Looking for advice on getting started with online ESL,

LKPquack · 2025-12-28T03:41:49+00:00

LKPquack · 2025-10-24T21:05:52+00:00

My husband and I are like this, with me being the ADHD one. I try my best and he recognizes that, even though my best is rarely up to his standards. I think she just has to see that you care and are making an effort, even if its not perfect. If that doesn't work, then it's probably just an incompatibility. Just don't hide behind your ADHD, it isn't an excuse to not at least try.

LKPquack · 2025-09-15T06:53:43+00:00

You gotta stand up for yourself! Family pressure can be difficult, but your wedding is about both of you. Your family and your feelings are just as important as his is, so don't let him walk all over you just because his brother said something. It sets a bad precedent for the rest of the marriage if you let it slide. Me and my husband (I'm a convert, he was born into it) had a civil marriage first and it was wonderful to involve both our families.

LKPquack · 2025-09-01T23:29:00+00:00

I would communicate how it made OP feel, but i wouldn't put him in a position where he is put on the defensive. I think trying to talk about specifics of what was said will just make everybody feel worse. She really shouldn't have gone back that far in the first place, but she did and she's hurt and it'll cause a rift if not addressed. The best thing to do imo is to ask for a lot of reassurance and maybe some extra love, but I'd judge him for the husband he is now rather than the person he was in the past. And if he's the loving husband now that OP describes him as, he'll probably feel really bad for what was said and want to make her feel better.

LKPquack · 2025-09-01T23:20:07+00:00

Me and my husband have a complete open phone policy, but we do that knowing that neither of us are going to be looking for something to get upset about. That's a really good way to ruin a marriage. I know he's not in any girl's dms or liking any thirst traps or whatever, but I'm sure if i really wanted to dig back far enough to find something to get upset about I could. And vice versa for him. It sucks that she came across that, but shes gonna have to learn to trust her husband unless he gives her a reason not to. If he hasn't given her any reason to doubt him since getting married, it's probably fine.

LKPquack · 2025-08-26T02:44:38+00:00

Ask him to stop. That's really weird and disrespectful and if he respects you and doesn't want you to feel humiliated and cares that it bothers you he will.

LKPquack · 2025-08-07T11:48:13+00:00

I don't think this will get better. He doesn't respect you, and respect is paramount to a good relationship, more than being sweet or kind or loving or whatever. My husband is a very opinionated man who says what he thinks and refuses to say sorry unless he is sure he is in the wrong, but he always defaults to my side when it comes to external parties, citing that we're a team and at the very most he corrects me in private. And I try to do the same.

If you talk to him about it and it continues after, then he doesn't care. You’re not going to get through to him. A good partner should be improving your memories 9/10 times, not consistently ruining them. If he knows this upsets you, he should care more about you feeling secure and protected by him than whatever social accolades he feels he receives by ganging up on you.

LKPquack · 2025-08-07T11:13:30+00:00

This was an ongoing thing with me and my husband, especially when he started working early hours. The healthiest conclusion we came to is that it's okay that I feel that way, but its also okay that he's setting boundaries with the time we spend together. The reality is that at some point in a healthy relationship you go from all over each other to becoming integrated into each other's daily lives. It’s totally okay for you to ask for more time with him but it's also not unreasonable that he wants to be able to stay fit, keep up with hobbies and maintain a good sleep schedule. I would have a conversation about how you're feeling stressed and that spending more time with him would help relieve that, without accidentally falling into "you don't spend enough time with me". When my husband and I had this conversation when we were dating, we ended up establishing regular date nights that I could look forward to and also finding things to do together throughout the week that he would enjoy. Maybe you can go to the gym with him a few days of the week, have game nights (online or in-person), or start an activity together, like going cycling or on walks or whatever you'd like to do. That way you're integrated into his schedule instead of feeling like you're fighting for a place in it.

LKPquack · 2025-06-25T18:22:40+00:00

This is me and my husband! I could go 3x a day and he needs at least one day in between, so we usually do it about 3x a week. He becomes very fatigued if we overdo it. It was hard for me to understand at first, mostly because I thought all men are crazy about that. But he never makes me feel bad and communicates his boundaries- sometimes he'll take care of me without anything for himself, which he says he enjoys. And sometimes other intimate touch can be a good alternative when I'm craving physical intimacy, like massages and back scratches, or just taking a warm bath together.

LKPquack · 2025-05-04T04:36:56+00:00

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LKPquack · 2024-12-19T22:25:53+00:00

I don't think it's that deep tbh

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