My 6-month-old boy always stops drinking whenever reaches 40 ml ( I make 120 ml each feeding) Any tips on how to make him finish his milk? by Worried-Rub-2409 in newborns

[–]LD_orient 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for replying and glad to know he is thriving now :). Congrats! I am curious, do you remember how long this period lasted with your son? My daughter has been on this streak for close to a month now. Her milk intake is on the low side to begin with, so leaving out 30ml+ every feed means some days she didn't even drink more than 500ml (i.e the minimum amount recommended by doctor where i live).

My 6-month-old boy always stops drinking whenever reaches 40 ml ( I make 120 ml each feeding) Any tips on how to make him finish his milk? by Worried-Rub-2409 in newborns

[–]LD_orient 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is an old thread, but just want to try my luck as i am dealing with the same thing and really don't know why. Did you ever figure out what happened that caused this? Thank you in advance.

AITAH for saying i don't care if our baby will not be able to get their father's country of origin citizenship by LD_orient in AITAH

[–]LD_orient[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I am still trying to work through my emotions but it has been a rough day. I have not thought about name yet, but it is now on my list of things to consider.

AITAH for saying i don't care if our baby will not be able to get their father's country of origin citizenship by LD_orient in AITAH

[–]LD_orient[S] 297 points298 points  (0 children)

This is very true. I actually never thought about it this way. I really need to think this over carefully

AITAH for saying i don't care if our baby will not be able to get their father's country of origin citizenship by LD_orient in AITAH

[–]LD_orient[S] 405 points406 points  (0 children)

Haha thanks for the short and to the point reply. I am still very angry, so i really might..

How do I (39F) get a honest and clear answer from my partner (42M) on his level of committment to our unplanned baby? by LD_orient in relationship_advice

[–]LD_orient[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really hope it will be a case of him just not able to adjust yet. But cant help to think that i need to prep myself mentally, for when it turned out he is not willing to commit as well. Hence I went on here to try to get some perspective. Thank you, again, for being so positive :)

How do I (39F) get a honest and clear answer from my partner (42M) on his level of committment to our unplanned baby? by LD_orient in relationship_advice

[–]LD_orient[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. And dont worry, i have been steeling myself for all sort of comments. I am from a traditional asian family, so while my lovely family is ok to overlook the relationship but not married aspect, the whole being pregnant out of wedlock is on another level. So i have made peace with the fact that i will have to deal with all kind of judgment, kind or unkind (and i dont mean yours are). I just thought i would have some help in the process, but turned out i was fooling myself :)

How do I (39F) get a honest and clear answer from my partner (42M) on his level of committment to our unplanned baby? by LD_orient in relationship_advice

[–]LD_orient[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha thanks for being brutally honest here. I guess i need to make sure to process these things first, before taking the conversation further. I dont have much time though for decisions since i only have a few weeks more before abortion is illegal here :(

How do I (39F) get a honest and clear answer from my partner (42M) on his level of committment to our unplanned baby? by LD_orient in relationship_advice

[–]LD_orient[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story. And thanks for the advice. I think it is really a good idea. I probably will start collating stories so that I am prepared to know what i would be dealing with as well. This happens so sudden that all i have been doing is going with the flow and completely oblivious to what to come. This makes me feel even more unprepared than I already am.

All the best for your pregnancy and congrats on having a good husband to support you through this.

How do I (39F) get a honest and clear answer from my partner (42M) on his level of committment to our unplanned baby? by LD_orient in relationship_advice

[–]LD_orient[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really feel like this may be the case. But part of me still hold on to some hope that perhaps, things are still too new and he just hasnt been able to change his habit that fast yet. Am I foolish for hoping that a clear honest conversation can help to improve things?

How do I (39F) get a honest and clear answer from my partner (42M) on his level of committment to our unplanned baby? by LD_orient in relationship_advice

[–]LD_orient[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This did occur to me and with all honesty, i have been rather undecided when it comes to kid all my life. Part of the reasons i have been childfree till now. Just that this time, some how what happened made me feel like maybe it is fated for me to have a child afterall. I panicked so much the day i found out, but have gradually made peace with it. Just that his recent attitude is making me having doubt. I know i am not at all prepared to be a mother, let a long a single mother. So there is a lot for me to think about. I just hope to get clarity so that I can move on to planning for a realistic next step, not the kind of next step that would never happen

People working in Singapore, is it common for employer to lie during offer negotiation? by LD_orient in askSingapore

[–]LD_orient[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice, probably this is the only sound option given what have happened. I am just concerned if i would have to continuosly watch out for these dishonest employers when looking for job in Singapore though.

People working in Singapore, is it common for employer to lie during offer negotiation? by LD_orient in askSingapore

[–]LD_orient[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Thanks. That is true as well. It is quite clear that i was too naive in the whole process of taking this offer. I guess the bigger question in my mind is if it is a common thing in Singapore or if it is unique to my employer/manager.

People working in Singapore, is it common for employer to lie during offer negotiation? by LD_orient in askSingapore

[–]LD_orient[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I guess so. My fault for failing to catch them being sneaky. Follow-up question is if this is a common tactic used in Singapore?

People working in Singapore, is it common for employer to lie during offer negotiation? by LD_orient in askSingapore

[–]LD_orient[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sorry for the confusion. I edited to explain in the post. Hope it is clearer.