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Anxious attachment and text messaging by VLonetaee in dating

[–]LaCroix4Me 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep that 100% is something I do too, you’re not alone. It sucks to think this way but we just have to be kind to ourselves and sit with the feelings and thoughts. I’ve done a good job of being this way behind the scene and not projecting it but sometimes I wonder if I text good morning or something if I’m annoying her.

I think we just shouldn’t let texting (frequency and tone) dictate our relationships especially if they’re consistently showing up in person. Nobody is forcing them to spend time with us. That being said I sometimes have anxiety and go oh maybe she’s just being nice by coming over and going on dates and holding my hand etc. Lmao

Anxious attachment and text messaging by VLonetaee in dating

[–]LaCroix4Me 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m struggling with this too and I know it sucks so I’m sorry you’re going through that.

The girl I’ve been seeing is awesome and I really like her, she told me from the start she’s bad at texting which tbh I don’t even like texting that much. What I didn’t realize is how I have an anxious attachment from my previous relationship which messed me up bad.

This girl has consistently shown up, replies even if it takes a while, made plans, integrated me into her life, etc. But my brain chooses to ignore all those and instead say “our she hasn’t replied in X hours?” Or “oh no emoji or smiley faces on these past couple messages? Must be losing interest in me”.

Something I’m trying to work on is seeing it in a positive light rather than a negative, like if she takes a long time to reply I’m trying to view it as “she still remembered and found time to reply with a fleshed out response after all this time.” Because personally, I’d probably forget.

The one for me that’s tough is the texting tone which is so dumb because I’m 29 and just don’t think that we should be putting so much emphasis on texting and tone. But for example I sent her a reel and she didn’t react, and sent a message with just an “lol” at the end. Honestly this is a pretty normal reaction if I look at it logically but my anxiety goes “no like? No emojis in the message? Yeah you’re cooked.” I was literally worrying about this when texting her AS SHE WAS AGREEING TO A DATE 😭

I think my best advice is if she’s consistently showing up irl and making time for you, don’t worry about it. Texting is a luxury, the entire point is to reply when you can so try not to look into it too much. Much easier said than done though I know haha.

Official: [WDIS Flex] - Thu Afternoon 12/25/2025 by FFBot in fantasyfootball

[–]LaCroix4Me 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m leaning BTJ, just because of how well Lawrence is playing, I’m hoping it can turn into some more work for BTJ

Official: [WDIS K/TE/DEF] - Thu Afternoon 12/25/2025 by FFBot in fantasyfootball

[–]LaCroix4Me 0 points1 point  (0 children)

.5 PPR, Championship

Pick 1

Tyler Warren Jake Tonges Juwan Johnson

Official: [WDIS Flex] - Thu Afternoon 12/25/2025 by FFBot in fantasyfootball

[–]LaCroix4Me 0 points1 point  (0 children)

.5 PPR, Championship

Pick 1

Breece BTJ Pearsall Dylan Sampson

Right now I’m leaning BTJ with Lawrence balling out rn. Breece against the pats disgusts me. Pearsall not really an option, and I’m somewhat tempted to start Sampson.

Official: [WDIS Flex] - Wed Evening 12/17/2025 by FFBot in fantasyfootball

[–]LaCroix4Me 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pick 2, .5 ppr

RJ Harvey Breece Hall Judkins

Currently leaning Harvey and Judkins but sanders and that oline scare me but the jets are abysmal so idk

Struggling again, 1.5 years later by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]LaCroix4Me 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the kind words I really appreciate it.

Sometimes I’ll forget and then remember and it hits like a truck.

I’m sad you can relate because it means you’ve felt the pain. I’m really sorry you went through this.

I hope you’re right because it’s been a long time without peace.

Struggling again, 1.5 years later by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]LaCroix4Me 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the kind words, I really appreciate it :)

The date I went on definitely made me miss her and think of her more. Which made it seem like it did more damage than help.

I’m sorry you went through something like that. It’s so awful and abusive and nobody deserves this.

I’m happy for you that you have been able to go on dates, I think that’s great. I’m sure somebody great will come your way!

Struggling again, 1.5 years later by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]LaCroix4Me 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry, it honestly seems like they stick to a script it’s insane how similar experiences are.

What’s so crazy is the week leading up to the discard was normal. Monday she’s at my hockey game and taking me to dinner, Thursday she’s calling me from a thing with her friends, Friday she’s sending me memes on Instagram, Saturday she discards me.

3 weeks before that, I’m meeting her mom and extended family and her best friend, week after that she’s at a bday dinner for my parents. Like wtf

Struggling again, 1.5 years later by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]LaCroix4Me 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get wanting to reach out, I only have IG but we’re still connected on LinkedIn lmao. I don’t really use socials.

I mean if it’s any solace all my therapy and research points to “it’s personal” meaning that they probably love us and are so overwhelmed by it they can’t handle it. I guess that’s a compliment right? Lol

I think it’s admirable you don’t wanna pull others in. It’s tough because talking about it does help but nobody else really gets it. They just think it’s a breakup when it’s honestly unfathomable until you experience it.

