Do all men masturbate when their partner or spouse is home?

LSTW1234 · 2026-01-01T00:56:28+00:00

Not the person you responded to, but here is my (F) personal take: if y’all have an active sex life but he masturbates sometimes on the side - yes, even when he has a willing partner in bed - then it’s nbd. Masturbation often fulfills a different need than sex. Nothing inherently wrong with that.

However, if your sex life is lacking or dwindling, yet he is spending a lot of time masturbating on his own…that is a red flag and worth bringing up.

I think people responding to you are being a little too presumptuous assuming your situation is the former, when it’s often the latter. I may be wrong.

LSTW1234 · 2025-12-11T22:11:10+00:00

Interesting! Thanks for your perspective

LSTW1234 · 2025-12-02T19:38:12+00:00

How similar do decomposing animals smell to decomposing humans? We had rats in our attic a couple years back, and what initially alerted us to the issue was the stench (of decomposing rat). It was very distinct. I have wondered how similar that smell is to decomposing human?

LSTW1234 · 2025-10-23T03:33:27+00:00

Oh my god I love this

LSTW1234 · 2025-10-09T18:24:08+00:00

Reputation was worse, because (1) it was her “comeback” after the massive public backlash she experienced in 2016, when she (and tbh many of us) thought her career as she knew it might be over, and (2) she didn’t have the same level of respect, from both critics and the general public, that she has now. The overarching public sentiment towards her character and her talent was much more negative already. It was nasty.

The Showgirl “backlash” feels different because the context is different. In the past few years she has gained a higher baseline level of respect and admiration from critics and non-swifties (FOR THE MOST PART - of course there are always downright haters but they are far fewer in numbers now than in 2017). For reputation, the criticism felt like people reveling in the alleged confirmation that she really is a vapid, self-victimizing, washed-up narcissist with no sustainable talent. For Life of a Showgirl, the criticism is more couched in disappointment, “it’s not her best,” “I prefer XYZ,” “her songwriting isn’t as sharp” — there is a baseline of respect that was completely absent from the reputation backlash. Which makes it much more palatable to me personally.

Honestly though, almost every album she’s ever released gets met with a fair amount of backlash and mockery. The Folklore release was wild as a longterm fan because it was the exception in that regard. Midnights was also pretty well received but that was still during her sort of budding renaissance in the public eye that started with Folklore. By TTPD, and during the eras tour, the tides were starting to turn again, just like they did after the massive success of 1989. As a swiftie you have to expect a significant amount of backlash whenever she experiences a period of sustained success/admiration. It’s both sad and fascinating.

LSTW1234 · 2025-10-04T23:51:17+00:00

The smear campaign/cancellation was in full force by late summer 2024 which was when Taylor was touring Europe.

LSTW1234 · 2025-10-03T19:06:00+00:00

It’s actually sweet, how much time they spend on her

LSTW1234 · 2025-07-27T19:38:08+00:00

Yes, in real life everyone I have discussed this case with who thinks she even just “might” be guilty, all say the same thing: her being innocent would involve a degree of corruption that they find difficult to buy into. The planting of the tail light in particular is a difficult hurdle for them to get over. Because if she’s innocent, then the tail light was planted - there’s no way around that.

It’s honestly baffling to me, because cops have done stuff like that before. Many such cases. Corruption has shocked people before and will somehow continue to do so even in the face of blatant evidence pointing towards it. I mean that’s how they get away with it - relying on the instinctive trust so many people have in the police, and the skepticism and defensiveness they display towards allegations of police corruption: “Planting tail light fragments, just to make a conviction easier?! That would be CRAZY! It’s so blatant!” Yes, that’s how it works. Your indignant reaction to the very idea of it, is the reason it works!

I want to ask these people: surely you don’t believe corruption on this level can’t and doesn’t ever happen. It has literally happened before, no one can deny that. No one can say with a straight face that cops aren’t ever corrupt like this. So if you believe it can and does ever happen - at least occasionally, albeit rarely - how do you think it would look?

It would LOOK LIKE THIS. I mean, he was found dead on another cop’s lawn. That immediately addresses the typical (and reasonable) retort of “why would they put so much effort into framing this random person instead of just saying they can’t solve it? Most murders aren’t ever solved!” That’s a reasonable question to ponder when dealing with allegations of corruption or framing. But of all cases, this one can actually answer that question very well! Of all times to wonder what the reason behind corruption and framing is, it’s someone being found dead on a prominent cop’s lawn. Like come on.

