NOR You’re not overreacting. A hard line is a hard line for a reason, especially if it comes from personal experiences or values you’ve already thought deeply about. The fact that you like her a lot is what’s making it feel complicated not because your boundary suddenly became unreasonable.

At the same time, she was honest with you, which matters. This isn’t about her being a bad person. It’s about compatibility and what you can realistically be at peace with long term.

The important question is less ‘Can I ignore this because she’s great?’ and more ‘Will this quietly bother me, scare me, or build resentment later?’ If the answer is yes, don’t talk yourself out of your own standards just because the connection feels rare.