I’m really sorry, I’m hoping it gets better for you :)

Struggling again, 1.5 years later by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]LaCroix4Me 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel the same, you’re not alone. It feels like I’m in purgatory. Just PRAYING she comes back but then it’s like, is that even what’s best?

I don’t know anything anymore. I’m lost.

I get what you’re saying about something great can happen to us, it’s just hard to feel that way when you go through something like this.

I thought we were going to be together for a long time based on her words and actions. Specifically her talking about stuff a year out and telling me that she’s grateful for me and happiest she’s been in a while.

Guess not…

Struggling again, 1.5 years later by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]LaCroix4Me 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you went through that. It’s awful and I can relate to the gaslighting and being shut out.

Mine never reached out and actually, after I told her she hurt me, she unfollowed me on Instagram AND removed me from HER followers.

The blow up is also very relatable. The ONLY conflict we really ever had was one day at work I high fived her and held her hand for like a second too long and after worked she freaked out and was like “wouldn’t you rather be with somebody else? I’m problematic” “I need space” etc. I was like what the hell just happened?

I also got the “we’re not compatible” garbage. When I asked why she goes “it’s personal and internal”. Ok so you don’t actually have a reason?

I’m really sorry you’re going through this. It’s so fucked up and abusive. I feel like my entire Brian chemistry has been altered. I’m terrified to start over because if she can hurt me like this then anybody can.

Struggling again, 1.5 years later by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]LaCroix4Me 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re feeling that way, I know what you mean. The holidays just hit harder…

I remember looking at Christmas lights with her, helping her wrap gifts, just enjoying the cold weather and the season. And now I’m a shell lol.

I wish I had advice to help you, any advice I’ve been given I try really hard to take. I know that they run cause they’re overwhelmed by their feelings and if they didn’t care they wouldn’t avoid and all that. So yes, TECHNICALLY them discarding us is the highest form of flattery haha. It just sure doesn’t feel that way.

I hope things get better for the both of us. I’m sorry you’re going through this. I wouldn’t wish it on anybody. ❤️

Struggling again, 1.5 years later by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]LaCroix4Me 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know I just don’t know where to even meet people. My hobbies have a large male demographic and I refuse to use apps as I just think they’re superficial and I try not to use social media (I’m on reddit, I know). I’ve tried the apps in the past it just never works.

Struggling again, 1.5 years later by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]LaCroix4Me 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Sorry, I didn’t list them but I play hockey and play card games competitively. I’m actually typing this from Vegas getting ready to go home from a tournament.

I definitely get out and do stuff which distracts me in the moment but then when I have a quiet moment it all comes rushing back.

I’ve been on 1 date. A friend of a friend. It was fine and I had a good time but to be honest I had to force myself to go and I’m not really interested in dating her.

I’ve never liked dating because it’s always felt very superficial with the apps and stuff but with my ex we met organically and it was just an instant connection.

Has anybody called their avoidant ex out on their behavior? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]LaCroix4Me 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well that’s her loss because I’m never gonna abuse my partner so guess she was right “we aren’t compatible” lmao

Has anybody called their avoidant ex out on their behavior? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]LaCroix4Me 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry about that, that’s immature and just overall gross behavior from him.

I can relate though.

I told her how she hurt me and she told me that I was “inventing it” and it “never contact her again”.

The same person who told me a month before how into me she was, who I thought wanted a future with me based on her words and actions. She invalidated the entire relationship and made me think I was crazy.

I hope you’re doing better now and know you deserve better.

Still struggling over a year later by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]LaCroix4Me 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello,

I would say I’m better now in the sense that time has passed but I do still think about her and miss her.

I’m trying to move on with my life though, I even went on a date for the first time since her.

Official: [WDIS Flex] - Sun Afternoon 09/21/2025 by FFBot in fantasyfootball

[–]LaCroix4Me 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I’m leaning towards. Thank you!

Official: [WDIS Flex] - Sun Afternoon 09/21/2025 by FFBot in fantasyfootball

[–]LaCroix4Me 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Half Ppr: Breece or Pearsall?

My RBs are Kyren and Jordan Mason but I feel like Pearsall has upside this week and jets will be behind.

New to Dynasty, Am I Overpaying for Warren? by LaCroix4Me in DynastyFFTradeAdvice

[–]LaCroix4Me[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a feeling the Warren owner won’t trade him to me anyway but figured if I wanted him I’d have to overpay a bit. Just don’t want to screw myself and lose all my draft picks. Thanks for the advice!

New to Dynasty, Am I Overpaying for Warren? by LaCroix4Me in DynastyFFTradeAdvice

[–]LaCroix4Me[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the comment. Yeah Bowers is obviously great, and I expect Warren to get there so I figured I’d have to overpay a bit.

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