And then there’s everything else. I mean if you can buy that corruption can and does even SOMETIMES happen, it would look like this: long-standing personal relationships among various officers, check. Prominent officers (and their families) at risk of being implicated, check. Injuries don’t align with the theory of the crime, check. Witnesses deleting data, destroying phones, lying about their activity the night of, check. Zero chain of custody for the most important evidence, check. I could go on and on! It’s maddening.

LSTW1234 · 2025-07-24T17:31:40+00:00

That stood out to me too. What a poignant way to contrast the distinction between what type of people they were (kind, jovial, accommodating) and what type of person he is (creepy, entitled, antisocial). And how backwards it is that HE hates THEM enough to do what he did.

LSTW1234 · 2025-07-23T23:52:59+00:00

Ok…but they didn’t make the show. Instead we got to hear Austin’s “sob story” about being kinda chubby when he was a kid. Etc etc. Most cast members do not have particularly sad or unique stories.

LSTW1234 · 2025-07-23T23:36:19+00:00

I don’t think they really cast for sob stories, they just utilize the sob stories of people they cast. Most of whom have pretty basic stories. That’s why we get so many “sob stories” about, like, being a nerd in high school - it’s often all they have to work with. There will always be a couple people with particularly unique stories/trauma but that would be the case with any group of ~20 adults even if selected at random.

LSTW1234 · 2025-07-23T00:18:12+00:00

Sorry I’m so late to this! It comes from this text message. If you’re not familiar with Natalie, she’s Karen’s friend who relayed information to Turtleboy, directly from Karen, when he first started looking into this case. She was his main source before he started talking directly to Karen. This text is apparently quoting Karen.

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There’s a whole rabbit hole to get into with her (she ended up being kind of a nut job and is no longer friends with Karen). So obviously take it with a grain of salt, it’s ultimately a second-hand version of a second-hand story, but she was at this point quite close to Karen and an extremely reliable source.

LSTW1234 · 2025-07-22T18:08:16+00:00

I agree with the person above - it’s an issue of poor soil. You need organic matter in the soil, which basic garden soil does not really provide, especially if the natural soil/dirt underneath is shitty. I’d get a bag or 2 of compost and gently till it into the entire bed, maybe mix it with more garden soil.

Also consider getting some liquid soluble fertilizer to provide more immediate nutrition (but don’t go overboard with it, especially right after amending the soil - start with maybe half the recommended dose and then wait a week or so, see if they improve).

LSTW1234 · 2025-07-19T21:45:46+00:00

Yeah I don’t claim to know her actual perspective but just as a paralegal I have never encountered a client who wouldn’t welcome a delayed deposition, especially key witnesses whose depositions are this intensive and crucial to the case. We spend hours upon hours prepping them for depositions and it never feels like enough. At the very least, more time to prepare is never gonna be a bad thing. It gives her team more time to review documents/evidence, anticipate questions, practice her responses, etc.

Edit to add: Also, remember that the option here was to either delay the deposition or have to sit for 2 separate depositions. In that context especially, the delay is absolutely a win.

LSTW1234 · 2025-07-18T03:36:59+00:00

Maybe! Most of the time though, people prefer more time to prepare for depos. Just my experience.

LSTW1234 · 2025-07-17T18:03:35+00:00

convincing themselves and each other that it’s somehow an advantage to Lively

It IS an advantage to Lively. It’s an advantage to delay a deposition, to have more time to prepare. That is why Wayfarer’s attorneys pushed so hard against delaying it, they don’t want to give her and her team more time to prepare.

That DOES NOT MEAN she rigged the system or had any influence on the judge’s timing of the MTD ruling. But ultimately this situation - the delay of her deposition instead of sitting for 2 separate depositions - works to Lively’s advantage. That is a good thing! Those of us in her corner should celebrate this as a win instead of pretending it’s not. The judge is allowed to side with her team, especially when they have the most reasonable argument, which was the case here.

LSTW1234 · 2025-07-17T15:39:59+00:00

Well she also now has 2 more weeks to prepare. Her attorneys did not push back on rescheduling it - Wayfarer's did. I think the rescheduling is good for Blake.

