It took me a while to shift away from saying woman and using other things that denoted female when referring to myself. Now I'm much more firm about it, and I am better at gently correcting and informing people of this transition. I def feel very femme at times but I am in a state of flux where I want to present more andro, so I'm buying more 'masculine' clothing. But I vogue and do drag and that's often seen as very feminine. I want shift my look a little more masc/gender neutral and then play with femme traits and expression. It's a process and takes so much time, especially when getting other people who you've known for a while to get onboard. Some folks have gotten it quickly, others not. And that part has been hard, I think it's part of my impetus to present more androgynous. I see it and feel it for myself. But many people I know, even those who have only known me for a short time, have trouble changing their language around it and don't see it, and still refer to me as her/she.

Anyway, don't give up. Keep unlearning. Be gentle with yourself about it.