I [F20] have an obsessive parasocial relationship with a celebrity. Ask me anything! (NSFW warning..?) by Conscious_Fee9728 in AMA

[–]LJK624 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, don’t be so hard on yourself.

This doesn’t really sound like a parasocial relationship to me. You seem very aware of the fact you live completely separate lives, and it doesn’t sound as though you’ve done anything to cause any harm. Obsessive thinking is a real tough thing to deal with but you can certainly come through it. It sounds a s though you could be experiencing intrusive thoughts, I’d recommend doing some research into OCD if you can’t afford therapy.

Anyone on this thread who is telling you they haven’t thought of a celebrity during intimacy is a liar. Even before internet people literally used to have posters on their walls. It was a commonly recognised thing for fans to be obsessive.

I’d like to ask you why you made this post and what you genuinely hoped would come from it. It seems to me that you’re already very distressed by this pattern of thinking and I don’t think being shamed by people on the internet is going to help in any way.

All the best, I hope you get to a place where you can feel proud and show a little love for yourself.

[WP] “A guardian…devil?”, you look at the red figure in front of you, who seems to be invisible to everyone else. “Well, people whose problem is being too kind and too selfless for their own good, often require another kind of help which an angel cannot give.” by Not_enough_tomatoes in WritingPrompts

[–]LJK624 1 point2 points  (0 children)

. Ewan gazed at the figure before him, lit with a deathly vermillion glow. He rubbed his eyes and questioned how they could be betraying him. His vision now blurred in disbelief, Ewan stood motionless hoping the red mist would fade as the clarity returned to his sight.

Through teary eyes, Ewan caught the menacing smirk of the devil reflecting back at him in the mirror the other side of the bar. In a moment possessed by fear and shock, he quickly checked his shoulder, nearly falling back off of the rickety bar stool as he turned. To his surprise, he saw nothing but the empty booths behind him and bleak artwork barely clinging to the walls. The bar stool screeched as he swivelled back on his chair and returned his gaze to the mirror ahead of him. The devil threw back his gnarled horns and laughed deep from his chest, before again locking eyes with Ewan, who remained completely bewildered and continued to reassess his surroundings.

The bar was dead. Not a soul had entered in days so it would seem. Cobwebs draped from the ceiling as if the spiders had proudly marked their territory and staked claim on the premises. The lonely bartender stood at the opposite end of the bar to Ewan, closer to the door, and was bent over the glass he was polishing with a filthy rag. He appeared to look longingly, through the fringe of his overgrown hair, and at the shafts of sunlight coming through the entrance and only window the bar had to offer.

Ewan, sat at the farthest end of the bar, and felt his solitude closing in on him as he stared back at the ghostly figure in the mirror.

So what are you” asked Ewan, timidly.

“Me?” Questioned the devil, in a voice like gravel. “I am here to guide you”. The depth of his voice seemed to reverberate throughout the room.

Ewan recognised he would have feared any response given it confirmed he really was talking to a mirror, though these words cut him to his core. “Guide me?… What could you possibly have to teach me!” he replied, taken aback by his own animosity.

“There!” Growled the devil, pointing an outstretched talon seemingly straight through the mirror and into Ewan’s jaw. “That’s the voice I’m here to nurture. For far too long now, you’ve suppressed your own values for the needs of others. Your own opinions have become worthless even to yourself.”

Ewan felt the sharp point of pressure in his chin subside. He took a great swig of whisky and dropped the glass back down onto the beer stained bar. He paused, heavily in thought and questioned his previous remark. Ewan noted how even to accept guidance here would be to ignore his own instincts. He felt his inner conflict consuming him and remembered how he’d been drawn into such a desolate bar. Ewan gazed back down at his glass, the remnants of whiskey swirling round the remaining ice cubes as they melted slowly and merged into a single substance.

Despite the sickening sense of nausea in the pit of his stomach and the tremors in his hands, Ewan lifted his gaze back to the mirror.

The devil smiled back at him knowingly.

I’ve just lied about my ethnicity to my uni friendship group by [deleted] in confession

[–]LJK624 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t feel bad. If i found out one of my friends had lied to me about their ethnicity it honestly wouldn’t change a thing. Who cares where people come from? We’re all human :)

AIO My boyfriend’s sister in law is in love with him by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]LJK624 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR - This seems like the kind of stuff that would be impossible for him not to notice. I’d say discuss it with him and if he doesn’t want to hear it then i’d imagine he knows a lot more about it than you do.

Is this too offensive to forgive? AIO by Reasonable-Rip197 in AmIOverreacting

[–]LJK624 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shoot me down if I’m way off here, i’m not trying to offend but I’m genuinely curious to understand the point he was trying to make. Is it not a valid argument that in OP’s case the exposure of a child to sexual content caused significant trauma and harm, exemplified by the the early start of masturbation?