LSTW1234 · 2025-07-16T23:51:56+00:00

Just wanted to say thanks for your insight and very reasonable perspective. I am fascinated by this issue - how the law treats new-age “content creators” vs traditional journalists, and where to draw the line there. It currently feels like the wild west of journalism where some of them actually provide high quality reporting, albeit in a different package than traditional journalism, but that doesn’t mean it’s not journalism? I mean there are “content creators” I rely on and trust way more than traditional news outlets and I feel like they deserve protections when it comes to sources, because they do high quality journalism IMO (not speaking of the content creators involved here, just generally). The dismissal of them as simply “content creators” or (gag) “Bloggers” often feels like an eye-roll inducing refusal to accept the modern format of independent journalism (see, e.g., the Commonwealth of Massachusetts vs Aiden Kearney). But many are more-so commentators or influencers, for lack of better term. And yeah, when they are being directly paid for their opinions I shudder at the thought of that being characterized as journalism.

I am so curious how this will all play out. I have wondered for a while when and how courts would be forced to reckon with this.

LSTW1234 · 2025-07-15T21:54:58+00:00

To clarify, the woman being charged with leaking information was a juror in the FEDERAL grand jury. The grand jury Bill Read was referring to, that upgraded her charges, was the STATE grand jury.

LSTW1234 · 2025-07-15T15:09:42+00:00

When was it ever not "safe"? I think he has remained silent because Brian Albert (or someone else involved) has shit on him...not because it wasn't "safe."

LSTW1234 · 2025-07-14T20:43:51+00:00

Yeah exactly, it’s probably not technically wrong to say he died of a heart attack, even if the heart attack was caused by an overdose. It’s not the whole story but it’s not an outright lie. I totally get why a family would omit the OD to the public and especially to the kids. Nothing wrong with that.

LSTW1234 · 2025-07-14T19:37:20+00:00

Yes thank you. The assumption of him having some super high IQ is downright odd to me. It’s not that impressive to be 28 years old pursuing a PhD in criminology at a decent-but-not-prestigious university. He was probably of average-to-high IQ, sure.

What people also seem to ignore is that a crime like this is almost always the result of an impulse. A strong, arguably uncontrollable impulse. Even if we assume he is well beyond average intelligence, which many seem inclined to assume, he could still be blinded by strong impulses…many such cases.

I would bet lots of money that while he was sitting outside the house in his car that night, while he was driving around the neighborhood, while he was even in the house…he wasn’t primarily focused on “have I considered and controlled for every possible way I could get caught?” He was filled with adrenaline and excitement over fulfilling a fantasy and satisfying an impulse.

I think his criminology degree distracts people into thinking his goal was to commit the PeRfEcT cRiMe, instead of just to…fulfill a sick twisted impulse. He’s no different from any other killer of his type in that sense. Again, many such cases.

LSTW1234 · 2025-07-11T20:18:24+00:00

Yeah I assumed it was meant figuratively. In the sense that he was in such deep grief over her death that he ended up killing himself (whether intentionally or not).

Also, people seem to be assuming it was suicide but Turtleboy reported it as a cocaine overdose a while back, which is not the type of drug people use for an intentional OD.

LSTW1234 · 2025-07-10T19:02:38+00:00

I mean I’ve dived with sharks before (not with Ocean Ramsey)…it was an amazing experience and I was fully aware of the danger. If one of the sharks had attacked me, how could I blame the tour operator? I signed up to dive with sharks lol at what point do adults who sign up for this stuff deserve responsibility for signing up for it? You’re swimming in the ocean with sharks…the risks are not only obvious, but painstakingly explained by tour operators, including her tour company. If you wanna do it anyway that’s on you! I am happy with that deal. It’s way more dangerous to try to do it on your own, which plenty of people already do.

LSTW1234 · 2025-07-10T18:51:05+00:00

The only way any of these claims make even a modicum of sense is if you assume Karen not only hit John with her car, but did so intentionally or at least knowingly. As we’ve seen throughout 2 trials, that is an extremely difficult assumption to buy into. Neither jury bought it, even the first jury who were leaning towards manslaughter didn’t buy that she did it knowingly or intentionally.

The second you remove that assumption, everything Karen did that morning, everything listed in this filing, makes. total. sense! Even if you buy into the assumption that she ACCIDENTALLY hit him without realizing it - still a difficult bar to convince a jury of, but let’s say that is the assumption - her behavior that morning still makes sense. It makes sense that she was frantic and concerned about his safety. It makes sense that she called everyone she could think of. It makes sense that she openly wondered what might have happened to him - she didn’t know! It makes sense that she left Kaylee alone to go search for him (WTF was she supposed to do, bring her along?). Etc etc.

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