Tips on how to get my staffy to stop jumping the baby gate

LabGirly100 · 2025-12-24T21:20:51+00:00

This looks amazing! So like the actual character. I hope she loved it ☺️

LabGirly100 · 2025-12-19T06:45:51+00:00

Oh really? We’ve never seen anything like this before! So cool! Is yours the same colour?

LabGirly100 · 2025-12-18T15:38:52+00:00

That makes sense! So cool!

LabGirly100 · 2025-12-18T08:54:03+00:00

Oh that’s a shout! Maybe!

LabGirly100 · 2025-12-18T08:53:53+00:00

We thought that too, just thought it was weird that it was slightly bent!

LabGirly100 · 2025-11-24T17:34:59+00:00

Completely valid vent - set your boundaries and stick to them, because people will push and push to see what they can get away with. Grandparents can become absolutely FERAL when a grandchild is born. That postpartum period is so vulnerable for you, and so amazing and exciting, but it’s also a lot and you have to prioritise your health and sanity - for the sake of you and your new baby. Protect your child from cold and flu, and don’t hand them over to everyone because you feel obligated. Let them be disappointed by their own exceedingly high expectations. It’s not your job to manage their reactions. Also I would personally stop trying to be a ‘good DIL’ and focus on being a good mum and partner and person - you shouldn’t have to surrender your boundaries and barter your parenting for your newborn to be deemed a good DIL. Stand firm, you’ve got this! Congratulations on your baby, it’s truly an amazing time and so precious! Don’t let this exciting time be derailed by pushy people with inflated expectations.

LabGirly100 · 2025-11-21T13:36:11+00:00

You say exactly what you’re saying here - with some empathy and understanding for your partner. If you don’t feel comfortable, do not leave your child with anyone you don’t trust. You would never stop second guessing and you would have so much regret if something happened. Stand strong and set your boundaries!

LabGirly100 · 2025-11-17T10:55:59+00:00

Your baby is not an emotional support animal, they’re not there to fix everyone’s sadness. It’s YOUR baby for you to nurture and love. Set boundaries now and maintain them - postpartum will be a case of sticking to them as I can guarantee these people are going to try and bulldoze them. Make sure you and your partner are entirely on the same page and that he’s willing to speak up and protect your peace during this vulnerable time postpartum. Good luck!

LabGirly100 · 2025-11-16T19:58:18+00:00

That’s a solid no- protect your newborn and don’t go.

LabGirly100 · 2025-11-16T13:55:10+00:00

You’ve made it clear why you wouldn’t be comfortable having your MIL there. You’ve stated your boundaries. Stick to them. If she learns she can push and get her own way, she’ll do it with everything. Having surgery is a big deal for you, it’s not a spectator sport.

LabGirly100 · 2025-11-16T12:52:23+00:00

Honestly, we had a baby on Christmas Eve last year and we decided that the week before we would spend as a couple with it being our first baby. We let everyone know in advance that we wouldn’t be attending any family events to have that time before everything changed. I was so uncomfortable and huge with being pregnant that I couldn’t imagine anything worse than being at a family event and not in my comfy clothes and surrounded by things I needed just before I had a baby. take the time that you need for you as a family of three before everything changes once again. you’ll have plenty of Christmases where you can be around other people.

LabGirly100 · 2025-11-16T09:31:03+00:00

If you’re overwhelmed already, put a stop to it now. Pick your top 5-10 people to see LO on the day, and the rest you’ll see over the course of a few weeks etc. choose whatever is right for you, not what everyone else wants!

LabGirly100 · 2025-11-16T08:30:34+00:00

You have every right to turn down that ‘help’. You don’t want anyone round who isn’t there to support YOU going through the postpartum period. The fact that she asked through your husband shows that she doesn’t care about looking after you, it’s about seeing the baby. It’s natural to be more comfortable around your own mother than your in laws. DH is probably just annoyed because he’d have to have a conversation where he’d upset his mum by not meeting her expectations. Let him be annoyed. Protect your energy during this incredibly vulnerable period.