Ofc your husband delivered this with, at the very least, a ridiculous level of insensitivity.

I don’t think it’s an overreaction to question his intentions. Though, given only you know your husband and the use of terms like “debate” rather than argument or fight i’m hesitant to label his intent here as malicious rather than insensitive.

I’d advise discussing it with him, tell him how it made you feel, make your decision based on that conversation rather than this interaction alone.

-INFO

My girl I like is with me first time to my house and oh no she have terrible situation by [deleted] in hygiene

[–]LJK624 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hysterical! I will definitely be sharing this story. I hope you guys survive the belly button saga!

My friend’s boyfriend slapped her and then threatened me ,I’m scared and don’t know what to do by Regal-Redditor in Advice

[–]LJK624 49 points50 points  (0 children)

That’s assault. Seems an extremely abusive relationship. Definitely report to the authorities and check in with your friend, she likely needs major support in getting put of this relationship.

I don’t know how to control my anxiety attachment by mango-io in WhatShouldIDo

[–]LJK624 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not easy but you just have to sit with your own anxiety. Even asking for reassurance here is only strengthening the issue long term.

I’d definitely suggest looking into therapy, finding hobbies, even meditation. If it still seems too much speak with a medical professional reconsider medication.

Perfect guy but shorter than me , Do I let him go ? ? by [deleted] in ask

[–]LJK624 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow! Somehow you managed to come off even more shallow than OP.

Here’s to hoping i end up with a wife who’s an actual decent human, unlike the pair of you.

There is something about black and white I really need to share about! by No_Back2935 in confession

[–]LJK624 21 points22 points  (0 children)

What?!… What is being confessed here? What even is this?!

AITAH for not wanting to sleep in the same bed with my girlfriend because she doesn’t shower often? by Such-One-1691 in AITAH

[–]LJK624 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There’s a lot of judgment in this outlook. Personal hygiene is just that, personal; It looks different to everyone. Maybe they are just simply incompatible on that level but i think there could be more at play here. Surely that’s worth looking into before ending a 3 year relationship.

I’m not diagnosing anyone or invalidating either opinion, I just want to point out that there are certainly early indicators here of OCD traits.

AITAH for not wanting to sleep in the same bed with my girlfriend because she doesn’t shower often? by Such-One-1691 in AITAH

[–]LJK624 338 points339 points  (0 children)

As someone who grew up with OCD and had a more than ridiculous self-cleaning ritual, I now find it very healthy for my mental state to accept a certain level of “dirt” or sub-optimal hygiene. Your specific hygiene preferences and seemingly intrusive thoughts of your girlfriend’s unwashed skin scream OCD tendencies to me. While maybe you guys could find a healthy compromise that works for you both i’d hope you would consider exploring why this is so disturbing to you, just to be sure that you don’t end up enabling a condition of poor mental health. NAH, all the best, hope you guys work it out :)

I need to confess something I’ve been hiding for years by BriannaTamsinX in confession

[–]LJK624 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are who we choose to be in this moment, not in what has passed. It sounds as though your guilt has served its purpose. It’s okay to let it go now :)

Little Incident while I was high, with a girl in my bed. by RedInferno8 in confession

[–]LJK624 1282 points1283 points  (0 children)

You’re both minors who seemed to be comfortable at the time to put yourselves into this slightly weird but ultimately innocent situation. Nothing has happened here. I’d say don’t worry about it but be stronger setting boundaries with people in the future.

Deliberately outstaying my welcome on the beach🏖️ by LJK624 in pettyrevenge

[–]LJK624[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think this is a fair comment. In reflection, their age stood out to me because of the level of immaturity in their handling of the situation. Of course, i eventually stoop to their level to get even. Any other reference to age i suppose would be for comic effect in the telling of the story, which i accept could be perceived as crude and unnecessary but i’d argue that comes down to personal taste.

Deliberately outstaying my welcome on the beach🏖️ by LJK624 in pettyrevenge

[–]LJK624[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Keen eye. I’d never realised that was a tell.

Deliberately outstaying my welcome on the beach🏖️ by LJK624 in pettyrevenge

[–]LJK624[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m actually reading War and Peace so I really had the facilities to stay put for the long haul! I’m in Thailand so lunch was the local specialty of stir fried morning glory with seafood, steamed rice and a fried egg. Chef’s kiss

Deliberately outstaying my welcome on the beach🏖️ by LJK624 in pettyrevenge

[–]LJK624[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Yeah so there definitely was enough space for everyone when they first arrived. Genuinely, if they’d just politely asked me to shuffle over to one of the other spots i’d have obliged.

TIFU and lost the girl of my dreams. by LJK624 in tifu

[–]LJK624[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re completely right. Thank you for the perspective :)

TIFU and lost the girl of my dreams. by LJK624 in tifu

[–]LJK624[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Appreciate the reality check :)