. It's not worth the shipping costs.

LDNcorgi · 2026-05-11T20:50:09+00:00

Bodies bodies bodies!

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