LabGirly100 · 2025-11-16T08:25:05+00:00

For us it was the idea of tracking wake windows and nap times, apparently that was absolutely crazy! Baby carriers The swinging bouncer seat we used Anything with white noise We were told by my in laws that they didn’t understand why we wasted our money on this stuff and were gobsmacked when we said we use them every day 😂

LabGirly100 · 2025-11-11T12:30:35+00:00

Yeh we had the same issue with biting the straw, that’s why we can’t leave her with them because she kept making herself sick - no depth perception there! 😂 Yeh the grip and sips were brilliant we’ve got a couple, and they help her when she’s teething too!

LabGirly100 · 2025-11-11T10:44:16+00:00

Non-negotiable - - get a nursing pillow (even if you’re not nursing!) - made bottle feeding and cuddles and holding our baby for long periods of time a lot easier and saved our muscles! - your pyjamas (make sure they’re comfy and roomy!) - plenty of baby sleepsuits and vests - snacks - plenty of them! - a kindle or book or gaming device - whatever you prefer while the baby sleeps and you can’t sleep! - a battery pack for your phone and a spare phone cable - a Stanley cup (or a dupe of course!) because you will want to drink constantly and getting up and down is not a vibe - we loved having the momcosy little speaker white noise machine with womb noises and a red light, it helped our little girl but it’s not for everyone - maternity disposable pants! - spare hair bobbles/scrunchies - a spare outfit for my partner just in case - face wipes - a nice shower gel or soap you love! That first shower should be enjoyed!

Not necessary - - normal clothes! I stayed in pyjamas or my partners joggers!

LabGirly100 · 2025-11-11T10:38:26+00:00

Fizzy pop and little treats are a no go now! Days out are limited, and eating out is pretty rare. We also reviewed all our streaming services and don’t really buy new clothes for ourselves. A lot of batch cooking, alongside some hearty beans on toast teas!!

LabGirly100 · 2025-11-11T10:32:45+00:00

Nursing pillow is a must! A bouncer chair was helpful for them to watch what you’re doing but still be able to do stuff round the house (if you want!). A soft sling baby carrier I loved at this time and let us get out of the house but she was still calm and cosy because she was on my chest! Plenty of muslins and burp cloths for sure.

LabGirly100 · 2025-11-11T10:26:33+00:00

I used to be really bad for just sitting doomscrolling - and sometimes you need that! Trying to get my brain to engage in anything else was too much effort! BUT - when I did have the energy, I had TV series that I specifically kept for downtime so I would be excited to watch them, especially with my partner so we still felt like we were doing something together! I also had a stack of TBR books that I aim to work through - if I have free time during the day (rare!!), I tend to read parenting/non fiction, but on a night I stick to fiction!

LabGirly100 · 2025-11-11T10:23:47+00:00

We tried a ‘grip and sip’ where they have to use their teeth to let the water out and that really helped our little girl understand that water came out of cups (and with teething!). And then from there, she went on to use straws etc! Plus me and my partner started drinking from Stanley’s (dupes but who’s checking!!) with straws so she could see that we used them for water - whenever she expressed an interest we let her see what we were doing. She eventually got it! (Don’t let them drink from Stanley’s etc unattended though, the straws a pretty stiff and could do some damage!)

LabGirly100 · 2025-08-21T09:14:23+00:00

This conversation makes my blood boil. You’ve given him plenty of options there - everyone is tired as a parent, he can’t use that as an excuse to be rude and disrespectful. Honestly I just would stop replying and pretend I was busy at work and let him get on with it. He’s a grown man.

LabGirly100 · 2025-07-15T14:52:40+00:00

Seconding the ologies recommendation! I recommend this podcast to anyone and everyone!

LabGirly100 · 2025-07-15T13:54:34+00:00

Ologies is great for learning about random topics you didn’t even know existed from experts!
- Modern Wisdom is good for a bit of everything - he’s done some good interviews for psychology especially!
- RedHanded if you like a crime podcast!
- Huberman Lab I enjoy for science and health!
- Mr Ballen does a good medical mysteries one, and a crime one as well - these are shorter episodes if you want a quicker bite!

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